Weddings - simple or extravagant?

[CartoonHead]

As some people rightly pointed out, my previous thread dealt only in marriages not weddings in particular. My title text probably understandably mislead a few with my mention of my friends' recent wedding costing around £20,000 sterling.

So, if you were to get married would it be an extravagant, expensive event or would you prefer a simpler, cheaper ceremony?

You could decide to detail both if you wish, by which I mean describing what would you want your 'perfect' wedding to be like and what would want your 'realistic' (i.e. financially viable) wedding to be like.

P.S. I doubt I will be posting in this thread as I don't feel the need to get married at all, so feel free to banter amongst yourselves.

 

[stompy]

Well, I'm not getting married soon (I hope), so all I can say is, at the moment of writing, I'd like a simple, inexpensive wedding that sees me enjoy myself because all my friends and family are present, instead of pulling my hair out because the photographer I paid a grand for didn't show up.

 

[standokan]

extavagant, because i'll only have one (hope so) in my life so it has to be the best.

 

[Lyri]

Whatever the missus wants in all honesty.

 

[Cpt_Oblivious]

Whatever the missus wants in all honesty.

That seems easiest. But if it were up to me it'd happen in a registry office then spend the £20,000 or so on a huge party.

 

[Cuniculus]

Simple. I hate ceremonies. I'd just sign a piece of paper in the courthouse if the chick was cool with it.

 

[Beefcakes]

If movies, television and magazine media have told me anything, its that I as a male will have no choice in anything when it comes to my wedding...
But, I'd like one, but I'm not overly fussed if its in a church or in a paddock or whatever, just as long as its with the women I love, I'll be a happy man

 

[Baby Tea]

I got married just over a year ago (May 2008), and we went simple.
And you know what? I'm so so very glad we did.

Not only are we not still paying off our wedding with loans (People do that), but you don't actually have time to enjoy the day. Seriously. You know what I remember about my wedding day? My wife walking down the isle, fumbling to get the ring on her finger, saying thank-you at the reception, and talking with a few people. That's it.

And that's not because I was drunk (I don't drink), but because there is so much going on! You've got people form out of town you have to talk to, things to look after, pictures to take, hands to shake, and then it's over. Done. It's one day, and it flies by.

Anyone thinking about having an extravagant wedding: Don't do it. The bills will last longer the the fond memories.
Just make sure you get a good photographer (We did!), because THAT lasts longer then anything.

 

[Clirck]

It's all about the afterparty, as am not married myself but been on several and I must say go simple party hard !

 

[LongAndShort]

I'd like to go simple. Just family and close friends. Its a big family but that shouldn't matter to much. Good food, plenty of booze and good music and i think everyone will be satisfied. I will say this though. I'd like to arrive at my wedding ceremony via parachute. It'd be fuckin memorable.

 

[Chimpzy_v1legacy]

Simple. If it were up to me, only family and close friends would be invited, though I'd let the latter bring a guest like their partner or the kids if they have any.

I feel reluctant to share something as significant as my wedding day with a whole bunch of sycophantic people I barely know, smiling through their teeth at me and wishing me luck, while in reality they couldn't give any less of a shit, and are more likely in it for a free meal and party.

You could say I prefer quality over quantity. it applies to people too.

 

[Nmil-ek]

Dont intend to get married not at this age anyway >_>

Would prefer the cheapest route but if she wanted it then who am I to deny.

 

[JanatUrlich]

Cheeeeeeeeeeeeeap

I don't wanna waste decent money on a wedding that I could spend on something else

 

[The Maddest March Hare]

Whatever the missus wants in all honesty.

This probably would be the easiest solution in the end. Perhaps try and persuade her to have a smaller wedding with a medium group of close friends and relations rather than one where everyone and their dog/mother/pet goat are invited.

 

[Andalusa]

If I had to get married, like a matter of life and death thing, then it would be simple. Very, very simple.

 

[LionsFist]

It's a hard point for most people as they have conflicting views on it.

Most girls since a very young age, have a view of a fairy tale, almost Utopian wedding in which they are at their crowning glory. This presents subconsciously a sense of the celebration actually being a representation of their success in life, moreso than a celebration of the union of two people. It's one thats supported a lot by the industry as it's one of their biggest selling points, as well as by other people who have already gone and spent a lot of money on their own wedding and want to continue to support it in their own heads.

This obviously openly contradicts the instincts that most people have of saving money for future needs, etc. If, for example, someone offered to give a ceremony as indepth as a wedding for another event arguably equal in importance, the birth of your first child, people would gawk at the thought.

Personally, while I understand that it is easy to get caught up in the frenzy and hype created around weddings, that I would much prefer a small ceremony. From a more sentimental point of view, I don't see my wedding day as a huge deal, more the many many years afterwards that I will be spending living and enjoying life with that person.

 

[New Troll]

Up to my love. I've personaly already had the glamourous wedding and to be honest, I was way to distracted by the beauty of my wife to even care. As far as I was concerned, it was her and I, and our pastor, and the rest of the world was gone.

 

[Cody211282]

Extavagant, I want it to be the best day for the woman I'm with, and I only plan on having one and lets face it it should be the best party you go to!

 

[Golden Gryphon]

This is a conversation I've had with more than one of my aunts.

Me: "If I get married I don't want to wear white."
Aunt: "So you want to wear ivory or cream then?"
Me: (pause while I figure out why you wouldn't class those as white) "Um... I was thinking more along the lines of wearing colour."
Aunt: "Oh, well something like lilac or pale blue would be nice."
Me: (mentally banging my head against the wall and wondering if they've ever seen me wear pastel colours) "Yeah, sure."

I guess I'd want a simple wedding mostly because as the bride I'd be the one expected to organise it.

 

[Erana]

My mother tells me of her wedding... It was big and beautiful.
Of course, one of my mother's friends knocked off the head of the ice swan. XD

Still, personally, I'd have a small wedding, or even just elope.