Well that was really weird

[ribonuge]

I was thinking recently about my ex and our break up. There was one thing that she asked of me a couple of weeks before the end of the relationship. She had already met my parents fleetingly and decided that I should meet hers as we had been going out for about a month at this stage. I was ok with it until she told me where I was to meet them. You see, her brother died about a year or two previous to me going out with her and it was his memorial in two weeks time. She wanted me to meet her parents at her dead brothers memorial, instead of at her house or some other venue. Now I know at first that doesn't sound so bad but if you think about it for a second, it would be absolutely horrific. Going to a memorial for her recently deceased younger brother to meet her parents who would be mourning him in some way. Not my cup of tea exactly.

But this is my point, does that sound weird to you guys? I never really found out if that is an abnormal thing to ask of someone and we had only been with each other for a month. I broke it off in the following week anyway for other reasons so crisis averted.

Aside from the above question, has any of your current or previous partners, asked you to do something that you felt was a bit weird?

 

[Cinnonym]

That's completely weird. She ought to be putting you in the best light possible as a potential long term relationship, not letting her bereaved parents compare you to her dead brother. I suppose the argument could be made that it would "mean a lot to them if you came", but...

I don't think I've been asked to do anything particularly strange. We're all pretty calm, laid-back people. Parents love me.

 

[Lord Mountbatten Reborn]

Not really the greatest of locales. The tried and tested, "meet-them-awkwardly-at-their-house" formula has worked fine.

 

[DazZ.]

Memorial for her brother should be about her brother, not about whoever she's dating meeting your parents.

Even worse if you didn't know him and were surrounded by folk that did, it's just not your place to be.

 

[SnootyEnglishman]

That's just awkwardly wrong and stupid on her part. I mean she must not have wanted you to be in a relationship that long if she took you to a memorial service to meet the parents for the first time.

 

[rockytheboxer]

That's an impossible situation that you should never have been exposed to; that girl sounds like she has issues. As for me, I'm a chef, and I got invited to cook thanksgiving dinner at my girlfriend's family's house. That was awkward.

 

[Distorted Stu]

Its a bit weird but it shows good standards to her parents. Shows that you care for her, i think that what she wanted.
Ive had a weird situation were i first met her mother at a canser reasearch thing.. akward..

 

[Soxafloppin]

yea it does sound wierd, You would be best just to go along with it though.

 

[S.R.S.]

Is this how it ended?

Yeah it is pretty wierd. I've been in weirder situations though. The first time you are alone with her father. This one time he asked me "have you had sex yet?" I had no idea how to take that. That was weird.