Un-anthropy.

[Doclector]

I'm going to talk about things, big, needlessly complex things that don't truly need to be discussed but I'm curious and contemplative and I need to be getting to sleep at a reasonable time tonight and the majority of my IRL friends either don't care or don't understand what in Fillion's name I'm going on about, so you fuckers are "it" again. Don't you feel blessed?

So. Un-anthropy. It's the term for feeling disconnected and seperate from the rest of humanity. Established in ye olde days of five minutes ago by the scholar and warrior poet known as me. It is not to be confused with Misanthropy, in which people hold a distrust or hatred for humanity, or the assumed flipside, erm...Pro-anthropy, in which people quite literally hug every human they meet.

I could be called an un-anthropist. I don't understand people, I don't truly even feel like the same species as them. A strange position to be in, seeming as I'm not typing this with tentacles or indeed, MY MIND, but with normal, human hands. Recent events on my facebook news feed have made me contemplate this, as many of my friends appear to have trouble with that most troublesome and ridiculously confusing human emotion, that L word. No, it's not fucking lesbians. Goddammit, stop making that joke. You know damn well what word I mean, and yes, I still have trouble actually saying/typing it.

Allow me to be clear. I don't feel better or worse than human. I don't see myself as higher or lower, but seperate. My aspergers could have something to do with it, but I suppose my obsessive appreciation of freebird could have something to do with living in the south in a past life. Point being I don't give a shit what it has to do with aspergers.

Anyway, does anyone else feel like that? Sometimes? All the time? Only on the second tuesday of the month? And no TLDR for this because, if you didn't read it, you wouldn't understand it, and then you'd be all "ZOMG LEES EMO MISANTHROPE FREDS HAV GOT TO STOP" and I'd die a little inside.

Captcha: Vegan zombie wants grains! Nobody ever liked you captcha. Not your friends. Not your parents. Not your constipated pig wife.

 

[Scrustle]

This stigma around the word "love" seems so pathetic to me. Everyone is afraid to say it for some reason, but people have no problem with acting as if they are in love when they are in fact not. I guess that explains why people are to paranoid about it. Things would be so much easier if people weren't afraid to just talk about it. Stop lying to each other and then maybe people won't be so afraid that they are being lied to.

But to answer your question, I guess I do feel a similar way. I don't feel like I belong in society. But I'm misanthropic too. I don't like how society works and I hate the human race. They're all selfish. I don't feel like I'm any better though.

 

[Phasmal]

Um. Not really?

Don't get me wrong, I'm socially awkward as hell and sometimes I don't understand people (especially strangers who wanna talk to me), but I wouldn't say I feel seperate at all.
I mean, everybody else has feels and so do I. We're all pretty much the same.
I have a lot of empathy (which is not really a good thing), so I guess it's easier for me to see similarities with other people.

I don't understand what problem you could have with `love` though.
I mean, everybody loves something. I love my boyfriend, I love my brother, I love crumpets, I love games.
Maybe I express love too easily, it was never a problem for me, I think me and boyfriend exchanged `I love yous` before we even started going out.
(And I'd argue that the love you feel when you start out a relationship is indeed love, but it's different, your love changes as the relationship progresses).

Also, facebook is a waste of time.

EDIT: I should also add that maybe that kind of thinking is putting you into a self-fulfilling prophecy kind of thing.

 

[Korolev]

No, not really. I sometimes feel as if I don't understand pop culture, and sometimes I feel that I am quite different from MOST people, but I know that I am human. That's just a biological fact. Also, I have found people I relate to and who I feel kinship with. Not many, but some.

We're all human. It's just that there are many different types of people. And that's fine. It would be boring if there wasn't.

 

[DugMachine]

Well I still have some shreds of social anxiety back from when I was a teen and am pretty awkward and shy if I feel any sort of hostility. But according to everyone i'm not shy nor do I act awkward so I guess it's all in my head. I don't know, I feel so different but at the same time I know i'm just like everyone else.

It's a strange feeling that's for sure.

 

[Doclector]

Um. Not really?

Don't get me wrong, I'm socially awkward as hell and sometimes I don't understand people (especially strangers who wanna talk to me), but I wouldn't say I feel seperate at all.
I mean, everybody else has feels and so do I. We're all pretty much the same.
I have a lot of empathy (which is not really a good thing), so I guess it's easier for me to see similarities with other people.

Fair 'nuff.

I don't understand what problem you could have with `love` though.
I mean, everybody loves something. I love my boyfriend, I love my brother, I love crumpets, I love games.
Maybe I express love too easily, it was never a problem for me, I think me and boyfriend exchanged `I love yous` before we even started going out.
(And I'd argue that the love you feel when you start out a relationship is indeed love, but it's different, your love changes as the relationship progresses).

Y'know when I used to be emo (yes, more emo than now. I've been chased out of forums for this shit, you guys are getting it soft) and genuinely "Thinking about killing this entire goddamn train carriage" misanthropic, I'd have said it's because I can only feel it, but it'd never be felt for me, thus resulting in a situation in which that emotion can only bring me pain.

Though that still probably is true, (and probably more my fault that my past self would admit) I don't linger on that fact as much as I used to, so that's not why I can't say it.

Could it be that as a film fan, that word is simply too overused to give it any more further coverage? Do I hate it's overuse that much? Quite possibly.

Honestly, by this point, I don't know.

Also, facebook is a waste of time.

What can I say, it's useful. Besides, it's one of those things I had to adapt to. A lot of people simply don't communicate over distance in any other way, and I enjoy keeping in touch with people when I can't actually be there in other ways than simple one-to-one conversations.

EDIT: I should also add that maybe that kind of thinking is putting you into a self-fulfilling prophecy kind of thing.

Perhaps, but it's not a kind of thinking I can pull myself out of. I've tried to be like everyone else, think like everyone else, to identify myself as "one of them", but it never quite works.

 

[MelasZepheos_v1legacy]

You say you don't feel able to connect with humans but you do so on a forum filled with us. Maybe the problem is more than In Real Life you can't find the right humans to be your friends.

This was a problem I once suffered from as well. Everyone at high school seemed so utterly inconsequential to my life, and their problems and woes seemed completely pointless. Who cared whether Katey with a -ey got with Sam even though Katie with an -ie liked him and he had been with Katy with a -y only a few weeks ago?

Then I got to university and found a kindred spirit. A very good friend who I still comnunicate with regularly (even though she's in sodding America now). Now at work I find myself again with a friend in my coworker, who actually quoted Nathan Fillion at me before I had even revealed that I was a fan of the man, (Seriously, that's why we're friends now)

And of course the knock on effect is that as I learned to be more human through my friends, I learned how to make friends who weren't similar to me, making it much easier to get along with the folks I met at open mic nights, who might not be quite so close, but are still friends.

So in summation, you clearly can connect with some people, otherwise you'd be a recluse. Maybe you just need to meet the right human being and it'll all turn out right.