What is the pettiest reason you wouldn't go out with someone or cause you to break up with someone?

[Yopaz]

You talk to me too much. I don't like being texted 'hey'.

I actually had a really good first date, but never had a second because the day after the date she tried to start three different convos about absolutely nothing.

Yeah, I've had something similar to this quite recently. This girl sent me messages 3 or 4 times during a single day, which I don't really mind, but it was the nature of each message. It was all about how I never had time to talk to her and how I was cold for ignoring her and that I should pay attention to her. It had been less than a day since we first started talking. At the end of they day I had to tell her that this just wouldn't work. I had told her that I was working and that I would talk to her as soon as I finished. I got messages after that to which I replied when I thought I would be finished. I can't imagine that a relationship with her would have ended well for either of us and I told her that I would rather end it now than to push it further and make it hurt worse later. She got quite pissed. I guess I got off easy though.

Edit: I have also been hesitant to go out with a girl because of her age. She was 18 and I was 25. I thought it was kinda creepy that she would even be into me.

 

[chocolate pickles]

If they voted leave in the recent referendum I won't give them the time of day unless they had a really damn good reason.

Guess I'm the opposite. Most of the people who voted remain were extremely obnoxious to anyone who dared have a different opinion to them. Unless they could show they actually had respect for other people's opinions, it would be a no.

 

[Hieronymusgoa]

Moustaches. Regardless of your looks a moustache will kill ANY interest I otherwise might have in your exterior. Mind you that is before I get to know someone. If i know someone who grows one I will simply shave that off during the night #notcreepyatall


I can't think of anything petty apart from that, it seems petty to me at least

 

[kenu12345]

I don't really have any petty reasons, but my one friend can't stand people who do too many mouth noises or likes this one band where you can hear mouth noises in every second of their songs

 

[Kajin]

Bad table manners and no idea how to use a knife and fork. I had one date with a girl from college and I couldn't handle watching her eat. She held her fork in a fist, stabbed it into a pork chop, cut it like a log, change the fork into her right hand and ate with her mouth open. Never bothered to contact her again, though I don't know whether or not I should bee upset or grateful that she never contacted me either.

This isn't really related, but you pretty much just described exactly how I eat. It was literally scary. But I feel kind of better now, knowing other people eat as badly as I do. I drive people into a frenzy when they see my clumsy attempts to use cutlery. I do the hand swapping thing as well because my other hand his pretty much useless for other tasks, so I switch cutlery back and forth to my dominant hand in between cutting and eating. I've improved somewhat though, I used to only eat with one hand, just stubbornly refusing to use a knife for anything. I at least hold it now.

Do what I do and just cut the whole thing up before you eat it. That way you don't have to worry about awkwardly holding or using a knife while eating.

On Topic:
Probably the most petty reason I could have for not dating a girl would be if my parents are aware of her existence. They just get so excited and can't stop wanting to talk to me about my love life, even though I absolutely despise talking about my relationships and make that point very clear to them. Here's a typical conversation with my dad when he knows I have a girlfriend:

Dad: You taking her anywhere this Saturday?
Me: I don't wanna talk about it.
Dad: Well why don't you?
Me: Because I don't like talking about it.
Dad: Well?
Me: Well what?
Dad: You taking her anywhere?
Me: *sighs*

Imagine different variations of that conversation every five minutes for hours on end. I've broken up with girls before just so I could tell my parents that I'm no longer dating anyone and they can stop bothering me now please. It's probably the most petty thing I can think of since it doesn't even have anything to do with the girl in question, but my god it's so frustrating you guys have no idea >.>

 

[SirSullymore]

Dated a girl, didn't giver her much attention and she was not a fan of that. Thing is, she didn't really grasp the reason I didn't give her attention was that I was working two full time jobs, 80 hours a week with no days off (btw, she had never had a job and we were in our 20's).

Also, she got pissed with I refused to come visit her in a snow storm (btw, she never had driven a car and we were in our 20's).

So I guess not being understanding of what I have to go through is my biggest peeve. She's was the only girl I ever broke up with, I've been the dumpee every other time. Haha

 

[springheeljack]

I won't date anyone who doesn't have a neck. I mean how can you expect me to stick out my neck for you when you literally can't do the same

 

[Eclipse Dragon]

Ok if they said Dragonheart sucks, we're done here.

What if they say Dragonheart 2 sucks?

