What's more manly?

[Tdc2182]

I might get a lot of Flak for this, but I'm gonna go with a huge no on this one.

Do you realize how whiny you sound when you constantly express your feelings? It's not even that it makes you sound feminine or what not, you just sound like a baby.

That does not mean that you shouldn't trust loved ones with feelings if they want you to open up to them, but you really have to learn to get a grip on yourself.

It takes much more psychological power to deal with them yourself then to confide in others.

And seriously, what the hell is up with all this new Masculinity denial thread theme week going on recently? Why are people getting so uppity about being a guy?

Reminds me of that South Park episode to tell you the truth.

 

[blankedboy]

Who really cares? I do whatever I want whether it's manly or not. What I come off as is what I come off as, you make your mind up as to whether it influences your impression of me.
Wow, that's a really thinky statement.

 

[Jedamethis]

A real man expresses himself how he sees fit. He doesn't care if others see him as manly or not.

Bravo. I can't think of anything else to say.

 

[BigDeadMushy]

maybe this will answer your manliness questions.
case in point:the song itself is called Manly!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2PEjK67n8Sk

 

[Tdc2182]

"Real Men" who bottle stuff up are stupid morons who's got more macho self-conscious issues than can possibly be healthy. It's more manly to admit that you actually have human emotions than to try to act so fucking tough all the time in front of your 'bros'.

Like, I don't ACT manly in any way but I'm more manly than even the most emotionally closed-off "dude" among my friends because I'm not terrified of expressing feelings or being seen as vulnerable in some way.

That's taking the definition of "manly" and twisting it in your own way.

No, being emotional does not make you manly. Of course, being "manly" doesn't necessarily have to be a positive thing. That's for you to decide. But what you are describing is being up front with your emotions. That's many things like brave and respectable, but it's not manly.

 

[Sir Broccoli]

Real men express their feelings by punching a grizzly bear in the face.

 

[LongAndShort]

A real man bottles it up until he's shitfaced at the pub with a trustworthy mate. That's how men deal with emotions, alcohol. Unnecessary outbursts of violence (likely against random strangers at the pub) are also acceptable.

 

[ReservoirAngel]

"Real Men" who bottle stuff up are stupid morons who's got more macho self-conscious issues than can possibly be healthy. It's more manly to admit that you actually have human emotions than to try to act so fucking tough all the time in front of your 'bros'.

Like, I don't ACT manly in any way but I'm more manly than even the most emotionally closed-off "dude" among my friends because I'm not terrified of expressing feelings or being seen as vulnerable in some way.

That's taking the definition of "manly" and twisting it in your own way.

No, being emotional does not make you manly. Of course, being "manly" doesn't necessarily have to be a positive thing. That's for you to decide. But what you are describing is being up front with your emotions. That's many things like brave and respectable, but it's not manly.

I'm using the "not thinking you have to act like a macho douche" definition of manly here.

 

[Whispering Cynic]

The answer to any man related question can be answered with the following question -

'What would Duke do?'

Yes, yes and thousand times yes. I can't think of better answer than this.

 

[TheHmm]

My Litte Pony?

 

[Nickolai77]

From my experience, i think it's pretty manly to talk about your thoughts and feelings with your trusted friends on a walk home after a night at the pub. You get a good sense of camaraderie.

 

[CaptQuakers]

It depends. If expressing your feelings Is crying like a girl at Bambi your probs not all that manly.

But If It's taking no shit from none and telling them how you feel about them (Only in a way thats detrimental to their health), Then yeah thats pretty manly...

 

[sora91111]

You have emotions, deal with them. That's what a man does.

 

[Kargathia]

Manly would be looking through the forum history to find the exact same thread - albeit with a bit more extensive OP - which was here a few days ago.

 

[k-ossuburb]

I personally don't think it matters, I'm male, not a man. I'd hate to be thought of as one as it's something I would not like to be associated with. I don't really care what other people think, if I've got a problem with someone or something then I'll let them know about it and see if the problem can be solved.

Also.

What?

 

[Zhukov]

A real man seeks to confirm his manliness by posting on the internet.

 

[Leviathan_]

If you want to test your manliness, just brush your teeth and drink a glass of orange juice after that without grimacing.

 

[bubumadrid]

Remembering to use a condom

 

[Gaiseric]

I might get a lot of Flak for this, but I'm gonna go with a huge no on this one.

Do you realize how whiny you sound when you constantly express your feelings? It's not even that it makes you sound feminine or what not, you just sound like a baby.

That does not mean that you shouldn't trust loved ones with feelings if they want you to open up to them, but you really have to learn to get a grip on yourself.

It takes much more psychological power to deal with them yourself then to confide in others.

And seriously, what the hell is up with all this new Masculinity denial thread theme week going on recently? Why are people getting so uppity about being a guy?

Reminds me of that South Park episode to tell you the truth.

I agree with you on this. Except I haven't watched South Park in ages.

 

[Ambi]

A "true man"... Wtf is that?

I think a preferred man (if that's what you mean by "true man") would definitely express his feelings, particularly at appropriate times, while being reasonable about it (i.e. if complaining, express desires to fix the affliction in a mature way, not just raging about it or whining senselessly), bonus points if he's articulate. Crying and all those physical symptoms are emotion are okay sometimes too, but I have to say, sobbing in the same manner as a mourning woman or a child is typically unmanly.