What should I do?

[InnerRebellion]

Ok. This senior girl, who happens to be 18, likes me. And not just as a friend. I can't stand being rude to girls, so I haven't rejected her. But she keeps insisting that she wants to help me and knows she can.

Now tonight, I was talking to her, and she went and got drunk, and started pouring her heart out to me. She keeps insisting she won't be like the girl who I'm still deeply in love with, who just happened to nearly drive me to suicide (I'm fine now).

I don't know what to do about her, because I've been diagnosed, so to speak, with love addiction(it's real), and have to stay out of relationships. But I don't want to be rude, or crush her.

I'm only 15, yet everyone tells me I act older than my own parents, and say that's part of my charm. I can't stand it.

 

[Hader]

I would just tell her that now isn't the best time for you; how much you tell her as to why that is the case I think should be up to you. I'm sure she will understand, though it may not feel great to her at first.

Not the greatest or lengthy advice I know, but I find keeping things as simple as possible where you feel they might get too complicated is the best route to attempt. Just be casual and honest.

 

[joe the janitor]

I wiki'd Love addiction [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_addiction].

Just got to ask a few thing first:
- How did your previous girlfirend nearly drive you to suicide?
- What type of love addict would you say you are (go to link)?

I don't think the age difference really matters. Your both in High school, and there is not that big of an age difference. But if your last girlfiend nearly drove you to suicide (again, please explain) I would maybe wait a bit.

 

[InnerRebellion]

I wiki'd Love addiction [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_addiction].

Just got to ask a few thing first:
- How did your previous girlfirend nearly drive you to suicide?
- What type of love addict would you say you are (go to link)?

I don't think the age difference really matters. Your both in High school, and there is not that big of an age difference. But if your last girlfiend nearly drove you to suicide (again, please explain) I would maybe wait a bit.

A cross between obsessed and codependent.


By saying she nearly drove me to suicide, I mean just that. I was so infatuated with her that her leaving me devastated me. Depression is common in my family, as well as suicidal tendencies, and that event caused my mind to hit the "time to kill myself" switch.

 

[joe the janitor]

To be honest I don't really know what you should do. If you have had suicidal tendencies I would maybe wait a bit. Take it slowly to make sure that she is worth it.

 

[Simalacrum]

Just tell her what you've just told us here. It's not rude or anything at all - just politely tell her that you want to stay out of a relationship, there's nothing wrong with doing so! When rejecting someone, it only becomes rude if you reject them without heart. Just keep calm, and use the kindest words possible while doing so

 

[Paksenarrion]

"If you want to help me, please help me as a friend. Right now, I need a friend, not a romantic acquaintance. Someone to talk to and have fun with. If something happens along the way, we can deal with that as it happens, but for now, what I really need is a friend. Will you be okay with that?"

...is what I would say, or something to that effect.