Trust?

[TheAceTheOne]

Yep. Anyone ever betray you so bad that you worry you'll be betrayed by someone else who has given you no reason to think that way?

(If that doesn't make sense, this story should add some background)

A few years back, a girl cheated on me with two guys at once. She then told me about it. I have trouble trusting my current girlfriend even though she hasn't done anything to earn any distrust. I try hard not to worry, but sometimes, the worry creeps back in and I get afraid that she'll hurt me too.

Basically, what I'm asking is: Have you felt like this? Did you do anything about it? Any words for someone who's feeling it?

 

[NinjaDeathSlap]

Yes, but I won't go into any detail because I'll be writing this for the next hour otherwise.

By the way, the way you feel right now is perfectly ok. So long as you don't get so paranoid that you're checking up on her every 10 minutes there's nothing wrong or abnormal about someone in your position occasionally finding it hard to trust the people close to you. Best way to deal with it is just to take the fact that it's only occasionally when you feel like this as a positive sign. You can't help the way your mind works, but the important thing is that you're not letting it control you and ruin your relationship.

When I had to face up to and get over my issues, I just sat down with my thoughts and after a while of soul searching, accepted that I can't stop myself from being hurt sometimes. No matter what I do to avoid it, there will always be points in my life when people I trust will betray me. It's an inevitability and as I always say "What's the point in worrying yourself about something you can't do a damn thing about?", another inevitability is that when you have been beaten down, your luck will always turn around sooner or later, so long as your ready to take every opportunity as it comes.