@MADNESS4
For what it is worth (I don't have much of a post count or stay duration, so for the people telling you to change your attitude I imagine that would be 'not much') I don't think you were aggressive or insulting to anyone. Gxas made 2 points in his original reply to you, the second of which he repeated three times in marginally changed guises. The second one I think (and Trey and Matt seem to agree in interviews) he's absolutely wrong about. The first one I agree with everything he says, though note that they didn't need Hayes as either Vader Chef or in his return ep. Your quote back pointed out something you don't agree with, albeit in a sarcastic manner. Then he quoted you back with a condescending and pointless attitude. Perhaps a high post count brings with it priviliges to belittle people by asking them questions like 'is that all you took from my comments?' and not add anything else, or perhaps that isn't considered rude here, but I would find that rude in real life. Seems quite a lot of other posters also took that from what Gxas said. Then we come to the post where Gxas claims there ha been some kind of insult to him! Gxas, please explain to me why someone telling you that you are wrong about a cartoon on TV is an
insult and not merely a disagreement. Is this one of the unwritten forum rules? Users can't tell other users that they are wrong? I really don't mean to flame you, but that post is a massive over-reaction and of the two of you at that point, I think you're the one that looks bad, not Madness.
Then it gets worse, Madness reasonably explains that he wasn't insulting, and that he doesn't respect Gxas because Gxas has not given him reason to. It's a position you don't have to agree with, but one that is perfectly understandable. So what's the response to this? "I have to earn your respect? I don't want it". Petulant and rude in my book. Respect is there to be earned, and perhaps Gxas would do better not to act as if he has some entitlement here. Not to mention that his method of 'debating' consists of setting homework as if he is a tutor to a pupil rather than talking amongst equals. There's no respect being shown either way in that discussion.
Then we have the mother of all hypocritical posts:
Gxas said:
Respect has absolutely nothing to do with this. Grow a pair and acknowledge my arguments instead of covering your ears like a child.
EDIT:
Vanguard_Ex:[/quote said:
That's not really how respect works around here bud. You should respect other posters unless they give you a decent reason not to.
Thank you. I was hoping someone of merit would come and back me up. Could you hold his hands at his sides so he can't cover his ears please?
Wow. So on the one hand you quote Vanguard's reasonable comment about the default position here being everyone starts off deserving respect approvingly while on the other you belittle and invite someone you are discussin with to "grow a pair." Come on, you've got to see the tension in that. I in now way mean to criticise Vanguard in this, his posts are utterly reasonable.
So in summary, I think Gxas's sensitivity is what caused any problem here, and if anyone needs to "take anything to heart" it's Gxas. Please learn not to be offended just because someone disagrees with you. You have a right to have your opinion and defend it vigourously, but
it isn't an insult when someone else exercises that exact same right, regardless of how low their post count is.