Stress

[Relish in Chaos]

Why is it that I'm stressed the fuck out?

OK, some background information. I'm 16, recently started doing my A-Levels. I have OCD and I overthink the heck out of even the smallest unimportant things.

I'm finding it so goddamn hard to keep up with everything nowadays. I'm a severe procrastinator, having barely finished a Sociology essay that we just got set a mere week after we came back from summer holidays, and I'm not even sure I did it right. Then there's some bullshit History homework about the 1905 revolution, which I'm sure we already pretty much covered in lessons, but it's damn hard to convert a bunch of sloppy fucking notes into tangible paragraphs. Then another essay, for Politics, which has to be meticulously set out in different sections with examples, analysis, blah de fucking blah.

And I've got to create a children's book that's due in one or two days, and I haven't even gotten the coloured materials to work on yet. I've got the story down, but I don't know what to get or how to put them together. And then there's all the other crap I've got going on, like...well, being completely fucking incompetent and impractical at 90% of the minutiae of things that I do, like choosing clothes, managing money, some interview concerning my bursary, an appointment with my doctor...

Jesus, I don't blame people for wanting to kill themselves. I fucking hate all of this, and I don't know how to get out of it because it's like everyone's expecting me to be some skill-master when I'm clearly not, and everyone's fucking moaning at me to do this and that and this and that, and it's like, "FUCK OFF! I don't need this! No-one ever gave me a fucking instructional manual to life, so why are you expecting me to? I hate you, I hate this bloody planet, I hate life, it's too hard, it's too motherfucking hard, why did my bloody ***** of a mother even give birth to me?"

So, rant over. Thoughts, opinions, help, advice, whatever.

 

[Suijen]

You have a lot on your plate. If you're not used to balancing all these things, then yeah, it's not surprising that you're stressed.

Have you considered creating a time schedule for everything? Maybe if you can break and frame everything down and focus on one item at a time, you'll feel less pressure.

 

[Relish in Chaos]

Right, thanks. I'd been thinking of making some kind of schedule, but I've done it once or twice before in the past and it never turns out the way I want it to, because something or another gets in the way. But I guess that's in the past for a reason, so things may've changed.

 

[Quaidis]

This is going to sound ape-shit insane, but you'd do well to turn off all electronics. Computer, television, game systems, the whole shabang.

Oh, you'll have pull to turn them back on again. This is called the first stage of boredom. Your OCD will kick you in the shins. You may want to eat at random, try not to.

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Now enjoy the silence and nature funs. Go for a good walk. Walking helps your brain work itself out. Sitting in one place thinking about things will only freak you out. Using the aforementioned electronics is part of a large procrastination excuse you're using to not do your work. Same with reading fantasy books or doing other mind-numbing 'fun' things. This is not the time to do that, this is the time to take that walk. And do any chores in your house if your home is reasonably dirty.

Got that detoxing out of your system? Good.

If not, go back out on another walk. Or do some situps.

Once you get back, close all curtains and sit at a table nowhere near distractions. If that's not possible, go to the library or a tree out back.

There are three choices from here:

1. Choose a topic at random to do.

2. Look at everything and choose something easy or moderate to start with. Once you finish that, switch to something hard, and work down from hard to easy.

3. Look at everything and sensibly choose what has to be done first to what doesn't. Do it in that order.


Once you actually sit there and apply yourself, it'll be much easier to do. The ultimate boredom you just faced earlier coupled with your OCD will literally direct you to systematically finish everything.

 

[Relish in Chaos]

OK, thanks for the advice, everyone. I will put it in action. Sorry about that rant. I was just severely annoyed at myself at that time.

 

[Relish in Chaos]

It's always good to vent though too. This forum is designed for posts like that. No need to apologize. I really hope it works out for you.

Cheers.