Study: Online Dating Leads to Stable Marriages

[Strazdas]

common hobbies, a talk (instead of a look) before any real life stuff happens, makes it easier to stort out undesited opponents.

 

[88chaz88]

My partner lied and told her parents that I used to live nearby and we went to school together when she was young, and that we kept in touch all that time and I was coming back for a visit. Somehow that made everything okay.

Luckily they never asked me about it while I was there that first time, because I couldn't have lied to them. Though on the second time I visited, when she'd been living with me for over two years, her father asked me about it and I immediately confessed she'd made it up. He freaked out and warned me never to tell her mother.

People are baffling, no?

Obviously their logic is beyond the comprehension of mere mortals as we.

Of course your tale happened ~14 years ago. I think people were even less rational in terms of accepting long distance relationships (because that's what they are, whether or not you originally met on the internet is irrelevant) back then.

 

[88chaz88]

common hobbies, a talk (instead of a look) before any real life stuff happens, makes it easier to stort out undesited opponents.

Let's also take into consideration that when the relationship becomes serious, it's likely to be long distance. I have it from personal experience that after being apart for so long and especially dealing with border agencies, marriage itself is a doddle.

 

[Big_Boss_Mantis]

Wait, what?

You are telling me that when two people meet in a medium that sorts them for their tastes, that is entirely based on communication, and that requires time investment with each other before any physycal interaction is possible tends to make stronger relationships than the relationships born from people meeting drunk on a noisy nightclub?

I'm shocked, I tell you. SHOCKED!!

(sarcasm over)

I have met my fiancée online. We lived in different states, a 7 hour drive. We live together now.
She read funny remarks I had made on a social network. That was 8 years ago. Time freaking flies...

I spent the whole day driving to meet her, but luckily her parents were divorced and her mother was (and still is) messed up, so she had no problem of letting her 17-year-old daughter in the car of a complete stranger from another state. (Damn, glad I met her before some psychopath did)

The second time I went there, I wrecked the car... Very far away from home.

We've had a crazy run in the start, but everything went OK!

And I'm lucky, 'cause she's totally the prettiest, hottest girl ever!

 

[AndyRock]

I funnily enough met my current girlfriend while extremely drunk in a club, I didn't think much of it at the time, but we started talking through text and facebook, and found out we had a lot in common. I asked her out after a week or so, and now we've just celebrated 1 month since our first date (it's been one hell of an awesome month).

 

[Charli]

I dunno about half of my WoW guild has hooked up. And 4 of them married.

One of the couples still leads the raids. And they're happily married 6 years now I believe.

I'm one of the odd ducks in the guild, everyone else has a girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband.


So yeah despite the amendment at the end there, I believe this.

 

[Myoukochou]

Same here. Amongst my former WoW guild of around 20 people, we can now count three to four successful marriages, and two children.

 

[takemeouttotheblack]

Agreeing with much of what's been posted already, I also guess a lot of it is removing the kind of dating mentality that seems to exist in modern Western liberal society. You go on a date with someone, there's a sense of occasion and pressure, as well as the fact that dating tends to involve both people having to be engaged solely in the practice of dating, which tends to ramp the pressure up and mean people tend to be less comfortable and therefore not at their best.

On the other hand, meeting online, be it through chatrooms etc means does away with a lot of the pressure of it being the only thing you're doing. Hell, you can chat with someone while doing eight other things, all of which distract you from the pressure of trying to come up with a wonderful zinging one liner. Also, if you're not someone who always comes across as a social butterfly immediately, it gives you an opportunity to showcase some of the more positive things about your character that you can't really do on a date which is mainly down to first impressions and immediate chemistry.

That being said, it's also important not to limit yourself to one or the other.

 

[Kahani]

partners who met in real-world settings were dispersed more evenly: 20% met at work, another 20% met through mutual friends, while schools and social gatherings accounted for 10% each.

And apparently 40% never met at all!

Seriously though, I think the whole "met online" thing is a bit misleading. For the most part what it actually means is "met through shared hobby". It just happens that a lot of modern hobbies now happen to involve computers. What is the difference between meeting through WoW and meeting through a tennis club? All this is telling us is that people who meet through common interests have happier marriages than people who start out with nothing in common. Yeah, no-one could ever have predicted that.

 

[MrMillion]

That is an interesting study. I guess ill try to be more aggressive in finding someone over the internet. But at my age, i think it will be a lot harder since i used to be married. At ourtime, i haven't been that successful when it comes to another marriage You can learn more about ourtime at http://www.freedatinghelper.com/reviews/ourtime-com/ [http://www.freedatinghelper.com/reviews/ourtime-com/] if you want.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

I gave it a shot and it really didn't work out. I'm fine but the experience has ruined any hope for love through the web in the future in my life. I have to kiss you in person to be your man now girls. Sorry to disappoint. <_<,