Things I want to talk about.

[The Stonker]

Well, I find this a bit silly to say on the Escapist but here I go!
I want to tell you guys a little bit about how my past was, I know this will probably come out as a bit wee-booish but I don't mind, really, I don't.
So, it all begins when I start in kindergarden, where I don't have any friends, because the kids thought I spoke "strangely" and that was mostly because I couldn't speak normally as them, I just sat in my corner and read alot.
Now, I go into a pre-school if I remember that right and suddenly I'm stamped already as the weird kid, where I rarely spoke or stood up for my self.
So the teenagers of that school decided to start pick on me as well, you know by beating me up, suffocating me, calling me names and just right afront torture ( this was when I was 10).
Okay, nice to get that out, wait there's more.
I went into summer camp when I was about 13 where I was sexually abused, not rape, but groped on,pinned down and possibly more if I hadn't kicked his nuts.
Of course the people that supervised the area didn't consider this sexual, but "mindful childs play".
So I'm about 17 now and I was bullied for 9 years, any of you have similar stories?
Plus, what I have to remember of all this are the on and off nightmares, depression and sometimes I go into a suicide mode.
Nice to get that out, do you guys have any stories like this or could you guys advice me on how to forget this shit...

 

[MoNKeyYy]

Shit man, that sucks. Sorry I can't say something a little more inspiring, but for what it's worth I feel for you.

If you want advice the best I can come up with is just hang in there and stick with your close friends. All you need is a great best friend and you can make it through anything. Fuck everyone else. I consider myself lucky enough to have a good number of friends and lots of like buddies that I hang with and stuff, but when I'm really down or something there's two people I know I can always go to, and two people who always make me feel better. Find that person or couple people and you can get through anything.

 

[Palademon]

I was bullied alot, but never that series. Thoug people's favoruite hobby used to be "Let's condescend everything Jonny says" and "I'll laugh at Jonny whnever he's wrong, even though I'm too much of a wuss to even guess the right answer".

My reputation and status was not controlled by me, but by others.

I don't have any advice, but in my college it's not like that because it's too big of a school for anyone to go out of their way to annoy someone, mostly.

 

[6unn3r]

So you're differant so what? There are people out there who will like you, you just have to launch yourself out into the big wide world and find them. College's/uni's are the best because of the diversity of people that are there and the number of differant activites available to you. I would also recomend taking up self defence classes of some sort. Never hurts to know how to defend yourself should the bully's come calling again. Plus they build self confidence and you might make some friends along the way.

 

[EeveeElectro]

I was hated at school, even though I kept my head down and never caused trouble.
I'm guessing the problem was I wasn't as perfect and pretty and skinny as most girls, but that's what everything boils down to.
It pisses me off to think about it, but the people who picked on me are now miserable single mothers so I can get the last laugh.

Teachers are useless when it comes to stopping bullying, whenever I'd report it, I'd be the one to get detention and have trouble. Ugh, school was shit.
Anyway, you came out of it alive and all you can do is put it behind you and don't let it dictate your life.
If you move on to get a good job, earn lots of money, have a nice life and see the old bullies miserably working at McDonalds, how awesome would you feel?
That's what kept me going, and it worked.

 

[Timmaaaah]

I was bullied alot, but never that series. Thoug people's favoruite hobby used to be "Let's condescend everything Jonny says" and "I'll laugh at Jonny whnever he's wrong, even though I'm too much of a wuss to even guess the right answer".

My reputation and status was not controlled by me, but by others.

I don't have any advice, but in my college it's not like that because it's too big of a school for anyone to go out of their way to annoy someone, mostly.

Story of my life, mate

 

[Anarchemitis]

I was bullied alot, but never that series. Thoug people's favoruite hobby used to be "Let's condescend everything Jonny says" and "I'll laugh at Jonny whnever he's wrong, even though I'm too much of a wuss to even guess the right answer".

My reputation and status was not controlled by me, but by others.

I don't have any advice, but in my college it's not like that because it's too big of a school for anyone to go out of their way to annoy someone, mostly.

Story of my life, mate

Been there.
Hang in there kitty, you'll be with the awesome crowd which you want to be part of by the time you're 19 or so. If this didn't help, I apologise.
It's what I did- no one cared for animation or all that fancy CG stuff, and now I'm in school for it and have all sorts of fellas who love this stuff too.

 

[Megalodon]

I wa bullied for almost all of Primary School (4-11). The parents had convinced me that it was "wrong" to fight these people, as I was more than head and shoulder bigger than pretty everyone in my year (1 exception). But the teachers were a pile of shit, so nothing was done. Everything changed eventually when one guy pushed me too far and I floored him with one blow. Had quite a nice time at school after that.
On the plus side, things do really get better in a year or two, just keep going.

 

[zombiesinc]

Nice to get that out, do you guys have any stories like this or could you guys advice me on how to forget this shit...

I was lucky enough to avoid any and all kinds of bullying...

But one thing that I do know when it comes to suffering or dealing with past negative memories is that you shouldn't ignore it, or try to forget. What's usually best is to accept that it happened, and let go of all the weight that you're carrying from it. Sounds incredibly corny, I know, but it will help. Truly accepting something that haunts or bothers you, instead of trying to ignore or forget it, is the best way to actually move on emotionally.

