Too young to love?
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Yeah, basicly there is a maturity level you need to have to understand the concepts behind love, lust, or just simple infatuation with someone.
Well to be able to have a mature loving relationship, you might be to young, but just to love?Kyle Roberts said:
No, absolutetly NO!
Love ins't a logical or calculated emotion, it's not something that comes when we want or with the people we want (not necesarely, just look back at someone you have had a crush on a few years later, you'll be like; "him/her? Really? why?").
So age have nothing to do with it.
You cannot be to young to love, but as your teacher somehow got involved with this, you're probably much to young to handle a relationship.
I have seen many kids (and perhaps one or two adults) who are too young to love, at least love in the sense you mean. Judging by your reaction, I'd say you are one of them. I'm sorry, but the opening post makes you sound like that in my mind. If I knew you in person, perhaps it'd be different.
It was very fun learning about the meanings of 'enamoramiento', 'amor' y 'querer'. The difference isHentMas said:
'enamoramiento'- infatuation, lust, obsession, desire.
'amor'- fairy tale love, acceptance, true happiness, 'true love' would be the closest in English.
Edit: You mentioned waiting 3 months. That's the 'honeymoon' period, it differs for everyone. Usually you ignore all friends and ache when you're not with your significant other. My advice is to wait a good while after that before telling someone you love them, then you truly mean it!
If you're upset you broke up, OP, don't think too deeply about the love stuff. It'll come soon enough, no need to listen to anyone or make your own ideas! Play the field, get experience, and the right girl will come along, and you'll know you're in love.
I got into an argument about this with some guy I know a few months back. For some reason he texted me saying "I love it when 14 year old tell their GF's they love them" and I said "Well who are you to say they don't?" and he used a bunch of logical fallacies like "Well so and so would agree with me and he knows more about it than we do" as he usually does to try and make his point like he usually does but that's beside the point.
I made the point for anyone could love anyone at any age. Romantically, yeah they'd have to hit puberty first, but there really is no reason why any love between 2 individuals should be written off because of their age. True, more often than not relationships between 2 young people are pretty shallow and wont really blossom to a full relationship, but its presumptuous of someone to say that its impossible for someone under a certain age to love. I'd argue it has less to do with age and more to do with maturity, age is just a number. There are 40 year old men who are more immature when it comes to relationships than some 14 year olds.
That being said, I think older individuals like to think that stuff they did when they were little was stupid and didn't matter, like that girl you kissed in first grade or that time they cried when they didn't get something they wanted, but really everything we do shapes who we are. It may not be a big deal to them now that they have bigger problems, but those big problems they have now were nothing to them when they were a kid
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I honestly don't remember exactly what point I was trying to make... Hopefully whatever I was trying to say made its way in here... I must be getting old :/... Lol
I made the point for anyone could love anyone at any age. Romantically, yeah they'd have to hit puberty first, but there really is no reason why any love between 2 individuals should be written off because of their age. True, more often than not relationships between 2 young people are pretty shallow and wont really blossom to a full relationship, but its presumptuous of someone to say that its impossible for someone under a certain age to love. I'd argue it has less to do with age and more to do with maturity, age is just a number. There are 40 year old men who are more immature when it comes to relationships than some 14 year olds.
That being said, I think older individuals like to think that stuff they did when they were little was stupid and didn't matter, like that girl you kissed in first grade or that time they cried when they didn't get something they wanted, but really everything we do shapes who we are. It may not be a big deal to them now that they have bigger problems, but those big problems they have now were nothing to them when they were a kid
...I honestly don't remember exactly what point I was trying to make... Hopefully whatever I was trying to say made its way in here... I must be getting old :/... Lol
Hey, it's true, as you say, 3 months seems to be above average, so that is excellentTLS14 said:Wow. That's very nice of you to say. And good luck with your own relationship. I have a feeling that it will end up being much better than most nowadays. Seriously, people go out for 3 or 4 months, and then brag about it being the longest they've ever had? Damn shame...brandon237 said:You were both mature for your age and in love for at least the last 4.5 years of your relationship. Is that it? I get cookie now? Although seriously, that's damn impressive, and I'm happy for youTLS14 said:
My girlfriend and I are 15 and 16 respectively and we have been going out for just over eleven months, and most people are shocked even at hearing that
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Even one of my good friends said he wouldn't get a girlfriend because he would lose interest after 2 months :X Makes you wonder.And thanks, she is really awesome, so I hope so
I could say the same thing. But on further reflection, it's a lot easier to maintain a relationship for that amount of time when there are less expectations put on you.SckizoBoy said:
The reality is the older you get, the more is expected of you from your partner. From 12-19, you've got a free ride so-to-speak.
But really, Love is subjective. And the only way you can decide what your perception of love 'is' is through several failed relationships. Not that I'm hoping it happens, but because you need to have something to reflect and grow on. What you think Love is could be lust or even obsession.
People when they lack an appropriate reasonable way to prove some one's claims in a argument they profess that they are to young to understand or some other crap.
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