The divorce thread.

[Aesir23]

My parents have been married for... 24 years now. And thank God for that because I REALLY don't think I'd cope well and I'm already screwed up in the head.

Were they to divorce though, I think I'd probably choose to stay with my Dad (much closer with him than I am with my Mom) or I'd get a place of my own.

 

[Gunsang]

My parents got divorced years ago. It hurts at first, but after a while it really doesn't matter. It was for the better. Instead of waking up at night to your parents fighting, they're just separated. Much nicer.
My parents' girlfriends and boyfriends don't bother me either. I don't give them trouble and they stay out of my business. They never set rules, they never try to be another parent, they're just another person in the house.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

For the first 14 years of my life I thought my parents were getting a divorce every week or two. When I fifteen my dad moved out and lived away from us for about a year. Been back together shakily as a family for about half a year now.

Don't think it will work out.

Stopped caring a long time ago if it does.

 

[Marter]

Mine divorced many years ago now. It was actually good, as they were always fighting. Brought some peace into the family.

 

[Yureina]

My parents are still married, closing in on their 25th anniversary. It still seems happy, or at least that its not really ever going to break up. As for me, i've never even had a serious relationship, much less gotten married and divorced.

 

[CaptainKoala]

I'm 16, my parents divorced when I was 5, I've seen my dad 6 times in the past 6 years, and my dad is a class A dickhead so I don't really care to see him. Crap, just remembered its his birthday tomorrow; Oh well, he hardly ever calls me on my birthdays.

 

[phoenix_tetsu]

Sorry if I sound annoying, but this really baffles me.

I cannot believe that modern society has come to this. Marriage, which I consider to be one of the most fundamental aspects of life, is failing so miserably, and yet we as a species think that humans are "leaping forward" and are "civilized" creatures.

OT: Nope, I'm glad they haven't.

Family values decline, Justin Bieber's rise to fame... coincidence?? I DON'T THINK SO!!!

 

[ecoho]

(My first thread ever, searchbar approved, sorry if I do anything wrong!)

So today my mother told me that I could save up some money to buy a dog despite my father's negative remarks because he "would not likely be staying in the house for much longer".
This is how she decided to tell me they were talking about divorce.

So, Escapists, are your parents divorced? Have you ever considered or been through one?
How did / would you react / cope with news like this??
Discuss!

ok first is this the first time theyve had this talk? second was one of them drunk?
if this isnt the first time theyve talked about it im so sorry for you but if it is the first time it might just be postering (my parents do it from time to time)
If one of them was drunk at the time of this be aware that it may be one of those thing were words were said not ment unless the drinking started the fight.
my parents are still together and will never split up due to the fact that the only one whed even try is my dad and after he threatend her with it once i made it clear to him id make sure he had nothing by the end of the court hearings and id beat his ass.

If this does happen to you man be aware that its not your fault EVER! now this doesnt have to end bad i have a friend whos parents split up he did chistmas with his mom and thanksgiveing with his dad they may stay friends just not a cople anymore. i truly hope this doesnt happen to you and please forgive the next phrase if it offends but ill be praying for you.

 

[Zem]

After years of fighting with my mother, my dad didn't return home after work one night. I was 7 at the time so I only had a basic understanding of the situation but it was still pretty traumatic. I reacted exactly how you would expect a 7 year old to react but I mostly hid what I felt.

Honestly, I just didn't have the luxury of showing my emotions. I had to step up in the household to fill the void that my father left. That role slowly evolved as I grew up and it inevitably shaped who I am today.

OP: IMO, this would be a really good time for you to analyze your quality of life at the moment. Divorces can sometimes greatly improve the quality of life for those caught in the middle of the arguing parties. Considering how much worse the situation would be if they remained together is the key for a lot of people.

 

[The Bum]

Well mine did when i was six but they're still frends and all so its cool

 

[GrimTuesday]

My mom and dad divorced when I was ten or so. As far as I know I have been completely unfazed by their divorce. I think the most annoying part of having my parents being divorced is how everyone automatically assumes that I took it really hard and was negatively affected by it. I wasn't cause my dad is an asshole who treated me, my two older brothers, and my Mom like shit. The worst part is the effect that it has had on my two little brothers. They weren't old enough to really remember what an asshole he was so they still want to have a relationship with him which I have given up on entirely. every time they come home after going over to his house they're always moody and angry. This really pisses me off that he does shit like what he did to me and my older brothers to them but they just want to have a relationship with him so bad that they are willing to put up with his shit.

