The death of a bully

[iTeamKill]

Am I wrong, for not feeling anything? Even now, I can't produce a single positive thought on the guy. I'm a bit shocked, yes, but that's mostly in regards to a murder occuring in my little town.

What do you guys think? Am I a horrible human being, for feeling so indifferent to his death?
And what about you guys? I think most of us has had our very own bully, and some of us might not even be rid of them yet. How are you supposed to react, and how would you react?

Don't feel bad at all. For those that believe in karma, he should have seen this coming.

 

[WakeTheDead1]

Sometimes i just see scum on the street in gangs beating people or hear about someone in the paper that have tortured a dog, or strapped a firework to a cat or something and i just think i actually want them to die, not just die but painfully and undignified

 

[Nicolefranklin]

words.

Do you work in a convenience store?

Nope?

You are not a bad person for feeling nothing at the passing of your personal bully. I think it would be better though if you chose not to attend his viewing and/or burial since you and he were...well, bully-and-victim. It could bring up too much bad blood and while I am sure you wouldn't make a scene I just think it would be a waste for you personally. If you really feel obligated though, remember him in the way that feels right for you as funerals, memorials and other such services are really more for the living anyway. He may have been your bully but he was also a son to somebody.

I personally would avoid the viewing/ burial. I wouldn't want to think about my bullies but then, I have been a bully as well and know there are people who would want to avoid my inevitable funeral. I would be curious about the circumstances surrounding the death though but I wouldn't vocalize the thought that s/he brought it upon themselves

I was never going to the funeral in the first place. I do believe it's going to be an open ceremony, as it usually is when people that young die, but I have no business there. He wouldn't want to have seen me there, I have no relations with anyone who's going to be there, and I have no wish to see him off. I'm going to leave the people who actually cared with that "right". I completely respect that some people loved him. He's made a lot of enemies through the years, and I hope everyone can hold themselves back from going there, anything else would be disrespectful, even for a guy like him..

 

[Kalfira]

To horribly paraphrase a great man "Turn the other cheek, but when he's dead you can shit on his grave"

 

[Waddles]

Most of my old classmates has shown sadness by his passing. Some are even attending the funeral. None of us really liked him, yet, I suppose it's common decency, and instinct, to be sad in a situation like this. Or, is it?

I think that the Chaser can answer your question!

NB If you aren't an Aussie you may not get some of the references, but it's not hard to get the overall joke

NB 2 I don't know how to embed videos so a link will do for now

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hLVsIpejFgM

 

[LooK iTz Jinjo]

If one of the guys who gave me shit in high school died, I would go to the funeral. So I could dance on the fuckers grave. I'm a nice person.
In all honesty I couldn't find any emotion when I was at either of my own grandfathers (2) or grandmothers (1) funerals. Does this make me a bad person? Well if it does you can all go to hell.

 

[Nicolefranklin]

To me, it's a similar situation to when I worked in a store, which !).

I see what you're saying, and completely get your point. Not that I have anything to add to it, really, I just really appreciated your story. Not as in "it's okay to treat disabled people like shit", but that was never the case here anyway.

Thanks, you have to be so careful nowadays, and I really tried not to make it sound like 'dammit, this blind guy is making my day harder, why can't he go and be blind elsewhere!'

But, when every member of staff feels the same way, and it takes about 2 visits for new employees to go from 'but you can't treat him like that!' to ' oh fuck, here comes that twat again', you know you're probably right. It got to a point where ironically, the last person to see him, would be the only one left to serve him. You'd know he'd come in because suddenly everyone else had got really busy elsewhere, grrr.

You really do, and I know well enough how tiring it gets to always walk around on tippi-toes, because you MIGHT upset someone. I know as for me, I'm a very sensitive, sensible person, but that can get dropped on the floor within seconds if a guy like the one you speak of, is a disrespectful asshole. I hate to bring it up, but I can't help but think of the movie "the Ex" (I think it's called, with Zach Braff?) horrible film, but it had a guy in a wheelchair who quickly turned out to be a sadistic fucker. Yet, Braff was completely on his own when it came to avoiding him, because of the whole "disabled" deal.
And to be honest, when someone with a disability just wants to be treated equally, that has to go all the way, with the ability to call them out when they are out of line.
In fact, this kinda comforts me in how I don't feel bad for the dead guy..


