What was your reaction when...

[BreakfastMan]

Has not happened yet, unfortunatly.

 

[Skorpyo]

I have yet to hear it from my family, let alone someone outside of it.

Christ, am I alone.

 

[Sacman]

Well the first time was with a girl I had been dating for a few months my sophomore year in high school right when she broke up with me because I started to spiral downward in a terrible depression, I was cutting, never talked to anyone, and basically became a anti social loner, but anyway I remember what she said... she said something like, "I love you but I can't take this anymore, your not the same person anymore and we haven't really talked in weeks. Just, don't talk to me anymore." and than I sat in my closet, drowned in self pity and hatred for about a week and cut my wrists until I couldn't pick up a fork...<.<

 

[Sacman]

There are two girls who say that a lot to me. I can't tell if they're trying to mess with my head or legitimately flirting. Although one was sort of like a stalker to me.

Just tell her to get out of here... [http://getoutofherestalker.ytmnd.com/]

 

[Slaanax]

I probably laughed seeing how Now one has ever said it serious to me.

 

[SkoopMaster]

It's always my gay friend that says that to me and I would always say that it makes me feel a bit uneasy and I never take him seriously. Eventually it became this everyday thing and just to make me feel better he would say

"Love yooouuuu! No homo."

I didn't really care if he meant it or not I always thought it was funny and somewhat refreshing considering my other friends and I have this love hate thing and always say "F**K you too buddy!" to each other when we get into some touche subject.

 

[Tonythion]

First time in a romantic not brotherly love way?

Two years together, never had a date on Valentines because we are awkward like that, my partner lets himself into my house (via the key I gave him) and threw a milky way at my head screaming "I LOVE YOU YOU *****!" Since my back was facing him in the chair I swiveled around at the noise, fell from my chair and kicking him in the stomach enough to make him vomit in his mouth.

After the initial shock I was on cloud nine. Happy as can be and I thought I had smoothly said "I love you." but apparently I babbled out "Shit...ditto!"

 

[Sinisterspider]

*scuttles after the never had it said to them crowd*

 

[tehweave]

There's sort of a moment of 'wait... really?' Followed by a rush of feelings wanting to say something back, even if you aren't fully there yet.

Now, I've initiated the ILY statement before, and I will never again. I need to know if they do first, I will follow suit.

 

[Dr Snakeman]

No one has ever told me they loved me in a non-platonic way. One guy said it to me, but it was a guy love thing, not gay.

Honestly, I've never had a real girlfriend... yet. This is going to change, though, as no one can resist my charms for long

 

[Dr Snakeman]

a few of my frends have told me they love me (as frends) but im just that kind of guy. i give hugs to most everybody i know and im a pretty frendly guy straight up so people tend to feel comfortable around me

this thread reminded me of a saying i heard (talking about love and all) somewhere that is completely true/ funny

"women can fake orgasms but men can fake love"

Bo Burnham sang that once. That could be where you heard it. You should check out his stuff on Youtube; he specializes in the kind of dry, highbrow humor that people on this site seem to love so much.

 

[Something Amyss]

I said it first. It was awkward waiting, but it wasn't completely shocking to hear it back. I wasn't going to say it to someone I thought didn't love me. Still, there was a nice warm feeling to it.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

I hate when people talk about love. It's always the same cliché things. It's not some magic be all and end all state of being. As far as I'm concerned. Love, if you can actually give it a name. Is liking someone enough to tolerate them. You love your family because you've depended on them from on early age and associate them with affection, (very different from love) for most people any way. You tolerate them because it used to be necessary for survival.

When you feel that you love a partner. Well that's simply your hormones trying to bond you to a mate. We're still just base animals. Procreation is still our raison d'etra. That feeling doesn't last. Oxytocin levels begin to decrease dramatically about 3-4 years into a bond. Possibly as a throwback from our more, philandery orientated societies. But any-way. When that ends. The aptly names honeymoon period. That's when the words count or not. People either tolerate each others flaws because they enjoy their company. Or they don't.

Love is just a blanket term. It covers a whole host of situationaly dependant factors and hormones.

And that's exactly what I'd say to anyone who said they loved me. It's a ridiculous term with no inherent meaning what so ever.

I was almost wondering if you were going to answer my question. I'm sorry that you feel that way, but I'm sure that there's a reason for it. I don't particularly want to hear it, but that doesn't mean that there's not a good reason you feel that way.

 

[Andy of Comix Inc]

I was in shock. I also got a strange sense of deja vu, like an out-of-body experience. I was humbled by it, and she became my first girlfriend. Yay!

Except she forced me into cunulingus beforehand so it was also kind of yucky. (I shan't go into further detail there...)

 

[Paksenarrion]

Every goddamn time. I don't know why it happens. I tell them the ground rules, they pay me the money, and right in the middle of it, they proclaim it like they're in a goddamn church, all quiet-like. That tears it, I'm changing my street name from Maria to something else.

Maybe Lord Frumplebottom.

 

[natster43]

Though it didn't lead to a relationship or anything romantic, the first time I was told by someone outside my family that they loved me was last year in school from one of my friends. We have been friends since my freshmen year and she was a year ahead of me. She said it one day during lunch. I at first did not respond because it was out of nowhere, then I said "I love you too."

 

[6unn3r]

Never happend....thanks for making me sad OP.

 

[ThrobbingEgo]

We were dating. I told her first. We were kind of mutually obsessed with eachother. Apparently she had decided to tell me the same day. I was likely elated.

Of course, when all she could say about me was that she loved me, like she was some kind of broken record, I began to wonder what it was she really loved. Someone's been dating you for three and a half years and all she can say is "I love you" and "you're perfect" and you start questioning the depth of those statements. Naive as first year university me was, he still knew he certainly wasn't perfect. And then he wasn't so certainly in love.

And that's why I drink alone.

 

[Evilsanta]

...Not yet.

And it doesnt help that i am as social as a stone and have the social skills of one to.

 

[8bitlove2a03]

I've been told "I love you" by a few very close friends, and said I love them back. And it's true; as far as I'm concerned they're family. I was also told this by my one (now ex-) girlfriend. Unfortunately that was her just being a Disney-brainwashed child and parroting it back to me.