Okay, let me clarify: for me, the expectation when I dine out/go to a bar is that a tip will be involved. Service doesn't need to be exceptional or even noteworthy, but as long as someone is treating me as a guest and isn't rude, irritated over my patronage, or downright bad at their job, I do not mind tipping nominal amounts that, when compared to the luxury of my being able to afford to dine out, are trivial.
I'm not irritated with anyone who wants to break out of an abusive system; I'm irritated that anyone complains about tipping after participating in the broken system they so loathe. If the system is so fundamentality unfair and broken, stay home! Vote with your wallet and let the broken system know it's not okay by you to underpay workers who rely on patrons' benevolence to make a living wage; that's fair! Don't dine out so you don't have to complain about the trivial expense of expressing appreciation in a nominal amount that might actually mean something to someone who, by choice or otherwise, waits on you.
But instead, what we have are people who go out to eat, order their steaks medium rare, and send it back when the steak is under-done. They ask for cleaner flatware. Extra napkins. They snap their fingers when their drink is empty. They expect to be treated like the most important person in a room of a hundred, and when the bill comes, and 20% is a suggested tip amount, they make TikToks about "the audacity" of the establishment suggesting they tip.
Agreed. So is the problem tipping culture, or a culture of employment that banks on tipping? Don't complain about tipping; complain that the employment structure relies heavily on tipping, then only patronize businesses that align with your values. Walk in, and before you order food or drink, ask what the staff makes; if it's less than minimum wage or any wage you deem fair, walk back out.