MoNKeyYy said:
Yeah, if you want the short version there it is in the title.
Here's the longer version. So I'm like best friends with this girl. I think she's awesome. I met her last year in drama class when we were paired to do a scene together. To me she'd always just been "That cute girl in drama, but that was the first time we really started talking or spending any amount of time together. Anyways, before long we started texting and stuff and hanging out and in a few months we were super close. At this point we're basically best friends. I feel like I can tell her almost anything and she's a great person to be around. She likes video games and she even played on our football team and we have everything in common. We're so close that since about march last year our friends have been bugging us about how we're in love and may as well be dating. No doubt if they ever saw this post and think "Ha I fucking called it". I actually have had feeling for her before, and she's had feelings for me, but all of 1 other person knows that. I've always loved her like a sister, but recently I've been feeling different. I feel like I actually have legitimate feelings for her. And it sucks.
As you can imagine I really value our friendship. Fucking it up over something like this is the last thing I want. I have no idea if she feels the same way, and I have no idea how she would react if I told her. I mean in my experience things like this can cause lots of problems. Besides that we've talked about this kind of stuff before in like a semi serious semi joking way but I don't know. I'd love to be with her but I don't know if it's worth our friendship.
SHORT VERSION: I'm falling in love with my best friend, I have no idea what to do and I'm hoping soemone can help. Thanks.
Anyways, I'm not even sure why I'm saying this. Quite honestly I don't think it'll affect anything. I guess I'm just clinging to the hope that someone will be able to say something or give me some advice so good that it brings me some peace of mind. I mean I know I'm not the first person who's experienced this. But yeah, if you think you can help I'd be much obliged.
EDIT: Thanks so much to everyone who's replied, I very much appreciate it. Also, I'd like to clarify that I'm not in love with her per say, that's just what I thought was the most concise phrase for my short version. I just think I have feeling for her that are more than friendship.
You remind me of myself a few months ago. I was in this exact situation. Like... exact. Except, you know, she was in a relationship.
However, 62 days ago (shutupimnotcounting) she said that she had feelings for me too. Even though she stayed with him... Well, I've realised that now I might have a chance in hell.
Look, as you said, she has had feelings for you. She is obviously attracted to you, to some degree. I honestly think that without the annoyance of her having a boyfriend, you stand an incredibly good chance.
And do not fret about her freaking out if you tell her. If she is really your best friend, she wont mind. My friend has been so kind to me about my feelings, even after she stopped liking me.
I know I'm really not one for advice, but if it's peace of mind you want, then things can only end well. If she rejects you, you will go end up going back to being this close, and if she likes you... well, it will most likely lead to something between the two of you.
I probably wont be too much help, but I have been through pretty much this exact situation. If you want any help, I'd recommend BonsaiK, but I would be more than willing to help out at any point. Just PM me if you want. No pressure.
Just keep a cool head. Things will turn out for the best. If you see an opportunity, you should take it. But yeah. Just relax!