what is maturity to you?

xPrometheusx

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maturity is the ability to keep in context, stay cool under pressure, and stay level headed no matter what's thrown at you. It's the ability to tell a that's-what-she-said joke but know when you've gone too far. It's the ability to tell a nazi joke while managing to not offend anyone. It's the ability to realize when your opinion is not wanted or needed and when you're in the right for telling someone off. Age has nothing to do with maturity, and neither does social status. It's all about personality.

Hmm... that was surprisingly deeper than I meant it to be. I must fix this

MATURISM IS BEEING L33T AT UR GAME.

That's better.
 

Zen Toombs

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aba1 said:
I find maturity to be the point in which you stop looking at how things affect you and instead how they effect everyone.
Come now, that's dangerously close to calling Republicans immature. :p

OT: For me, maturity involves some level of self-awareness and the ability to deal with the reasonable criticism of others.
 

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Dropping recklessness and impulses for more responsible matters. Not getting drunk the night before work/school. Driving in accordance to road rules rather than doing 30 Ks over the speed limit. Not getting McDonald's that one day in favor of having a little extra cash for bills or rent.

Just things like that.
 

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aba1 said:
I find maturity to be the point in which you stop looking at how things affect you and instead how they effect everyone.
More or less yeah.

I was going to say "when you stop relying on other people, and other people rely on you", but your version is better.
 

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Looking at what is best for everyone involved rather than you personally, and not being petty/reckless, etc. Actually, this is a harder question than I thought. Doing what needs to be done to resolve the situation when the situation requires resolution? I don't know. It's not just being serious/risk-averse. Acting towards the best and safest outcome for everyone?
 

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Most of the things people mentioned are aspects of it, but people can be stoic and unselfish for rather childish reasons.

If I appear to not care, but it's because I don't want to make myself vulnerable to others, it doesn't mean I'm mature. If I know a lot about the world, but only so that I can one up people in a conversation, i doesn't make me mature. If I don't laugh at dirty jokes, but only because I don't want to be frowned at by an authority figure, it doesn't mean I'm mature. If I hold a position of authority, but use it to impose petty whims on people, it doesn't mean I'm mature. If I appear selfless, but it's only because I desire the praise such people have been given, it doesn't mean I'm mature.

Mature is being able to ask "Will this matter in a week? A month? A year? A decade? A century?" and come up with an honest answer. Mature is understanding what makes something petty to a degree that it can be intuitively viscerally contrasted with one's emotions and reasoning. In a word, maturity is about perspective.
 

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Maturity, like most things, is fully affected by perception. It is a trait that is assigned to people by others, but is shaped usually by a small aspect of their life.
For example, some people would call me mature because I have high level views on global affairs, or because I have a large ammount of emotional intelligence when talking to people face-to-face! On the swich side, however, other people who see me very drunk the night before work, or see me fluster and fold in on myself at the slightest mention of sex, may accise me of being immature...

So which is correct? Well, both and neither! Maturity is referring to your actions individually and is a comparitive quantity based on the accusor's own actions or the perceived national average!
 

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No one can be mature all the time. For every situation, there is a mature & immature response.
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*Keeps emotions in check. (Failure = Guys who get into public fights of any kind, grown women who cry for any reason other than trauma or major loss).

*Does not use tantrums to try to sway opinions, does not try to destroy something many people love because they personally dislike it, avoids scapegoating or hating on things because it's trendy. (Failure = Strict parents, politicians).

*Puts health before pleasure or reputation. (I love CultMoo & they seem like nice guys, but they're both going to die of liver failure at an early age between the beer & hot peppers).

*No longer remembers what it was like to be young & is therefor unable to sympathize, empathize, or compromise with their children. (Strict parents have basically reverted back to the little sociopaths they were as babies).

*Has a job, hates it, but continues to work there instead of finding something fresh the minute tedium kicks in. (Failure = Me).

*Is in financial debt & knows the value of a dollar. (Failure = Shopaholics who have tons of credit cards).

*Has given up on things like spite & vengeance. (Unless it's being dished out legally in court).

*Capability of being completely responsible longterm for another life. (Parents, pet owners, caretakers).

*Doesn't write or draw copyright infringing fanfiction or fanart porn & post it on the net for all to see & never be able to unsee, especially if it promotes taboo subjects like bestiality & paedophilia. (Failure = Half of Deviantart users, mangakas, hentai game developers, Furries).

*Doesn't troll forums or chats. (Games should honestly just disable chat for anyone under 18).

*In reviews, leaves constructive criticism with proper spelling & grammar instead of "this sucks." (Failure = 90% of Blackberry Playbook app users, Youtube & Cracked commenters).

*Has realistic expectations about things. (Failure = People who leave negative reviews on freeware apps, couples with low budgets who expect realtors to find fully furnished homes with all their must-haves & no renovations).

*Swears naturally, but doesn't go out of the way to abuse swearing like it's going out of style.

*Puts needs over wants. (Failure = Hoarders).

*Doesn't have a maxed out character who hangs around low level areas to kill noobs & alts, doesn't stubbornly cling to a game & declare any remotely similar game as inferior, can handle criticism of favorite games without flying off the handle & going into an endless debate.

*Posts comments that are on-topic, does not go out of way to incite arguments. (Failure = Youtube commenters).

*Knows that you catch more flies with honey than vinegar. (Failure = People who contact support/customer service barking demands instead of making polite suggestions).

*Does fact-checking instead of immediately believing something they read or heard & spreading it.
 

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Naw, you guys are making it way too complicated. Maturity can be summed up as follows:

The ability to study any given problem or scenario with objectivity and come to the best conclusion in a calm and collected manner. And if that conclusion requires action on the part of the person in question, they must be willing to follow through with it.
 

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To me it's pretty much acting like an adult? That mean being non childish about things and having a respectful/ calm or collective approach to things and to follow it through like an adult would do (I mean a child may avoid it or try to get out of it).
 

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It means being able to enjoy life, including the things you liked from your childhood and still be adult enough to work, pay bills etc.
 

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Taking responsibility for your decisions and following them through no matter the consequences, and supporting others that you care about if they need a helping hand. Also, being able to tackle problems seriously and get something done without being asked.
 

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sextus the crazy said:
Understanding the consequences of one's actions and accounting for them.
This is how I think of it. Acceptance of personal responsibility.
 

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omega 616 said:
I consider it to be when you face up to stuff, you don't blow off work cos you got drunk the night before.... You don't even get drunk, maybe drink but not passed out in a gutter.
this is it for me.
The less hang over and drunk black outs I have, the more mature I feel. LOL
 

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Respecting, and valuing your life and the life of others, and taking responsibility for yourself in everything you say, do, believe. Do those three things and everything else is an extension of that. Respect, value, responsibility.
 

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My aunt has always said that being grown up means being who you want to be and not worrying about what others think (well, her original statment was along the lines of "growing up and realising you don't have to", but that's the spirit of it).

As has been pointed out, maturity is such a diverse thing to define. To me, though, it's having some sort of idea where you're going in life - whether that's a career plan, realising what kind of person you are, or deciding against buying that new console because you really can't afford it.

I guess at the heart of it maturity is about growing into a responsible adult. It doesn't mean you can't make dick jokes anymore, but more that you realise when's not a great time to make 'em.
 

Hagi

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Taking responsibility for your actions and making your own decisions.

Not to imply you shouldn't listen to advice though, ignoring that is pretty stupid.