When you get over someone

[Urgh76]

How exactly... How exactly do you feel?

I ask because I just did.

I'm happy... because I found someone else... but I'm still a bit 'in the middle.' As in I'm still only 99% sure that she's not for me.

We didn't break up; for we never went out, but I thought we built something for 3 years. When I did ask her out; I was a bit crushed, but kept an open mind when it happened. Every day I thought of her; and I even had a plan to get her which would take a long time. A long time passed...... when I find someone else who actually returns my affection... and I'm suddenly over her.

That's the extremely short version but it basically conveys everything needed for this thread to run :3

So I'm happy now, only a bit in disbelief. How do you guys feel when you get over someone?

And after writing this thread; I'm glad to say that it changed into a full 100. I've moved on..... and it feels great

 

[Johnnyallstar]

It's been a little while for me, but I'll tell you when I sober up completely.

 

[katsumoto03]

Ehhhh.... I'm in a situation similar to the one you were in, but I haven't spent nearly 3 years over it. Question: When you weren't over it (as I certainly am not), did you want to be over it?

 

[Urgh76]

Ehhhh.... I'm in a situation similar to the one you were in, but I haven't spent nearly 3 years over it. Question: When you weren't over it (as I certainly am not), did you want to be over it?

No, not in the least.

I was a bit obsessed. But a calm sort of obsessed.

Delusional's the right word. Although even now; all of those plans seem completely rational. I know it's not what anyone wants to hear; but the saying remains a bit true. "You'll see as time goes on" :3

Life's funny, ain't it?

 

[gabmed]

Ehhhh.... I'm in a situation similar to the one you were in, but I haven't spent nearly 3 years over it. Question: When you weren't over it (as I certainly am not), did you want to be over it?

No, not in the least.

I was a bit obsessed. But a calm sort of obsessed.

Delusional's the right word. Although even now; all of those plans seem completely rational. I know it's not what anyone wants to hear; but the saying remains a bit true. "You'll see as time goes on" :3

Life's funny, ain't it?

It sure is, friend. It sure is.

I've been there before, actually. Obsessed for a girl that didn't give her feelings back.I'm still her friend to this point... I got stuck in the friendship zone.But I always kept hope. Always had a faint wish that someday it would happen. It did not.And then... recently, I've met someone... wonderful. And that returns what I feel for them.That person is now who I'm obsessed with, and that person seems obsessed with me back.

I think you get what I mean, don't you? Hehehe

 

[Smooth Operator]

Relieved and happy, as if an old gaping wound finally healed and I can move freely yet again.

OP: I think you just found some painkillers, the wound isn't gone yet, but give it enough time and it will all sort out.
Best way to get past it is by not poking around in it, just let it heal.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

I have gotten over the first 2 girls I liked that I knew.

The most recent one, whom I am still attempting to get over, Hates me, because she is a hypocrite mainly, but for some reason I still really like her...

And the girl I currently like has a boyfriend who I want killed.

I'm not good about social things, Mkay!

 

[PiggyGamer]

Oh man, I very recently went through a similar "getting over" situation. Though with a less happy conclusion, at this point.

My "controlled obsession" over trying to win this girl's affections was slowly rising and falling (with an overall rising trend) for over three years. She'd get in and out of relationships with others, keeping me in the friend zone (but always hinting at more, and never following through).
I went through another phase that you seem to have thankfully skipped over: anger.
The third time she got back with a certain ne'er-do-well, I was getting fed up with the whole infatuation. I just didn't know it at the time.
I was angry at her, at him, at myself, at everyone. But I was still thinking about her all the time.

But eventually, though I thought it would never happen (or at least not this quickly)... I got over it. Unfortunately, I have yet to meet someone else/better, but I've got a positive outlook for the future. The cause of my past woes is still in my life, sort of. She's still a friend, but I don't think it'll ever be the same as I thought it once was. And I'm fine with that.

 

[SckizoBoy]

I'm fine for one (the most recently, oddly). The scar's still sensitive for another. And bleeding through the sutures for the third (which cover roughly three quarters of my body)... I blame the physician, or at least try to.

 

[katsumoto03]

Ehhhh.... I'm in a situation similar to the one you were in, but I haven't spent nearly 3 years over it. Question: When you weren't over it (as I certainly am not), did you want to be over it?

No, not in the least.

I was a bit obsessed. But a calm sort of obsessed.

Delusional's the right word. Although even now; all of those plans seem completely rational. I know it's not what anyone wants to hear; but the saying remains a bit true. "You'll see as time goes on" :3

Life's funny, ain't it?

True dat, my friend. Hopefully things will either work out or I'll reach the point you're at.

 

[TheAceTheOne]

Took me two years and a wonderful woman to get over my ex.

My ex cheated on me with two guys and tried to make it sound like my fault, so I admit, it shoulda taken faster.

Actually, the girl I'm with right now... I was with her five years ago. We lost contact, and she called me up last summer. She waited for me, and now we're back together. I never got over her :3

 

[Floppertje]

actually, I get over bad stuff very fast. like when my first girlfriend dumped me, I was sad one night, angry the next morning, went out with friends that night, had a great time and was over her.
next one took me about a week to get over when I ended it, but it was much better while it lasted, so that only makes sense.

 

[tomtom94]

I remember a feeling like a burden had been lifted from me and that I felt really good and happy about leaving it behind.

 

[jacobythehedgehog]

Its been two or three years since I broke up with my ex. I havent really dated or anything like that since then

 

[Count Igor]

I needed a new girl to get over my ex.
And the ex before that ex.
So basically I'm slowly going up the ranks and getting better and better girls :3
The one I'm with now, we're shooting for the very long term, and she's even considering not moving with her Mum and step-dad to the coast, but staying near by with her Father. It's making me feel very warm inside!

 

[DustyDrB]

I always sort of force it to happen quickly. I pined a long time over a girl once, but never again. I have this mindset: One day, I'm gonna get over it and all this sulking is going to seem silly and will just be wasted time. Just realizing that pretty much does it for me. So I don't really have a rebound period anymore.

 

[Nimcha]

The only way to get over someone is to get under someone!
- Grandpa Willy