The Heartbreak Kid

[Molten Water]

Well what do I say guys...im a heartbreak kid...just wanted to make a thread where we could share our stories of heartbreak and how a girl(or guy) broke our hearts.

Il go 1st.

There is this girl i liked.we were best friends and eventually started liking each other...so we started going out...and then she had 2 move to canada so we had to agree to break it up, but slowly.

We were still in contact for the 1st 3 months and i still kinda liked her a lot.after that our conversations seemed kinda off and all and one day she confessed that shes had a boyfriend for 3 months and she hadnt told me because she didnt want to hurt me.well...she did.and then she started calling me up and talkin. we were still fiends so i talked 2 her 2.cheered me up immensely whenever she called.but then she started complaining about her boyfriend a lot and saying things about him 2 me on the phone.then abaout a year after we had broken up...kinda we met again and i started to feel like i like her again.but it turns out its a lost cause and everytime she mentions that guys name or tells me stupid complaints she has about him i feel like ripping her 2 shreds but i cant...cos im her frind and i care about her...dont know what to do about it...fells good to write this down.

advice?should i tell her shes hurting me?

and your stories too if u have any

 

[Jedoro]

I know I'd tell her, but I tend to get in trouble for being too honest...

Basically, it's a matter of which you value more: not being hurt, or being there when a friend wants to complain.

EDIT: Story, right.

Well, there was this girl, who I tried really hard to win over this year. You know, started hanging out a lot, paying for the food, etc. etc. Things start going really great, and for all intents and purposes, we're in a relationship.

Then she gets a girlfriend.

I knew she was bi, and I figured we had a connection, but once that happens, she doesn't ever talk to me, really. I always had to start the conversations before, and once I didn't really want to anymore, I never talked to her. Needless to say, this was very depressing, since we had been very good friends before and she admitted to feeling the connection as well, but she decided her fat, ugly college roommate was preferable to me.

I'm over it now, had what I think has been a month or two to get over it, and now I'm all better and out looking for another potential girlfriend.

I do hate losing track of time so easily, though. I swear, a week feels like two or three to me, and it sucks balls.

 

[Lyri]

Well what do I say guys...im a heartbreak kid...just wanted to make a thread where we could share our stories of heartbreak and how a girl(or guy) broke our hearts.

Il go 1st.

There is this girl i liked.we were best friends and eventually started liking each other...so we started going out...and then she had 2 move to canada so we had to agree to break it up, but slowly.

We were still in contact for the 1st 3 months and i still kinda liked her a lot.after that our conversations seemed kinda off and all and one day she confessed that shes had a boyfriend for 3 months and she hadnt told me because she didnt want to hurt me.well...she did.and then she started calling me up and talkin. we were still fiends so i talked 2 her 2.cheered me up immensely whenever she called.but then she started complaining about her boyfriend a lot and saying things about him 2 me on the phone.then abaout a year after we had broken up...kinda we met again and i started to feel like i like her again.but it turns out its a lost cause and everytime she mentions that guys name or tells me stupid complaints she has about him i feel like ripping her 2 shreds but i cant...cos im her frind and i care about her...dont know what to do about it...fells good to write this down.

advice?should i tell her shes hurting me?

and your stories too if u have any

You should tell her that it is hurting you and you find it uncomfortable talking about it, but you shouldn't have expected anything else.
She moved to Canada, I doubt she'd put life on hold and you should never assume as much.

 

[goatzilla8463]

I'm so good that I've never felt the pain of the fabled "break-up".

Of course, that may be down to the fact that I'm only 14 and have only had one girlfriend whom I'm still with at the moment.

Now wouldn't you all love to be me?

 

[Baby Tea]

Of course, that may be down to the fact that I'm only 14 and have only had one girlfriend whom I'm still with at the moment.

Now wouldn't you all love to be me?

Heck no. Being 14 sucked.
Except for the school part. Highschool was a breeze. No worries, just do a stupid paper once a week...ahhh, those were the days. No responsibilities, no worries. But I love my career now, and I'm married to the love of my life...so I'm quite happy.

On topic, when I was 15 or 16 I tried to get this girl to break up with this guy for me.
He treated her like crap, but she stayed with him. Last I heard she was still with him and stuck back in our dirt-bag hometown. Which is sad, because she had great potential to get out and do something more. And now she's catering to that asswipe who still treats her like crap.

Let this be a lesson to the rest of you: Anyone who doesn't want you to excel in life isn't someone you want to date.

 

[Molten Water]

I know I'd tell her, but I tend to get in trouble for being too honest...

Basically, it's a matter of which you value more: not being hurt, or being there when a friend wants to complain.

