i was only being sarcastic but i dont know now i guess i'll think about, anyway thanks everyone for the advice im gonna hit the hay now and get up early tomorrow, probably walk to college with her, but you'll have the results tomorrow, thanks again everyone !XHolySmokesX said:
There's a girl... that old chestnut
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Don't be creepy. Your post comes off as creepy. Don't do that. Guessing this is a young thing, so avoid the whole Twilight True love! proclamations. Actually avoid those at any age. Shit be creepy.
Anyway, it should be about showing her a good, fun time. Show, don't tell. Etc. And if she says no (Any grown woman likely should if she just got dumped) don't go emo or threaten to blow up your school over it. Again, creepy.
Anyway, it should be about showing her a good, fun time. Show, don't tell. Etc. And if she says no (Any grown woman likely should if she just got dumped) don't go emo or threaten to blow up your school over it. Again, creepy.
Tdc2182 said:
The friend zone is different from just being a friend, the friend zone is when a guy believes that he waiting to long and because of the wait the girl is no longer interested, and that does not existFirstToStrike said:
If that is what you think, alright, everyone is allowed to have an opinion, but that's so horribly wrong it hurts.artanis_neravar said:
OT: It's good that you decided to go for it!
Oh, the friend zone exists on both side, though it seem the ladies call it something else.
When guys complain about being put in the friend zone it is usually accompanied by them claiming that they waited to long, I have never heard a guy complain about the friend zone when they are just a friend or asked a girl out then became a friend after the fact.Magefeanor said:
Oh, alright then.artanis_neravar said:
I guess I was a bit fast on the disagreeing.
We just have different interpretations of the friend zone. Can we agree to disagree?
To those saying you have nothing to lose: Wrong. Many people lose a lot of self-esteem from rejection, and often lose the chances of having a normal conversation with her. It's not exactly close physical contact or anything, but given the choice between periodic normal conversations and a very low chance of contact, it may be a tough decision.
True story... God damn it does not having someone who means a lot to you in your life at all suck...Gxas said:
Good Luck! One way or another it will work itself out. If she isn't into it right now don't run away. My husband tried to friend zone me in high school, the dweeb. I'm just saying if the juice is worth the squeeze, stick around. It seems like she is already a good friend so try not to get down. All of this is based around a negative response of course, but hopefully all will be well.
See, thats the problem. People let the rejection bring them down. If you do that, of course it will be worse. But, seriously, the worst thing that could happen is that she says, "No." What you do afterward with that answer is on you. If you let it bring you down, then you're doing that to yourself.Katana314 said:
This is coming from someone who's self esteem hit an all-time-low over the course of the last five years and is just now starting to come back now that I've begun living my life this way.
Curious to see how this turns out.
PS: grow a spine and ask her, but probably skip the part about you being obsessed with her, and for how long, and all the other stalker-esque qualities until she's in the bag.
Otherwise, she might have a Sound Of Music impulse and run for the hills.
PS: grow a spine and ask her, but probably skip the part about you being obsessed with her, and for how long, and all the other stalker-esque qualities until she's in the bag.
Otherwise, she might have a Sound Of Music impulse and run for the hills.
Can you honestly just tell someone NOT to be depressed about something when it's a human reaction?Gxas said:
"My sister died in a mugging..."
"Get over it! Jeez, stop moping."
I did not "let" rejection bring me down. It brought me down. It's possible that other people are able to respond differently, but that's them.
It may be best to wait if she's just come out of a relationship (the topic of relationships may still be a bit of a sore spot for her if it was a particularly bad break up) but if you're feeling like now is the best time then I'd say be gentle about it, be supportive and reassuring about what's happened and show that you really do care for her and how she feels (she'll probably appreciate that in the given situation).sparten042 said:
As for dealing with nerves, everyone is different. Some people talk to themselves in the mirror, some people just don't think about it and others still down seven and a half cases of Russian vodka. At the end of the day you should do what works best for you and makes you feel most calm and relaxed.
Sure, you're without a doubt gonna be nervous as hell anyway (I'm sure most people are) but look at it this way, if she says yes then she feels the same way you do and allow me to say congratulations and good luck in advance, if she says no then at least you know where you stand with her and you can still be friends (better to know how things are than to have doubts about it eating away at you).
Whatever you do, good luck, I hope the advice I gave is helpful and I hope things work out for you.
The friend zone is real, but can be overcome. And the result is so much more awesome.thelonewolf266 said:
alright, hey agaian. so i just got back from college, all goes well until the ed of the day, so this is what i did;
i walk up to her start chatting and just casully say do you want to come too te cinema on saturday, to which she replies she's busy all weekend, the thing is we've got a week break next week and im not sure if i should wait til after the holiday to do it in person or ask her through text or msn or whatever.
she said to try again some other time, so now i really have to get it right 'cause three times seems desperate to me...
i walk up to her start chatting and just casully say do you want to come too te cinema on saturday, to which she replies she's busy all weekend, the thing is we've got a week break next week and im not sure if i should wait til after the holiday to do it in person or ask her through text or msn or whatever.
she said to try again some other time, so now i really have to get it right 'cause three times seems desperate to me...