Early start on liquor and another day with sleep deprevation may have affected my ability to make sense, but I hope I got through that without too much "wtf?"

 

[aaronmcc]

Man there is nothing wrong with you. Fuck that guy. If someone is a douche to you why are you gonna feel sorry for them?

One of my high school bullies got thrown out of his home by his parents for being a worthless piece of shit human being and he deserved it.

 

[Nicolefranklin]

Most of my old classmates has shown sadness by his passing. Some are even attending the funeral. None of us really liked him, yet, I suppose it's common decency, and instinct, to be sad in a situation like this. Or, is it?

I think that the Chaser can answer your question!

NB If you aren't an Aussie you may not get some of the references, but the overall message should be plain

NB 2 I don't know how to embed videos so a link will do for now

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hLVsIpejFgM

Oh I love those guys, and that was just beautiful.

 

[Mordwyl]

Boo hoo, crocodile tears. Honestly, I bet the very reason he's six feet under is one of the people he bullied finally snapped and pulled the trigger. Then people who disliked him start acting all sad and mournful because he's gone? Maybe they're going by the "even he didn't deserve this" but that doesn't merit going to his funeral.

Yes, this post was bitter. I recently lost my beloved grandmother and know what it feels to lose someone extremely important in your life. In the case of said bully it's a good chance to troll these fools.

 

[Valksy]

If I was the OP I'm afraid that I would shrug and think that nothing of value was lost. If people make the choice to act like a dickhead in life then they deserve no veneration in death.

 

[Nazulu]

No your not horrible, it's very natural when it's someone you hate.

I had a similar experience with a bully as well, gave me shit nearly everyday at school. A week after graduation I heard he was permanently damaged in a car crash, he was one of the most athletic people in the school and now he needs help with everything. At the time I didn't think much of it but now and again I run into some of the people I knew from school and noticed they have matured a lot, it makes me sad now knowing my bully never got the chance, he lives the last of his days as a vegetable.

 

[HippySecond]

Karmic Justice? Just be glad it didn't happen to you!

 

[Sixties Spidey]

Spit on his grave. He deserves it.

 

[Mr Companion]

Hi, Escapist.

Snip

Oh thank gods somebody else feels like this too!
I mean at least there is another human being in the world who doesn't suffer from unnecessary emotional trauma about every god-damn thing that happens. If you are anything like me then indifference is the most natural reaction to a death situation. So yes it is normal.

 

[Vitor Goncalves]

Man why should you be sad for him?! he meant nothing good to you. You wont miss him at all so no need to feel anything about his departure.

 

[The Stonker]

I'm 16 years old and I've been bullied for the last ten years (even tho it has slowly stopped)
That I would even smile if one of my bullies got death because and yes they were many they've done horrible things to me even tho I cannot understand why people are always "sniff sniff he died even tho he was a horrible human beign to everyone else and killed my cat sniff"

So I salute you! And your not a bad person if your not sad because smiling over it then your not a horrid monster like some people say here on the contrary YOUR NORMAL.

 

[Waddles]

Most of my old classmates has shown sadness by his passing. Some are even attending the funeral. None of us really liked him, yet, I suppose it's common decency, and instinct, to be sad in a situation like this. Or, is it?

I think that the Chaser can answer your question!

NB If you aren't an Aussie you may not get some of the references, but the overall message should be plain

NB 2 I don't know how to embed videos so a link will do for now

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hLVsIpejFgM

Oh I love those guys, and that was just beautiful.

Anytime!
OT: I think you are totally justified in how you feel

 

[War Penguin]

No you're not a horrible person. If you went to his funeral and laughed for joy in front of his family, that's a different story. But you didn't, so you're not.