For me the few big things that I cant stand are:
-Any kind of closed-mindedness
-Political correctness
-People who dislike animals
-Any kind of closed-mindedness
-Political correctness
-People who dislike animals
What's a 'deal-breaker' for you when it comes to a possible relationship?
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She can't be a gossiping *****, (I hate that bullshit), an attention whore or inconsiderate of others.
It would also be nice if she had a hobby besides shopping and facebook, which are not really hobbies. Basically I'd like her to be relatively interesting.
She also has to be physically attractive to me. I don't have insane standards or anything though, however dat ass is of utmost importance.
It would also be nice if she had a hobby besides shopping and facebook, which are not really hobbies. Basically I'd like her to be relatively interesting.
She also has to be physically attractive to me. I don't have insane standards or anything though, however dat ass is of utmost importance.
I suppose the normal:
Liars, cheats, being abusive both mentally and physically, being a douche, not accepting other opinions, and I believe I should be emotionally and physically attracted to them.
I want a decent guy I suppose. Cliche much? Yes, but desirable.
Liars, cheats, being abusive both mentally and physically, being a douche, not accepting other opinions, and I believe I should be emotionally and physically attracted to them.
I want a decent guy I suppose. Cliche much? Yes, but desirable.
Smoker is my big one.. i dont like smokers a lot... they tend to smell horrible and yea.. not good 
also heavy drinkers yuck!
also heavy drinkers yuck!
I can't help but be turned off by smoking. Not when friends do it, but any sort of possible relationship being a smoker is a no. If I know that this girl has cheated on a previous relationship in the past, I'd not likely go near her.
Also, if she couldn't stand/absolutely hated dogs, she's out. Sorry, but dogs rock.
Also, if she couldn't stand/absolutely hated dogs, she's out. Sorry, but dogs rock.
What was posted above works for me as well.
But here is one. I like a woman who is not addicted to her cell phone. I find it incredibly insulting when I am on a date and she pulls out her phone and goes on facebook or texting someone with me sitting across the table from her.
I suppose this is par for the course for college dating but it does not make it any less annoying. Maybe I should start dating older women.
But here is one. I like a woman who is not addicted to her cell phone. I find it incredibly insulting when I am on a date and she pulls out her phone and goes on facebook or texting someone with me sitting across the table from her.
I suppose this is par for the course for college dating but it does not make it any less annoying. Maybe I should start dating older women.
If he...
... smokes.
... drinks excessively.
... uses any of the following words to describe exes: bitchy, whorish, slutty, stuck-up. In fact, please don't talk about your ex, unless it's something I really need to know.
... refuses to meet/interact with my family.
... insists on paying for everything, /every time/.
... smokes.
... drinks excessively.
... uses any of the following words to describe exes: bitchy, whorish, slutty, stuck-up. In fact, please don't talk about your ex, unless it's something I really need to know.
... refuses to meet/interact with my family.
... insists on paying for everything, /every time/.
There are reasons I don't date anymore, but I'll share some deal-breakers anyway.
-If they are a chain smoker/heavy smoker. I would have to REALLY want the person to put up with smoking. Marijuana is fine though of course. I grew up with my mom as a chain smoker and I don't feel like dealing with it anymore.
-If they suck badly at kissing and refuse to try new things like practice kissing. *It's happened*
-I like people that can talk, I have only been with quiet people and I eventually get tired of doing ALL the talking, wondering if they are even listening. You don't have to be super chatty, just enjoy talking.
-If there personality disagree's with me. *This is probably the biggest deal-breaker and it is very hard to describe in detail*
All you need is love?
-If they are a chain smoker/heavy smoker. I would have to REALLY want the person to put up with smoking. Marijuana is fine though of course. I grew up with my mom as a chain smoker and I don't feel like dealing with it anymore.
-If they suck badly at kissing and refuse to try new things like practice kissing. *It's happened*
-I like people that can talk, I have only been with quiet people and I eventually get tired of doing ALL the talking, wondering if they are even listening. You don't have to be super chatty, just enjoy talking.
-If there personality disagree's with me. *This is probably the biggest deal-breaker and it is very hard to describe in detail*
All you need is love?
Isn't "decent people" really subjective though? There are domestic abuse victims who will tell you to your face that, despite the fact they're abusive, their partner is a "decent" person.Mortai Gravesend said:
Needs to be independent. I'm a fairly emotionally guarded person and the biggest initial turn off I can think of personality wise is someone who clearly wants to be in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship.
- Not taking care of yourself (hygiene, weight, etc.)
- Having low standards for cleanliness in your living space and reliance on others to clean for you
- Not having sufficient organization skills to manage your own life
- Not showing any interest in the things that are most important to my life.
I've been in a relationship for almost nine years, and some of these things should have tipped me off early on, but I ignored them to the point that they make it very hard for me now that I have been living with that person for a few years.
- Having low standards for cleanliness in your living space and reliance on others to clean for you
- Not having sufficient organization skills to manage your own life
- Not showing any interest in the things that are most important to my life.
I've been in a relationship for almost nine years, and some of these things should have tipped me off early on, but I ignored them to the point that they make it very hard for me now that I have been living with that person for a few years.
Well if she hates video games that would probably be a deal breaker for me.
That and if she was shallow, unkind, closed-minded, smokes and/or drinks excessively, and overall just a *****.
That and if she was shallow, unkind, closed-minded, smokes and/or drinks excessively, and overall just a *****.
Seconded.Luna said:
I can't help but smile a little when I read that and then look at your avatar.Vault101 said:
Not being dead, that would be a total turn off for me at this point because I've never been in a relationship so I'm not gonna be very picky at this point.
For the serious answer, no smoking, can't be very negative and be massively arrogant. A friend of mine is really arrogant and every time I told to him somehow most of the time it comes to how awesome he is at something, so it makes me wonder why I'm friends with him to begin with. Also, doesn't have a sense of humor since I tend to joke around a lot and am very sarcastic, so I need someone that can carry on with me and/or tolerate my humor.
For the serious answer, no smoking, can't be very negative and be massively arrogant. A friend of mine is really arrogant and every time I told to him somehow most of the time it comes to how awesome he is at something, so it makes me wonder why I'm friends with him to begin with. Also, doesn't have a sense of humor since I tend to joke around a lot and am very sarcastic, so I need someone that can carry on with me and/or tolerate my humor.
Personality is the biggest thing for me so if she has a bad personality or a personality I don't much like then it would be a deal breaker for me. I'm not too picky so as long as she doesn't make me sick to look at her then I would be good.
I wouldn't want sex to be required. No smoking, drug use or excessive alcohol. No strong religious feelings (not because I have a problem with it, but because I imagine it may lead to issues down the road/it will be a great big elephant in the room, and we will NEVER talk about it).
What else ... can't be racist/sexist/other form of blatant discrimination. Must not be a tool.
How's that? Probably more, but those are some of the big ones.
What else ... can't be racist/sexist/other form of blatant discrimination. Must not be a tool.
How's that? Probably more, but those are some of the big ones.