Well i do want to be there for her and as another poster said, its kinda pointless trying to get her to like me again. so yeah thanks for the reply.but not being honest is becoming a big problem bcoz she takes this much too lightly i mean i was her ex and she complains the fuck outta the guy

 

[Molten Water]

Well what do I say guys...im a heartbreak kid...just wanted to make a thread where we could share our stories of heartbreak and how a girl(or guy) broke our hearts.

Il go 1st.

There is this girl i liked.we were best friends and eventually started liking each other...so we started going out...and then she had 2 move to canada so we had to agree to break it up, but slowly.

We were still in contact for the 1st 3 months and i still kinda liked her a lot.after that our conversations seemed kinda off and all and one day she confessed that shes had a boyfriend for 3 months and she hadnt told me because she didnt want to hurt me.well...she did.and then she started calling me up and talkin. we were still fiends so i talked 2 her 2.cheered me up immensely whenever she called.but then she started complaining about her boyfriend a lot and saying things about him 2 me on the phone.then abaout a year after we had broken up...kinda we met again and i started to feel like i like her again.but it turns out its a lost cause and everytime she mentions that guys name or tells me stupid complaints she has about him i feel like ripping her 2 shreds but i cant...cos im her frind and i care about her...dont know what to do about it...fells good to write this down.

advice?should i tell her shes hurting me?

and your stories too if u have any

You should tell her that it is hurting you and you find it uncomfortable talking about it, but you shouldn't have expected anything else.
She moved to Canada, I doubt she'd put life on hold and you should never assume as much.

yeah...im sure your right about that...thanks dude...cant expect her to not like another guy...nice to have good natured strangers

 

[Lyri]

Let this be a lesson to the rest of you: Anyone who doesn't want you to excel in life isn't someone you want to date.

Epic high five for you sir, never a truer statement.

yeah...im sure your right about that...thanks dude...cant expect her to not like another guy...nice to have good natured strangers

I really can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not.
I'm not trying to be harsh but she's moved a good stretch away from you, unless you both have the means and the will to do the long distance thing, I wouldn't hold out.
Long distance isn't easy, even when the pair of you work hard at it. Take it from someone who knows.

 

[Berethond]

Of course, that may be down to the fact that I'm only 14 and have only had one girlfriend whom I'm still with at the moment.

Now wouldn't you all love to be me?

Heck no. Being 14 sucked.
Except for the school part. Highschool was a breeze. No worries, just do a stupid paper once a week...ahhh, those were the days. No responsibilities, no worries. But I love my career now, and I'm married to the love of my life...so I'm quite happy.

No, high school sucks.
A lot.

I have never felt this "break up", probably due to the fact that I've never had a girlfriend.
So, yeah...
Pain there.

 

[Russian_Assassin]

Let this be a lesson to the rest of you: Anyone who doesn't want you to excel in life isn't someone you want to date.

You are correct sir. If only you knew how much would I like to go to that aforementioned asshole's place and pluck out his heart! People like him who treat women like shit should all be forfeited of their genitals! I could never imagine doing something like that to a girl. Yes, I am a male and I despise other males who mistreat women. Say something and I'm gonna kick your ass!

Oh and I never had a broken heart. I am the one to break up first with my girlfriend Although I did have a crush which never returned me any of my love, but I just told her to go to hell in the end.

 

[Molten Water]

Let this be a lesson to the rest of you: Anyone who doesn't want you to excel in life isn't someone you want to date.

Epic high five for you sir, never a truer statement.

yeah...im sure your right about that...thanks dude...cant expect her to not like another guy...nice to have good natured strangers

I really can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not.
I'm not trying to be harsh but she's moved a good stretch away from you, unless you both have the means and the will to do the long distance thing, I wouldn't hold out.
Long distance isn't easy, even when the pair of you work hard at it. Take it from someone who knows.

na dude not being sarcastic...yeah and i know about long distance not working out

 

[Julianking93]

The girl I lost my virginity to moved to Portland.

I knew it was going to happen, but I was still sad and I still love her. We talk on occasion and we have sort of a long distance relationship.

She's coming home for the holidays though

 

[Jedoro]

I know I'd tell her, but I tend to get in trouble for being too honest...

Basically, it's a matter of which you value more: not being hurt, or being there when a friend wants to complain.

Well i do want to be there for her and as another poster said, its kinda pointless trying to get her to like me again. so yeah thanks for the reply.but not being honest is becoming a big problem bcoz she takes this much too lightly i mean i was her ex and she complains the fuck outta the guy

Then tell her that it hurts you. Base your friendship on something other than you being the person she vents to. And if it is already, then just take out that aspect. It's really not fair to you to have to hear this from her.