What does not hugging mean?

[Timzilla]

There is this girl in my school, who I'm friends with. I've been friends with her since 6th grade. Since then, I've met some of her friends too. When ever they walk into the room, the first thing she does is give them a hug.This isn't that odd, but the weird thing is, I'm the only one she doesn't hug. I didn't notice this until another one of my friends brought it to my attention a few days ago, and since then it's been nagging at me. Does this mean anything or am I reading to much into this?

 

[default]

She just doesn't want to give you the wrong impression mate. I know a few girls who think even hugging is flirtatious... Which you have to admit it is. She's clearly in the friend zone and wants to keep it that way

 

[stonethered]

Real quick; are you male and the other friends female?
Because that might be it.

If not, I can think of two possible reasons.
One; as stated above, she doesn't want you to feel like she's flirting with you. Which would certainly be nice on her part, that she's at least considered your feelings enough to not give you the wrong idea about how she feels.
Two; she might have a bit of a crush on you and doesn't know how to act around you. Which seems romantic, cute, and highly unlikely. If it's true, dear merciful Lord don't screw it up; I hate to see cute romances go awry.


Regarcless, I would try just asking her. Its amazing what you can learn about people by asking them.

 

[Simalacrum]

It's probably nothing dude, I wouldn't worry about it... Might it be that she thinks that you're not the type to hug? Try offering a hug to her and see if that changes anything

 

[Terminal Blue]

If you're friends, then I'd assume it doesn't matter..

Gender aside, there are just different friends you do different things with and there are a million and one reasons, some very complimentary, why she might not naturally think to hug you. As long as she doesn't prioritize her other friends over you or otherwise mess you around.

If you actively want to hug her you could always talk to her or just give it a try, just make sure it's natural and not too forced. If you know she's a bit down, for example, you could try offering her a hug in that context rather than just lurching out of the blue.

 

[Erana]

I don't like being touched by a lot of people because of the smell. Even if someone's clean, I wind up having their scent on me for hours. Some people bother me more than others, and if I'm used to someone, its not so bad.

Perhaps that's it?

 

[Timzilla]

Real quick; are you male and the other friends female?

She hug's every one of her friends, male or female.

If you actively want to hug her you could always talk to her or just give it a try, just make sure it's natural and not too forced. If you know she's a bit down, for example, you could try offering her a hug in that context rather than just lurching out of the blue.

It's not that I desperately want to hug her, it just strikes me as odd.

 

[khaimera]

It is odd. I suspect its her subtle way of saying "I don't like you as much as my other friends. I think you should ask her about it. Sure, its an awkward conversation, but what do you have to lose besides a friend that may like her other friends more.

 

[Flamezdudes]

She just doesn't want to give you the wrong impression mate. I know a few girls who think even hugging is flirtatious... Which you have to admit it is. She's clearly in the friend zone and wants to keep it that way

Not always... although sometimes it can be. Some girl's which are in my school hug people and yet aren't attracted to them. They're just being friendly.

 

[RaDeuX]

Like someone said before, there are many reasons why she might not hug you. She might like you, you might have bad hygiene, etc. We don't know her, and we don't know you either. I would simply ask.

 

[Doclector]

I'm not sure what advice I can give, but you're not alone in this kind of confusion. Around here, everyone seems to hug each other, except when it comes to me, for want of saying it in a way less likely for someone to post a "forever alone" meme...I wonder sometimes if I give people the impression that I don't "do" hugs. Maybe I just overestimate how much people do it. I ain't that bothered to be honest. It's nice, but I can live without it and if someone sneak hugs me, I am likely to take their head off as a kind of panicked reflex.

 

[Sneaklemming]

It could be that it's the others that initiate the hugs, not her. Why not try talking to her about hugs, it doesn't have a be a "why dont you hug me?" conversation. Just you know. Hugging in general.

Like what the other poster said, you can learn alot by asking/talking.

 

[6unn3r]

There is this girl in my school, who I'm friends with. I've been friends with her since 6th grade. Since then, I've met some of her friends too. When ever they walk into the room, the first thing she does is give them a hug.This isn't that odd, but the weird thing is, I'm the only one she doesn't hug. I didn't notice this until another one of my friends brought it to my attention a few days ago, and since then it's been nagging at me. Does this mean anything or am I reading to much into this?

Just go hug her next time you see her and say "Awwww thank you, you give great hugs." Maybe that will change things. Me personally i'll hug anyone whose up for it just hold out your arms like a little child would and it tends to work quite well, gives the impression that you need a bit of comfort and who can resist that?