By ignoring the emotions that result from those memories means that you're likely repressing those feelings, rather than dealing with them. By doing that, you're leaving yourself in a situation where those repressed feelings will continue to run your life, whether you're aware of it or not.

Eventually though, you'll be done with high school. By then you'll be going to post secondary, or generally moving on with your life. One day you'll have a career (that you hopefully enjoy), and although you'll still deal with dicks, you will less likely have to deal with the sort of things you have previously dealt with.

 

[comadorcrack]

I never really got bullied. I was never popular but the jerks didn't really bother with me cos I was too sarcastic to be bullied. Still though sounds like a suckish time there.

May be a little late for advice but just let it roll off your shoulders. If they're jerks to you just give them a little look along the lines of "Really? Dudes... thats a bit lame" If the beating up begins fight back, even if you lose fight back violently, try and break someones nose if you can, there's no shame in loosing as long as you put up a good fight.

 

[dmase]

I used to be the weak short asthmatic from about 10th grade back. Basically I was teased and such didn't have a close group of friends and everyone said i was either to talkative or too much of a loner even the few friends i did have, yes i was both. I would usually just go about my day to the point where i could go home most of the time with my head down not wanting to talk to anybody. I'd get pushed around as soon as i tried defending myself by people that felt the need to make themselves feel better.

Finally i had enough around 10-11th grade I spent a whole summer getting in shape and training for soccer. I got to be a lot funnier still couldn't get a girl till 12 grade but that was because i ended up changing how i acted after the turn down for all 3 girls, not in a good way. I started talking to more people and throwing insults back instead of just taking it and making fun of myself a little then i got late 11th grade and i realized i didn't really like any of the people that i knew. So last year in high school i kept to myself talking to a few people but i hated everyone i thought maybe its because i thought myself high and mighty now but that wasn't it either. Then i started making good friends the summer after high school people that i would have never been cool enough to hang with in high school and i actually enjoyed hanging out with them. Lesson of the stories high school sucks if your the wimp but its not where you actually make friendships its where friendships come up because of necessity in my opinion.

From childhood the only thing that compares a little is having a hard ass for a dad. For example one time he threatened to throw my playstation out because i was having an asthma attack and he said it was all in my head. You had a rough childhood and i can't compare to that at all so make the year after high school fun meet new people start anew.

 

[MrShowerHead]

Got bullied at school too. For 2 years. I also happen to have my first kneel surgery that summer. And a very close friend of mine moved out. Worst time of my life.
Tried suicide once. Well okay, almost tried, but it was close.

Got my revenge on one of those bastards last year. God it felt good.

So, I know how you feel, man. But hey, you got through it. And for that, I salute you

/salute

 

[DuctTapeJedi]

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Man, that's awful. See if you can't sue the camp, or something for not doing anything about it.
Really, I don't even know what else to say to that...

Here's some kittens riding a vacuum cleaner, if that helps...

 

[dylanatthemovies]

Learn to fight. Absolutely mash everyone.

 

[BonsaiK]

Well, I find this a bit silly to say on the Escapist but here I go!
I want to tell you guys a little bit about how my past was, I know this will probably come out as a bit wee-booish but I don't mind, really, I don't.
So, it all begins when I start in kindergarden, where I don't have any friends, because the kids thought I spoke "strangely" and that was mostly because I couldn't speak normally as them, I just sat in my corner and read alot.
Now, I go into a pre-school if I remember that right and suddenly I'm stamped already as the weird kid, where I rarely spoke or stood up for my self.
So the teenagers of that school decided to start pick on me as well, you know by beating me up, suffocating me, calling me names and just right afront torture ( this was when I was 10).
Okay, nice to get that out, wait there's more.
I went into summer camp when I was about 13 where I was sexually abused, not rape, but groped on,pinned down and possibly more if I hadn't kicked his nuts.
Of course the people that supervised the area didn't consider this sexual, but "mindful childs play".
So I'm about 17 now and I was bullied for 9 years, any of you have similar stories?
Plus, what I have to remember of all this are the on and off nightmares, depression and sometimes I go into a suicide mode.
Nice to get that out, do you guys have any stories like this or could you guys advice me on how to forget this shit...

I had almost identical things happen to me at my incredibly violent and un-fun high school. After leaving that I was a shy 17 year old with severe depression and loneliness, who pretty much had "victim" stamped on my forehead. Now I'm 36, I have self-esteem, confidence, money, assets, a girlfriend people would jump off bridges for and a career so surreal that when strangers ask me "what do I do" to make small talk at parties they don't even believe what I tell them unless I also pull out some ID and a business card.

Wanting to "forget" your abuse, is the wrong way of dealing with it mentally. Rather than be in denial, why not have a Nietzsche-esque "that which does not kill me, makes me stronger" attitude? Getting fucked over at school by assholes yet surviving the ordeal means that you're a tough nut to crack - later on in life when people try to fuck you over in more subtle ways at work, or college, or wherever, you won't be afraid of anything. Whatever you do, don't kill yourself, because that will mean that the assholes won. Don't let them win. You're the real winner in this scenario if you choose to be. I'm almost certain that none of the assholes who picked on me back in high school did anything worthwhile with their lives once they left, seeing one of them in a welfare queue a while back is a treasured memory...