Things you blame your parents for.

[ReservoirAngel]

I blame my mum for everything. My dad never gave a shit, so he gets no blame for all the stuff that's wrong with me. My mum caused a lot of my social issues with her constant smothering and over-protective attitude, not to mention her casually destructive remarks about me which pretty much systematically annihilated any sense of self-esteem I might have had.

What am I saying "caused"? She still causes it. Whenever I try to tell her that I am, in fact, not a totally forgetful and useless idiot, she just laughs in my face.

She means it in a fun, jokey way but it makes me die a little inside and seek emotional support elsewhere.

EDIT: Also, I blame them for the unfortunate combination of their genes that combined to make me a shrimpy little wuss. My mum's tall and thin and my dad's short and built like a miniature brick shithouse. I'd have like to get the 'tall' and 'well-built' genes, but instead I got the 'short' and 'thin' genes leaving me in a state where I still need a fucking ID to get into 15-rated films sometimes.

 

[Fawcks]

I think we should take responsibility for our own lives.

Obviously someone wasn't beaten by their parents as a child.

I blame my parents for making me a social recluse too afraid to talk or interact with people comfortably.

 

[Dexiro]

I can say with utmost confidence that my parents are responsible for my incredibly low self esteem. Pretty much anything I accomplished other than the grades I got at school would be followed by "I don't care" or "that's shit" or something to the same effect.

Finally after some years of depression and shyness I've started finding it a lot easier to talk to people and I've picked up some awesome friends in College :3 I still find that I have a bit of an inferiority complex but it's leagues away from what it used to be.

Thought it was worth saying that I don't hate my parents for this in any way, they simply weren't that good at parenting at the time. And I very almost turned this post into a massive essay

 

[ApeShapeDeity]

At 23, who I am now is my own fault. I can't help but include at least my Dad as a cause of the massive fuck up I am now though.

Jesus Christ! Your dad's a fucking prick! I had an older brother with a psychotic disorder, so I know what it's like to live in shame and fear. I can only suggest to you, you might consider doing what I did. Deck the ****. I broke my hand and his jaw in 4 places. It didn't make me feel better, but it sure did change the dynamic of the relationship!

 

[UnendingLight]

Nature vs Nurture.

There are some parts of your behavior that are simply innate to you individually. But there is just as many traits that are part of you simply because of how you were raised.

While some things are really easy to tell who's fault it is, I don't like to play the blame game because it is usually a mix of everyone's fault.

 

[Yokai]

Homeschooling! Turns out, if you let an eight-year-old kid have complete freedom over his own education, he's going to run around all day and smash trucks together, and not really learn much. It made it incredibly difficult to adjust to high school when I went there, and I still struggle with procrastination, and tend to be apathetic about classes and work I don't find interesting.

Now, fair on them, the institutionalized and mind-numbing public school system kind of blows, but it's the most efficient way to prepare a kid for institutionalized and mind-numbing society as a whole, forcing them to adapt during their formative years. The idea of letting kids run free and pursue their own interests sure is a nice one, but the end result is a kid who doesn't understand that things will actually be expected of him when he grows up. Unless you want to live in the mountains your whole life, it's a bad idea to have not gone through elementary school.

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Fucking hell. I cannot profess to know what your situation's like, as I've been more fortunate. But what it really sounds like is that you just need to cut all ties with him. He's clearly an utter bastard whose disposition towards you isn't going to improve, so I'd just forget about him. You're an adult; he doesn't own you. His opinion does not matter. Let him think what he wants and make it very clear that you don't give a fuck. Live your own life--it'll be no poorer without him. Again, I don't know what you're going through, but this is what I would do in this situation.

 

[Kevonovitch]

i blame them for my existance. HEYO! XD

pretty much yeah.

 

[Flailing Escapist]

Me?

I smoke -> My mom smoked -> correlation?
I masturbate -> My dad mastubated -> gross?
My parents have legs -> I have legs -> Hmmmm

 

[Dags90]

I'd have like to get the 'tall' and 'well-built' genes, but instead I got the 'short' and 'thin' genes leaving me in a state where I still need a fucking ID to get into 15-rated films sometimes.

