To quote ZP - "The best way to blow off steam is to blow off someones nadgers"..
He's correct in a way, although that's not the whole truth, at least not for me. I'm a whiny pacifist, and liberal - I've not been in a fight since my little brother hit me with a hammer when I was picking on him too much. And yet I love blowing characters into tiny fragments.. It's fun and thrilling. And I think it's simply because I'm a bloke and I've been alive since the mid seventies.
I'd guess that most of the men here are fairly similar. We've all grown up in an era where we're supposed to be sensitive, have a soft side, be interested in our emotions etc etc etc and at the same time we're kind of conditioned that we should ALSO be strong, capable and generally not to be messed with. I'm not saying we're actually *told* this by anyone - but it's hammered into our brains from an early age by endless TV series featuring Caring Men or Jack Bauer.. Our girlfriends and wives will shamelessly drool over some muscled hunk in a movie and three minutes later tell us off for not buying them flowers in a while.
So most of us choose the easier option - the one that involves just being nice and caring and avoiding conflict. However, in this world we're constantly surrounded by people telling us what to do.. From our bosses/teachers, our girlfriends, wives, mothers, fathers, all giving advice, prodding us to do things a certain way (and yes, I do the same thing back - but forget about that for now

. Add to that list all the big faceless corporations who constantly ram advertising down our throats, and the bastards who send you letters saying they're going to take away your phone/house/car/possessions because you're a week late with a debt repayment.. Or the bank telling you that you owe them £20 and if you dont pay it back on time there will be repercussions (this coming from the people who've lost TRILLIONS and THEY'RE getting bailed out!).. And you have to.. And.. And..
And wouldn't it be GREAT if you were actually in CONTROL of your life for a while? Wouldn't it be GREAT if you were a total hardass? Wouldn't it be GREAT if you could actually DO the stuff your game character does? I have to admit, in all honesty, that I'd give my left nut to be like Neo in the matrix. Just being able to wake up in the morning and say "Well hey, I dont give a damn what the world throws at me because I know I could pull their kidneys out their noses if I desire". I'd love to be like Jack Bauer. Or even bloody Spiderman.
Of course, there is no way that I'll ever be able to do any of those things. I suppose I could go and learn Kung Fu or something, but to be honest I'm afraid of getting the crap kicked out of me whilst learning. So what I DO do is play violent computer games (and watch similar movies) because they allow me to fulfill the probably childish fantasy of being something I'm not. A total gung-ho ninja killer assassin who doesn't take any shit from anyone.
All I'm trying to say is that violent computer games offer us a chance to be something we're not - they allow us to be the hardest, the fastest, the strongest, the most dangerous and the one in control. Wanting to play them and enjoying them is NOT sick or depraved, it's nothing more than a release. If you really want sex but there is no willing vagina's around do you go out and rape someone? No, you sort yourself out. That doesn't make you a dangerous sexual deviant. If you want to scream at the world to back the hell off do you pick up a shotgun and wander down your local high street? No, you press a couple of buttons and make some red pixels appear out of some polygons. Does that make you a sociopath? No. If anything it'll probably allow you to chill out enough and face another day of putting up with the world.
My word, what a long, disjointed, rambling post. And it's my first one! Holy crap.