War Between Friends

[Krafty_Krocodile]

Okay, I hang around in a group of about 8-10 people, a few months ago one of them (I'm going call him A) got a girlfriend (I'm going to call her B) ever since he has been with his girlfriend he has been neglecting us, a few weeks later one of my friends (I'm going to call her C) in the group called him out on this and went the wrong way causing A to go off with B somewhere else, and the others seem to be able to talk to C and A, BUT C becomes annoyed at the fact that she caused this to happen, B and C have always have a difference of opinion. anyway's C came to me asking me what to do so I suggested for her to apologise to A and B, She only apologised to A, we got along for a short while but tensions between C and B increased, and caused another argument. now recently I've been hearing from A and B that C have been acting crazy and demanding that A to stay with her, that she's been calling A her 'soul mate' e.t.c

I want both A,B and C happy however this argument has been going downhill, where C has apparently hacked one of our friends to have a stab at A and B.

What should I do to help the situation? I've suggested making a deal however none of the parties wish to compromise, I've suggested to C leaving them and yet it doesn't work

 

[Imp Poster]

People are just going to do what they do. Can really stop them if they they don't want to be stopped. It seems C likes A and maybe even jealous of B. I guess you can tell C to get over it. The more she acts up, the more funny she will look when you guys look back at this situation 5 years from now. She has let things play out and that A might not stay with B forever. The more she tries to control the situation, the more she will lose in the situation and look foolish even.

I guess the only you can do is be there as a friend. Can't really help them if they don't want help.

 

[Kpt._Rob]

I'm going to take a wild guess, and say that you're probably in high school. Seriously, this kind of drama is just one of those symptoms of adolescence you'll have to deal with. They either will work it out, or they won't. Trying to interfere in such juvenile conflict almost always makes it worse.

 

[Simalacrum]

First off, I thoroughly suggest that you don't take sides. Try to give advice to both sides, but a) make sure that you don't give favour to either side, and b) that they know that you're not taking sides in this. When trying to help friends make sure you negate you're opinion upon either side.

Try and talk to each of the people, and ask them what they're issue is with one another. Then, express the views of the other party to the other people. So, find out why C is upset with A and B, and point her opinion's out to A and B (make sure to be very diplomatic when doing this - make sure they know that that isn't you're opinion, you're just conveying the other side of the story), and do the vice versa with C. Try and get them to talk to one another, not in an argumentative way, but rather as an expression of each other's emotions and opinions.

Make sure that they genuinely come to an understanding - being in a 'mutual respect' or 'agree to disagree' situation might result in tensions mounting once again.

So, basically, try and show that neither side is right OR wrong in this situation, and get them to genuinely talk about they're opinions/emotions to one another.

I don't know if this was useful advice or not... but I wish you the best of luck

 

[Naheal]

There's really nothing you can do at this point. If you try to press the issue, you're only going to make things worse. Chances are high that this will work itself out in he end. Patience is key here. Hang out with both groups when you want to and remain as a neutral party.

 

[ComicsAreWeird]

Just get along with everyone and let them sort it out. When you´re a teen, it happens all the time...it´ll sort itself out eventually.

 

[Yureina]

Okay, I hang around in a group of about 8-10 people, a few months ago one of them (I'm going call him A) got a girlfriend (I'm going to call her B) ever since he has been with his girlfriend he has been neglecting us, a few weeks later one of my friends (I'm going to call her C) in the group called him out on this and went the wrong way causing A to go off with B somewhere else, and the others seem to be able to talk to C and A, BUT C becomes annoyed at the fact that she caused this to happen, B and C have always have a difference of opinion. anyway's C came to me asking me what to do so I suggested for her to apologise to A and B, She only apologised to A, we got along for a short while but tensions between C and B increased, and caused another argument. now recently I've been hearing from A and B that C have been acting crazy and demanding that A to stay with her, that she's been calling A her 'soul mate' e.t.c

I want both A,B and C happy however this argument has been going downhill, where C has apparently hacked one of our friends to have a stab at A and B.

What should I do to help the situation? I've suggested making a deal however none of the parties wish to compromise, I've suggested to C leaving them and yet it doesn't work

This smells like a love triangle to me, or something similar to that. My immediate response to that thinking is simple: stay the hell away. That is not a mess you want to get caught up in. These people will go after eachother until they get sick of it, and you probably don't want to get caught up in that mess. The best you could do... is try to encourage them to cool off. Be the outside observer who tries to tell those involved that they should not let things go out of hand.

These sorts of messes happen sometimes. The sad thing is... if you are friends with both sides who are going after eachother, you don't want to pick sides or try to get yourself too involved. It hurts to see friends going after eachother. I have seen that enough times in the past. But... all you really can do is try to get them to not take things too far.

I hope it goes alright for you. :3
- Rei