 

[JUMBO PALACE]

Someone who's out of shape.

I'm no Mr. Universe, but I like to stay active (martial arts, parkour, bicycling, etc). And I simply can't be around a girl who doesn't.

One time I met a girl on a dating website and her picture and profile were just stunning. We talked on the phone and hit it off. But when we met in person she had...shall we say..."let herself go". Add to that, she said she became "anti-exercise" because she was tired of staying fit for other people. She also didn't care about their opinions on her appearance or physique.

That was an instant "nope". One, I like to stay in shape for myself. I feel better and I get to stave off all those health hazards that run in my family (high cholesterol, high blood pressure, etc...). Two, I like doing outdoorsy things on dates, so someone who's not into that wouldn't be a good fit for me.

And three...I'll admit it. I'm shallow.

I really don't think there's anything shallow about not being attracted to people who are out of shape. As someone who lost 100 pounds and lifted my way back up to some decent size, I know what it takes to stay healthy and in shape, and clearly you do as well. All of that anti-exercise crap seems like a very recent thing people like to use so they don't have to put any effort into being healthy and attractive because Tumblr said they were beautiful. I know that sounds a little crass but the extreme side of that trend is honestly frightening. If you like women who are fit, great. If you like women with some more meat, also great. But it's okay to have different tastes.

I met up with a girl I found online who ended up being much bigger than her photos made out. I spent the night at her house (after she became embarrassingly drunk) and had to turn down her advances because I was just so uninterested in her body. I'm sure another guy would be all over her but that's just not for me. I won't apologize for liking what I like. It's the same situation as if she wanted me to suck on her toes and I wasn't interested in doing that either. Just not my cup of tea.

There's also a philosophical element. Maintaining a fitness regime highlights discipline and dedication to something that isn't at all easy. I find that attractive. Not to mention the fact that I also enjoy out-doorsy activities, rock climbing, and the like. I'd prefer a woman who can keep up or surpass me even.

All that being said, my (not so) petty deal breaker is drugs. I don't mind drinking or weed but as soon as you start getting into the hallucinogens I start getting red lights in my brain.

 

[Pyrolithic]

A lot of people are listing things like physical attraction as "petty" criteria, but I'm not sure that really qualifies, since that seems like a pretty big deal. Shallow? Maybe, but it seems to me if something about someone's appearance is a major turn-off, that's probably not something you can really "get over".

But on-topic, I once declined going on a second date with one girl, in part because her car was a mess, garbage in the footwells and in the back seat, that kind of stuff.

 

[McElroy]

Dated a girl, didn't giver her much attention and she was not a fan of that. Thing is, she didn't really grasp the reason I didn't give her attention was that I was working two full time jobs, 80 hours a week with no days off (btw, she had never had a job and we were in our 20's).

Gotta ask, was it all worth it? Did you realize at the time there was zero chance of the whole thing working out with those hours? I imagine working 80h/w would leave me with no time or energy to even entertain the idea of a relationship much less actually being in one.

OT: I actually maybe got one - the girl would be bisexual. I'd just get paranoid that someday she'd dump me for that chick we had a threesome with.

 

[GeneWard]

How they laugh.
Stop it.

You sound like a fun guy

 

[Addendum_Forthcoming]

You sound like a fun guy

I'm sorry, maybe I misread the title of the thread. I thought it was about all the times we've been incredibly shallow and had ridiculous standards that are ultimately horrible ways we treat others.

 

[EeveeElectro]

We went on one date. He had horrible, rotten and missing teeth. I remember saying on a dating page that good hygiene/oral hygiene is a must if I want to date someone and loads of people (all men) jumped on me for it saying I was shallow and petty and disgusting.
I've lost count of the men who say "I wouldn't date a fat *****/someone taller than me/someone with dyed hair/someone who isn't a virgin, etc" but god fucking forbid I have standards. I don't want anyone's mouth near me if it's mucky. Fuck knows what the state of his dick must have been like, I didn't stick around long enough to find out.

 

[MetalDooley]

An annoying voice.

There's a girl I work with.She's really nice and quite good looking but I could never date her because Great Odins Raven does she have a voice like nails on a chalkboard.And just to top it off she's really loud when she's talking

I don't find you attractive. Maybe your nose bothers me. Maybe you have a bit too much weight. Maybe too little weight. Maybe your breasts are too big or too small. I don't know. It could be any number of things. You could have a perfect personality that gels with mine on an unbelievable level, but if I don't find you physically attractive, that's it.