I bet that makes you popular with creepers though. You're legal jailbait!

IDK, I blame my mom for my inability to exercise (way to have three children with heart defects, mom) and my tendency to keep emotional distance in relationships. My parents weren't physically abusive, but most people who really know my mother (who raised us) thinks she's a bad person.

My dad is responsible for my ridiculous lankiness and bad joints.

 

[fulano]

Nothing, really. That's for tweenies and I'm a grown-ass man. To each their own, but I don't go around looking for reasons to complain.

Also, I got lucky 'cuz I've got a great Old Man.

 

[Plurralbles]

For me being short.

 

[kayisking]

I blame them for... me

Yes, that was a very bad decision indeed.

Joking aside, I had (and am still having) a great childhood so I could not be happier with them.

 

[daftalchemist]

I blame my moother for me not liking her. Seriously, it's her own fault and I wish she'd get it through her head that we will never be super best friends.

I also blame her for my younger sister's inability to grow the hell up, make good life decisions (such as not buying an $8000 used car when you only have a part time job at Target), and take care of herself. If that girl ever manages to move to a location even a mile away from my parents' house, I will honestly shit myself in shock.

I blame my dad for nothing. He's awesome. I wish he didn't have to put up with my mother.

 

[Jark212]

My moral code, my life experience, and my open-mindedness...

It's all their fault I'm a patient, understanding, tolerant guy who stands up what I believe in!!!

 

[StormShaun]

Frankly I dont think I have any jeans...hehe just kidding, but I think I have created my own genes or god did but still I blame them for...my older sister that has so morals or IQ what-so ever, for haveing no morals, not accepting me for who I am which is a gamer , also for getting annoyed at a the smallest things ever, geez but apart from those I think I have crafted a nice life thanks to myself...and them a bit for putting me through school and a home...pretty much it.

I blame my moother for me not liking her. Seriously, it's her own fault and I wish she'd get it through her head that we will never be super best friends.

I also blame her for my younger sister's inability to grow the hell up, make good life decisions (such as not buying an $8000 used car when you only have a part time job at Target), and take care of herself. If that girl ever manages to move to a location even a mile away from my parents' house, I will honestly shit myself in shock.

I blame my dad for nothing. He's awesome. I wish he didn't have to put up with my mother.

Please dont mention Target to me ever again since I work their...casual though, so please dont mention it before I jump out of my bedroom window...k thx

 

[barbzilla]

I blame my parents for the amount of time I had to spend breaking childhood habits once I got out of college. I still to this day am paranoid (had an abusive childhood [not terribly so mind you, but the occasional drunk beating here and there and you learn to tip toe {I am sure I deserved it occasionally though so can't fully blame them}]). Some things just take time to unlearn, others can not be unlearned. The trick is to learn to play to your advantages. Being paranoid I am very obsessive about my job and this works out well for me as I am in the video game industry (not in the part I would like to be, but hey a foot in the door is a bruised toe you know what I mean [not that they go around bruising my toe or anything]).

 

[Chromanin]

"The day the child realizes that all adults are imperfect, he becomes an adolescent; the day he forgives them, he becomes an adult, and the day he forgives himself, he becomes wise."

Let's just say I'll never be an adult. I blame my mom for only teaching me how to be the shiniest cog in the machine, and I blame my dad for teaching me nothing except that I better be everything he wasn't so that he can feel good about himself. It's mostly because of him that I haven't done anything significant in my life. I always did my best to spite and dissapoint him so that he would never have that satisfaction he craved.

My little brother got it worse than I did, probably because my dad saw that I wasn't going to produce anything for him. My brother seems to have gotten over it, though. So I guess he's more grown up than I am.

 

[newfoundsky]

I blame my dad for my hatred of drugs. Something about him throwing my mom down a hallway then me down the stairs while high on pills just ruined it for me I guess.

EDIT:

Look up till you see a wall of text. Read that.

 

[nbamaniac]

I blame em for teaching me how to drive but not giving me a car.

 

[SillyBear]

I think simple genetics dictates we can blame them for a hell of a lot. If we were so that way inclined, I'm not.