 

[Mr. McFuzzers]

My parents are divorced and my life was a little shaken at first but after awhile you get used to it. I still see my dad on a regular basis and I love with my mom. They both live in the same state. Oh, my parents were divorced when I was 13.

 

[Diligent]

For me, I've known for years that my parents don't get along anymore, and it's probably a good thing that they're getting divorced. Their constant arguing was much more hard on my siblings and I than a divorce ever would be. Still, it's not really an ideal thing.

-sigh- Why can't families be all lovey-dovey like in the movies? [small]I feel cheated![/small]

I hear that! My parents decided to "stay together for the sake of the kids" (me and my sister) because what kids need are to grow up in a hostile, loveless, and hateful environment. I think their constant arguing and fighting did nothing but fuck us up.
They finally did split up when I was 23 and still in school/living with them, and I definitely think it would have been best if they did it earlier.

 

[Kortney]

My parents weren't divorced I'm fairly sure, but one of them is dead now so it's kind of irrelevant.

Sorry if I sound annoying, but this really baffles me.

I cannot believe that modern society has come to this. Marriage, which I consider to be one of the most fundamental aspects of life, is failing so miserably, and yet we as a species think that humans are "leaping forward" and are "civilized" creatures.

Relationships haven't changed though. There were still as many arguments, fights and unhappiness in the old days within marriages; it's just they couldn't get a divorce as easy so people had to put on a front and pretend to be all perfect and happy. I think it's better this way.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

This thread...
It be depressing...

Agreed, this certainly isn't a happy thread.

My parents have never mentioned divorce or considered it. I'm glad they love each other in a way that can't be broken apart by a single argument.

My friend's parents had a messy divorce though. It ripped him apart and he went from an A student to struggling to pass. His personality changed too and we eventually stopped being friends when he scammed me out of some money and I had to fight to get it back. After our little "war" I haven't heard from him since as he dropped out of highschool.

I think about him now and again. I really hope he found peace.

I hope everyone in this thread isn't letting it destroy their lives. It is an awful, awful thing.

 

[Anti-gravity]

My parents aren't divorced, but I get the feeling they're just "staying together for the kids." I've been 17 for eleven minutes, and by the time I'm 18 they're probably gonna split up.

Happy birthday?

 

[Lust]

My parents got divorced when I was.................10..........I think.

My dad cheated, and they argued. A divorce ensued.

I remember having an Mcdonalds, and staying in a hotel with my mom. She said we had get away for a bit. She also told me not to worry. So, I didn't. But that didn't stop me from loving my parents.

They weren't bad people, it's just that shit happens.

 

[Thunderhorse31]

Parents divorced almost 20 years ago, my dad cheated on my mom with the woman who would eventually become my stepmom. Everyone is on mostly good terms now, except my mom's family of course who still want to kill my dad (or at least maim him considerably).

It fucked me up pretty bad at the time - I used to lay in bed at night and cry, asking my mom when dad was coming home. It sucked bad enough for me, but I can't imagine how heart-wrenching it was for my mom, having to listen to my sisters and I crying like that.

I myself have not been divorced, although my first year of marriage I didn't really act very much like a good husband should. I've since learned a lot and my wife and I are incredibly happy now (5 years later), but not having an immediately close father-figure growing up has left me without a great example to follow. If you really think you can say "yeah my parents divorced and it doesn't affect me at all," you're lying.

 

[-Samurai-]

My parents divorced when I was about 5. I remember the argument that lead to it and all the moving and all that after.

My mother remarried some years after and divorced again when I was in middle school. We lived in our car and jumped from hotel to hotel for about 6 months.

She just remarried 2 weeks ago.

As for how it(the original) affected me. Not at all. My dad was never really around to begin with. We get along fine now. Hes recently been a bit more active in my life(we used to talk only a few times a year). I'm 23 now so it's a bit too late for those father-son bonding moments. But, whatever. Live and let live.

My mom gets along with my dad just fine. They were even laughing and talking today at my nieces 2nd birthday party.

He recently had another kid. Hes in his 40s with a 6 month old son. When that kid is my age, I'll be my dads age. Kinda weird. I'll be buying him his first legal drink like my dad did for me.

 

[Booze Zombie]

I don't know anything about divorce other than it's nasty and I'd rather not experience it in my life.