A bit of self deprecating humour is funny. It shows that you're human and comfortable talking about your own flaws. Being an ass and being like `oh god I'm a loser` is just going to scare people off.Frokane said:Did one of these internet dating gurus just say that 'self-deprecation is attractive' who ever said that should really start giving seminars. Next time I'm looking for a date I'll start telling every girl how weird and shy and loser-ish I am and see where it gets me.
Did you know if you're anyone and you want to meet anyone you have to be aware of physical attraction, the things you say, and how you present yourself?Frokane said:I'm saying that if you are a male and you want to meet a girl you have to be aware of things like physical attraction, the things you say and how you present yourself...you know SOCIAL AWARENESS AND REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS. Someone is gonna tell me that this doesn't matter now? I am speaking for most girls yes because girls are PEOPLE and most PEOPLE dont find completely socially unaware PEOPLE attractive.
This is not exclusive to boys wanting to meet girls. Literally everyone has to deal with that.
Really? So you've never been attracted to someone that, say, your friends weren't- or the other way around? Beauty is uniform and everyone has the same standard? How boring.Frokane said:And this 'everybody is different' 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder' shit is wack.
You do have to generalise to give advice, sometimes, yeah. But you can do it without rudely stereotyping women with your `we're only attracted to tall-` bla bla bla.Frokane said:You have to generalise to give advice, am i going to tell people that personal hygenine isnt important because "some girls like guys who stink"? no that's ridiculous.
If you haven't before, I'd reccommend checking out-Frokane said:So either give some constructive dating advice or shut up.
http://www.doctornerdlove.com/
He generally gives out good advice.
A bit of general advice- try to improve yourself as a person before you go out looking for someone else. Get comfortable and happy in yourself. A positive outlook will get you a lot further than a negative one.
Also realise that you will probably be rejected and that's okay. No woman is obligated to hear the sales pitch. But still, rejection hurts, but try not to take it personally or hold it against women as a whole. That last part is very important.
Some guys think they can hide bitterness towards women in general, and really, you can't. We will notice.