Urk Moment

[Kakashi on crack]

Just wondering about this... I ended up going along with planning to ask my friend out when we all got back to school, but when I got to school, it turned out that she had transfered to another school. I still can get in contact with them via email, and I have her phone number, but this issue has nothing to do with that...

Now they had this other friend that I had ended up dating a year or so ago, we had a small thing, but we decided that neither of us were interested in an actual relationship status so we broke up. There was also this other person I met during a play, who while I didn't mind the person, they liked me, and I made it clear that I had no intentions of being in a relationship with.

About a week after the person I was going to ask out transfered schools, both of the other two started flirting with me. We'e good friends and all, but neither of them have done so in almost a year. It's got me confused now though, as I have to question our friendship. It makes me feel like there was some hidden reason why they had remained friends even though they knew I had the hots for someone else.

I want to remain friends with them, but at the same time, I just feel like they are taking advantage of the situation, and, to be frank, it kind of pisses me off, especially considering it's only been a week since even -they- found out about the other leaving... I don't really have any love interest in either of them for that matter.

So I got to ask, am I over reacting, perhaps I'm just a bit stressed, maybe I just have it all in my head? Any advice on this predicament would be appreciated.

 

[tharglet]

With your clear interest not in the vicinity, they probably see themselves as having a chance. I don't really blame them for trying - they probably perceive it's worth the shot. You'll have to probably tell them you're not interested in them to get them to understand that flirting with you will go nowhere, but that will risk upsetting them, if they have their hearts set on you.

 

[zombiesinc]

So I got to ask, am I over reacting, perhaps I'm just a bit stressed, maybe I just have it all in my head? Any advice on this predicament would be appreciated.

Perhaps a little, yes. It's understandable that you're noticing these things so much because you're focused on losing the opportunity to ask this girl you're actually interested in out. It's possible that these girls have always somewhat been flirting with you, or that knowing this girl is gone, they've felt encouraged to do so more noticeably. I doubt that they're trying to confuse you, or hurt your feelings though. If you're seriously not interested in either, and dislike them suddenly flirting with you, express this. If they take it personally, too bad for them. This has less to do with them, and more to do with you. If they're really your friends, they'll take it as is, and respect that. Still, I highly doubt they've been faking a friendship with you all this time.