What makes the best relationship?

[DemonicVixen]

As most of you have probably noticed, I have mentioned in some of my posts that I have a boyfriend. For me he is the best a girl can get. He is kind, generous, funny, and never puts himself first.

I want to know about the partners you have had. What they were like to be with and why. Please do not use names in case it upsets someone. I want NO malice about ex-partners either thank you.

Also what you want in a relationship. Maybe you are looking for the right one. Describe what you are looking for.

 

[Inverse Skies]

Ahhh the ex. It's hard not to be slightly spiteful towards her, we did after all live together when we broke up, and splitting money and furniture and a place is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. Not enjoyable in the slightest. I've got someone I'm interested in, if it doesn't amount to anything then I don't mind, I enjoy being single as well and enjoy living by myself, so I'll be happy either way.

Your relationship sounds good, I hope it all goes well for you.

 

[New Troll]

Still waiting for my wealthy cougar to come into my life and tear me to pieces...

 

[Daveman]

The best relationship is one with one more attractive person with low self esteem and one less attractive person who realizes this and together they believe they are the best each could hope for because they're frightened of being alone.

Perfect.

 

[damselgaming]

Myself and my boyfriend are like the real life Doug and Carrie Heffernen (King of Queens). Except he's not fat, his boyish metabolism is still hanging in there. We've lived in the same house for about a year now. At the moment i'm living with him and 2 of our friends in a student house. We have diferent rooms because I like my space, and he refuses to live in a room with a masses of semi-naked hunky men on the wall. We both have different interests but very similar big ones too. The love of 80's action movies, gaming and wrestling (despite how bad unentertaining it's got). You know you've got it good when you watch the TLC matches on your anniversary.

 

[Parallel Streaks]

A good relationship takes time, enough similarities to have conversations, but enough opposing views to still bring conflict, an at least basic physical attraction, the drive to try new things, and loads of fucking luck. One of the two having at least a basic sense of humour is also helpful.

I have managed to find this in a guy, let's just hope it lasts, eh?

 

[DemonicVixen]

A good relationship takes time, enough similarities to have conversations, but enough opposing views to still bring conflict, an at least basic physical attraction, the drive to try new things, and loads of fucking luck. One of the two having at least a basic sense of humour is also helpful.

I have managed to find this in a guy, let's just hope it lasts, eh?

yeah I am with you on that one. I want this relationship to hold. He means more to me in just a few weeks then my 3 year relationship did. That is saying something lol.

 

[BonsaiK]

I've had a lot of girlfriends and listing how everything went down with each one would be way too time-consuming not to mention heartbreaking so I'll skip that bit.

As for what I'm looking for... I don't like to have anything specific in mind. Obviously I have to be attracted to them (although what I find attractive in girls differs fairly wildly from the norm at times) and we have to click on a mental level as well, she also needs to be intelligent, apart from that I'm pretty open to suggestion. I find that whenever I build up in my head a fixed idea about what I want, some girl comes along who completely shatters my preconceived ideas about what an ideal partner is or should be. Better to just live life and see what comes around the corner...

 

[ZerOmega]

She liked me...

She really did...


Edit:

*ahem*

To be a bit more specific, the girl that I had a brief relationship was one of the best I've ever had thus far. It was mainly thanks to her personality. She shared all of her thoughts with me and liked everything that I was or did to the point that I had to ask her if she was geing genuine or not. She clames that she was, and I have no reason to doubt that. I was there to fill the hole that she from her last relationship and the role suited me just fine. We spend most of our time in each other's hands and we wanted nothing less.

For some reason she send me away...

Lured me in, took what she wanted and said goodbye.

almost makes me feel like used condom.

 

[rokkolpo]

well i,ve had girlfriends but i don,t think i ever experienced love.
more lust, so yeah love is a thing i would like to try.

 

[Blackadder51]

One that is built on trust, love and sacrifice.

 

[God's Clown]

Interestingly enough all my ex's hate me completely. I am not good with break-ups, so I make an ass out of myself.

