the cousin gamble

[darthotaku]

I recently started at college and met a girl. After meeting her, my grandmother told me about a cousin I have that is apparently going to the same college. all I know of my cousin is her first name, which happens to be the name of the girl I met. There are at least two different girls with the same name in my college, so I can't be sure either way if she's my cousin. I had been looking to have a relationship with this girl before I hheard about my cousin and I have no idea how to proceed. Should I talk to her about the possibility that we are related? Should I go out with her and just take the risk (which is 50% as far as I know)? It's only my 4th cousin, so it's not like it'd be illegal to date her, but is it better to know and risk creeping her out even if we aren't or is it better to remain ignorant with a good chance of getting the girl?

 

[LetalisK]

Don't mention it and chances are you're not related. Unless she has a wildly exotic name I'm willing to bet there are dozens of girls at your school with the same name.

 

[Amethyst Wind]

I'd say get some finality here. You don't want to get into a relationship and when your family visits they tell you what's up.

 

[SckizoBoy]

Yah, [user]Fagotto[/user] pretty much got it... check surnames etc. And the undergrad student population of even a small uni has got to be at least ten or twelve thousand, so you're looking at upwards of three and a half thousand freshers. Yeah, not likely... who knows, your cousin might be a postgrad. *shrug*

Personally, I don't see any problem that would arise from it, but I don't know what your folks are like.

 

[Fetzenfisch]

well i don't see a problem here.It would be fair to tell her after finding out the truth though, still its a cousin so there is nothing against it in law or morale. you could marry you cousin in most countries of the world (though a test for genetical diseases is recommended and sometimes mandatory)

 

[darthotaku]

It seems incredibly unlikely. I mean, how many students are at your college? A ton I imagine, enough that some names will be repeated. You could also ask your grandmother about your cousin's last name, see if that matches up. Nice way to check without it getting awkward.

funny thing, my grandmother can't remember her last name or what she looks like.

 

[chuckman1]

Ya make sure you're not related before you do anything.

 

[Batou667]

Mention it to the girl, do some family history research together or something. If you're cousins? Meh, you'll get over it. (Plan B: incest.)

If you're not cousins? Hey, you'll have spent time with her and you can bring up the "cousin-scare" thing as a funny story. Could even be the ice-breaker you need to get with her!