RatherDull said:
Because people who can't afford to be depressed won't be depressed and will continue to press on. Like if they have to work several jobs to feed their family. Yet, teenagers who can afford to be lethargic are consistently saying they're depressed to excuse their laziness.
I'm sorry, but you're so wrong on this one I don't even know where to begin. One thing I will concede - having too much time on your hands is going to fuck up your mind (unless you're rich enough to be able to afford to be on a constant sensory overload binge, but that's going to just fuck you up in a different way). But a "lazy teenager making excuses that he's depressed" isn't the same as a person, who can be in their teens, 20s, 40s or 70s, who's dealing with depression.
Do you know how it feels when you know you did a perfect job, but the biting at the back of your skull keeps telling you "Not good enough!" Or how it feels when you're so exhausted (likely from that several jobs thing) that you can't enjoy even the things that you do enjoy? Or when you wake up tired? If not, consider yourself lucky.
If "lazy teenagers" are using depression as an excuse, that's not the fault of people who are actually suffering from a form of depression. I'm dealing with it myself often - and you don't get to play the "lazy teenager with too much time on his hands" card on me.
I've tried so much shit to "get over it" and "deal with it" that only made it worse, my mid-twenties were an absolute
disaster, so in the end I decided, fuck it, I might not be sunshine personified, but I don't have to be Mr. Doom&Gloom because of it. My (admittedly rather paltry) social circle understands I have my
really bad days, and there's a silent agreement that sometimes I simply slip off the radar. But; I'm just doing my damnest to not let it interfere with my life, and I'm doing it my own way, because in the end I'm the one who knows my mind best. I have an easier time talking honestly to people, and judging what might better be left unsaid.
Still, the tempo of my job is exhausting, draining, and serves to completely fuck up my sleeping pattern with the shifts I work, and the last few weeks has been extra intense, so being mentally tired from it kind of does bring it back now and then. In the end, I can say I've picked up my life a lot, even as much as I might complain, and it was damn hard work to climb out of the slump I was in, and I still fall into it now and then. It's not a matter of "getting over it". It's a matter of "learning to live with it".
Funny thing is, despite all that stress I allegedly still look younger than people my age. Who knows, maybe I'll age gracefully too. Or maybe I'm a black magic experiment who shall assume it true form at the stroke of midnight on some arbitrary date. *ahem* Sorry, got carried away by my good looks there.
The fact that this is describes a situation where he has a girlfriend and an entire circle of friends and is STILL depressed irritates me.
Sometimes I wish I had friends or a significant other. You don't see me getting all depressed about it.
See, that's the thing. You don't "get depressed". Depression isn't a "mood". It's a condition. Sure, it swings up and down, but even on "good" days, people with clinical depression aren't completely comfortable.
Again, one thing you got right is that if you just sit around, it's only going to get worse. But, having a mental condition that makes it harder for you to deal with life doesn't make you a "loser". It's easy to categorically dismiss people whose issues you do not understand as lesser beings. But weren't you just accusing
them of simply insisting on doing the easy thing and refusing to change stuff around?
Just don't make it sound like depression is something you can just snap your fingers at and it will be gone.