As for what makes a good relationship - trust, keeping ego out of it, ability to listen, and talk things through. Those are a few good things to have.

 

[Doktor Merkwurdigliebe]

I am still waiting for my red-haired Commander Shepard riding in a silver Mako to take me away.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jdug6yHJB40
So ronery...


EDIT: Actually I'm not looking for a female, because the relationship might intervene with my future career.

 

[ThreeWords]

Almost perfect spelling! Congratulations!

OP: I like a girl I can share interests with that is on the same plane of intelligence and creativity I am. I hate talking down to people and I hate people talking down to me.

She also has to be quite, quite mad.

This, pretty much.

My girlfreinds have to be both as clever and as mad as me, else at least one of us ends up confused way too often. Needless to say, if you've met me, that since someone with a mind like mine is rare, I consider myself evtremely lucky at the moment =D

 

[RetiarySword]

I would like a girl with a nice body, good curves. Yea it is a bit vain to put it as my first point but looks to me are important. She also has to be athletic, cute face, the works.

Personality wise:
She has to be intelligent so I can hold serious conversations with her, without dumbing anything down.
She can't be too much of a girly girl and shes got to like doing.. well manly activities. I enjoy Aikido, Parkour, shooting, hiking, camping, kayaking, climbing, also games. Thats another one she has to like games and not consider them dumb and for kids.
She must have a logical mind, dealing with problems scientificly and well.. logically instead of using feelings and stuff as her moral compass.
As an extra she must care about the enviroment.

NOTE:
I just realised, if I turn gay, my search would be much easier as I could get with Ray Mears:

He's kinda curvy I guess...

 

[Arkhangelsk]

What I want in a girl? Hm... Let's see:
- Smart, so I can have intelligent chats with her.
- Cute, don't know why, but I prefer cute over hot.
- Fun sense of humour.
- Not too feminine, I know a bunch of girls who are so annoying just cause they're so girly.
- Someone I can talk to about anything.
- Emotional. Mainly cause I am and there are very few people I can talk to about it.
- She has to get me. It's all for nothing if she doesn't understand or know me properly.

When it comes to physical preferences:
- Dark hair.
- Tall (ironic, I'm 5 feet tall)
- I like curves.

Unfortunately, I've never been in a relationship. But I wish I was. I'm one of those 'desperate for love' kind of guys.

 

[PurpleLeafRave]

One word for you:

Sex.

How could you!

OT: I like dark haired girls who are smaller then me. And It's horrible if they're too thin.

I know this sounds weird, but i like loud girls who are the lives of the party, mainly because thats what I like to do, but they have to be able to sit down and talk about stuff too, and be emotional.

 

[brighteyesblackenedlungs]

well the question is best not most emotionally healthy so

for me the best relationships i've had so far have been impulsive and haphazard, they've been with people who appreciate the importance of a moment or a story, that the memory of one amazing weekend is worth more than 3 months of dinner cinema dates. They've burnt fast and burnt out but they've been valued.

I've tried the long term stuff but they inevitably end up with me being called names, it's not that I'm against commitment or whatever it's just most of the long term things i've been in have been with the type of people who want to know everything about you and everyones got shit they don't like to talk about, I just don't see why my past is so important to knowing me in the present.

If i could just find a girl who loves Rzewski, poetry, Dinah Washington, and classic horror who doesn't ask so many bloody questions I might be on to a winner


but yeah it's always been unpopular to say but good sex is important

 

[SomethingUnrelated]

Your spelling and grammar have improved. You've earned this:

Welcome to the Escapist.

OT: The last relationship I had ended messily, but it was a good on while it lasted. She was good looking, and had the generically good personality (ie. smart, good sense of humour, etc).

 

[katsa5]

I've had two relationships before I met the man that would be my husband. The other two were Jocks. He was one of those quiet, larger than most (height and mass, not weight), intellectual that hangs out in the back of the room. What he has that the others didn't was a mutual respect and openess (cliche i know, but its a big deal). And he was totally romantic; still is! And he was the one to introduce me to all things gaming; a gift that lasts forever, friend. *wink*