You need to define what you mean by bad boy and to separate out the attractive components of that fantasy from those which aren't.
Some ideas I might throw out from my experience:
The bad boy fantasy is still very much about being cared for. People who genuinely behave aggressively or dismissively towards women are just dicks. The 'bad boy' trades on the ability to understand women, to focus on them assertively and intensely, and to offer an uncommitted, incautious approach to sex which women are often denied by the fear of being labelled.
In my experience, the fantasy is not about a style of dress. There are visual cues which establish a person as 'bad', but where they're attractive they're generally the same things which establish a person as successful or intelligent or physically attractive.
It doesn't work on everyone. The vast majority of girls I know really just want nice, 'normal', intelligent guys who they're physically attracted to and can have nice, normal relationships with. When applied to actual meatspace as opposed to romance literature, the bad boy thing appeals to a relatively small number of people. Also, the kind of person who is attracted to bad boys is generally the kind of person who can handle the kind of personality and relationship (or someone who is too into romance literature), that kind of person may not end up being someone you are terribly compatible with.
Above all, drop the image of suddenly transforming yourself into James Dean (or James Bond). We're past that era of exaggerated masculinity being mainstream sexy. What is really being traded in the bad boy fantasy is confidence, sexual openness without neurosis or hangups and intensity of focus. Regardless of who you are, what you look like and whether you're actually a bastard or not you can probably try and incorporate some of those things into your life, it's a case of finding a position which doesn't feel unnatural and doesn't compromise yourself.
If I were to actually give some advice, I'd say try and talk to people as if you know them much better than you do. Don't moderate your speech, be open and vocal about things and don't be afraid to be too intimate with people. Some people will find it a little weird, especially if it doesn't seem completely genuine on your part, but if you're really feeling it you shouldn't care. I find being quite intense with people is actually quite a good way to filter out people I'll get on with.
Some ideas I might throw out from my experience:
The bad boy fantasy is still very much about being cared for. People who genuinely behave aggressively or dismissively towards women are just dicks. The 'bad boy' trades on the ability to understand women, to focus on them assertively and intensely, and to offer an uncommitted, incautious approach to sex which women are often denied by the fear of being labelled.
In my experience, the fantasy is not about a style of dress. There are visual cues which establish a person as 'bad', but where they're attractive they're generally the same things which establish a person as successful or intelligent or physically attractive.
It doesn't work on everyone. The vast majority of girls I know really just want nice, 'normal', intelligent guys who they're physically attracted to and can have nice, normal relationships with. When applied to actual meatspace as opposed to romance literature, the bad boy thing appeals to a relatively small number of people. Also, the kind of person who is attracted to bad boys is generally the kind of person who can handle the kind of personality and relationship (or someone who is too into romance literature), that kind of person may not end up being someone you are terribly compatible with.
Above all, drop the image of suddenly transforming yourself into James Dean (or James Bond). We're past that era of exaggerated masculinity being mainstream sexy. What is really being traded in the bad boy fantasy is confidence, sexual openness without neurosis or hangups and intensity of focus. Regardless of who you are, what you look like and whether you're actually a bastard or not you can probably try and incorporate some of those things into your life, it's a case of finding a position which doesn't feel unnatural and doesn't compromise yourself.
If I were to actually give some advice, I'd say try and talk to people as if you know them much better than you do. Don't moderate your speech, be open and vocal about things and don't be afraid to be too intimate with people. Some people will find it a little weird, especially if it doesn't seem completely genuine on your part, but if you're really feeling it you shouldn't care. I find being quite intense with people is actually quite a good way to filter out people I'll get on with.