I don't see how that's petty at all.Being attracted to someone is a pretty important thing in a relationship

 

[Lightknight]

SNIP

What about lesbian Pokemon? I wonder if that's okay...

Not going to google it while at work, but this has me wondering, while I know there are gay (male) animals in nature, do we have incidents of lesbian animals?

 

[ShogunGino]

This is a more recent peeve of mine, because of how a family member did this too me, but I'm turned off by people who love their pets too much. By 'too much', I mean things like not considering it a problem that the pet does somethings destructive to personal property, or ignores bad behavior out of an intense need for constant attention. Also, I don't think I'd get along too well with those people who constantly take pictures of their pets to post online.

Reason for this is I spent a year and a half in my parent's home after college, and my mom's new dog had infinitely more say than I did. I absolutely refuse to put myself into another similar situation ever again. It's all a shame because I do really like animals, and I have nothing against having pets you love dearly, but that year and a half has made almost not want to have one ever again, since I cannot live with clingy pets who are difficult to train, and I'm sure I can't live with the kind of persona who can live with them.

I guess I'm saying that I won't be with a woman who puts a pet before me. That does indeed sound selfish and petty, but I've been on the receiving end of someone who does do that. Never again. Never.

On other topics, I agree with the guys who can't stand people who just text 'hey'. I'm not a big texter, and impulsively demanding an empty conversation to entertain you because you're bored and can't find literally anything more important or engaging to do.

I'd also say I'm someone who can't stand annoying laughs. Honestly, I might tolerate it if they don't laugh that often, but in my experience, people with the most annoying sounding laughs are usually the ones who laugh quite a lot. My supervisor at work has a really annoying laugh, and he laughs at the end of practically a third of the sentences he speaks. One guy at a volunteer center I sometimes do work at has an annoying laugh, and his station is right next to mine, and if their group talks about something that amuses him, oh boy, do I want to strangle him.

 

[FPLOON]

For me? I'm not actually sure, since I haven't actually been put in a position where it matters.

This to a T! I mean sure, I allegedly had someone in high school who could never find that "right" time to ask me out... But, I'm pretty sure I would have said yes because, back then, I secretly had jelly feeling towards my best friend dating WAY before he started dating a mutual friend of ours... And I still can't let that shit go...

Other than that, I have pictured some petty reasons why someone wouldn't go out with me no thanks to that one older friend from high school (who wasn't my best friend) flirtatiously nitpicking my flaws while "vicariously rubbing my pant's crotch", as they would put it... Thank glob I wasn't that into them to begin with otherwise I would have been fucked like the virgin pervert I am...

 

[LetalisK]

I've terminated a date before because I got a booty call from another chick.

 

[Lufia Erim]

Someone who's out of shape.

I'm no Mr. Universe, but I like to stay active (martial arts, parkour, bicycling, etc). And I simply can't be around a girl who doesn't.

One time I met a girl on a dating website and her picture and profile were just stunning. We talked on the phone and hit it off. But when we met in person she had...shall we say..."let herself go". Add to that, she said she became "anti-exercise" because she was tired of staying fit for other people. She also didn't care about their opinions on her appearance or physique.

That was an instant "nope". One, I like to stay in shape for myself. I feel better and I get to stave off all those health hazards that run in my family (high cholesterol, high blood pressure, etc...). Two, I like doing outdoorsy things on dates, so someone who's not into that wouldn't be a good fit for me.

And three...I'll admit it. I'm shallow.

Ha. Im the complete opposite. At the moment I'm considering breaking up with my gf of 5 years because she started going to the gym a couple of months ago and lost 14 pounds.

I'm shalliw in the opposite direction. I like my girls fat. My current gf was around 280 pounds before going to the gym. And i loved that. But now she is losing weight and it is apparent, i am slowly losing any attractiveness ( and a little respect) for her. I wont stop her from going mind you, but i am not happy about it.

OT: Petty huh? I actually broke up with someone because she was too nice. It sounds silly but this girl had either no mean bone in her body or was incredibly fake. I couldn't tell. Real people are not like that!

Also there was a girl i dated for 3 months. I have never seen her without makeup. Ever. First thing she'd do in the morning was put make-up on. I learned then and there that i prefer my girls au natural. So much so that it is someonething i will tell a woman on a first date ( or pre-date).