Why are jobs so hard?

Lightknight

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I enjoy computers and I get to spend time resolving complex computer problems all day for very large companies around the world. What I have there is something that engages me intellectually that I enjoy doing. Some day, I'll be a Network Administrator or something like that in a very large firm and I'll become very bored (a good Admin sets the damn thing up right and isn't always running around to put out fires). But until that day when I'm paid enough to be bored, this is fun. Knowing that my company charges $300 per hour of my time on the more complex cases is nice as well even if I don't see the majority of it.

You've got to find a line of work you at least find mildly interesting and start moving yourself upwards from there. Even if your line of work is boring, if you can try to find parts of it interesting then that will go a long way in the meantime.

I got two degrees in entirely unrelated fields. One of them was thankfully Business Administration from a reputable College of Business. I actually entered my current company under a completely unrelated position and then found out I had an extreme aptitude for computers and was recruited by that department to transfer. Since then, I've found computers fascinating and solving problems that top level admins can't crack is great. But even my majors weren't easy. I decided on Business because it was broad enough to put me anywhere. But I even went through premed before I realized the medical field just wasn't for me.
 

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Jobs as a whole have been drying up. It's not just a single place either, it's globally.

A good example is here in Australia, unless you have 10 years mining-related experience or you're just turning 18 with friends/family in the workforce, you can't get a job. I'm almost 23 and since finishing school in 2008, I probably worked for a total sum of ~15 months out of 57 months so far.

The problem is most employers are too narrow minded. If you look young, you're a risk. if you look old, you're a risk. if you look too shifty, you're a risk. They basically want people who don't exist, that have skills that aren't required to fill in a entry-level job.

Hell, I'd work at McDonalds if I could, but because I'm 23, unless I was trained in as a manager, it wont happen at any fast food store. I mean, if you can't even get a job in fast food, what hope do you have. :\
 

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The problem is that in our current society we're expected to know what we want to do by the age of 17. And if you don't know what you want to do with your life, well then by god you're going to have a bad time.

It's not necessarily that it's hard to find a job that you would like to do. There is tons of interesting work out there. The problem is finding a job that you want to do, and which you are qualified for, and which you can actually earn a living on.

See, if you don't have what you want to do figured out, then you'll never get the qualifications necessary to get the job you want, because you won't know that you want it far enough in advance. Hell, even if you have all the correct qualifications, it still takes tons of luck and hard work to get the job that you really want. Getting a job ends up becoming a full time job on its own.
You're probably tired of being quoted on this, but yeah spot on. Society punishes people who don't know what they want by that age. It's pure madness. On top of the fact, that basic highschool education isn't appropriately synced up to logistics and practices of the real world.

Ideally I'd like to start my own business, keeping bees and selling honey. Or get into horticulture or landscaping. Right now, those are just a hobby. My main source of income is working front desk at a hotel. Which pays surprisingly decent, almost 20 dollars an hour. And I really only got the job because a friend is the manager. Oh and hard work means very little. Sure it's a positive work trait to have. But ultimately it's who you know, what connections you have, that secures a job position.
 

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My mother and father used to tell me that one day I would have a job that I hated, but needed to do to survive.
My parents, like most other people in the world, settled for mediocre.

As much as I try to love everyone, these people are foolish.
They have no sense of adventure. No desire to risk their comfy jobs for something they would enjoy much more.
Most tell themselves that someday they will get out there and figure out what they love, but never do.
Some figure that all the good jobs are taken so they give up before ever trying.
It's all so pathetic.

Anyhoo, just get out there and start trying different things. Develop some new skills.
There are so many amazing jobs out there, and if you can't find one you like just make one.
 

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It isn't too hard. Seriously, look around, do some work experience. Anyone can can get work experience, not just 16 year olds. Look at what qualifications you have, and what kind of training is available locally - most all of it will also be available as a longer, part time course for people who are currently working.
Personally, I fell in love with Prosthetics and Orthotics, did work experience for several months and am about to start my 3 year course in Manchester. I'm not saying that everyone can and will find a job that they love and want to do. I am saying that if you look hard enough, you probably can find something that you'll find satisfying. And job satisfaction, within reason, is more important than salary.

TL;DR Consider your options, get back into training.
 

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It usually starts with "What do you enjoy doing?". Keyword "doing". You have to do stuff and things to find out if you like it or not.

See, I like solving problems and fixing things. So I decided on becoming an engineer. And that's what I do now. I've got an endless supply of problems to solve now. And I'm happy to do that.

I also thought of becoming an electrician or a carpenter, but now those things are just hobbies. I probably would've enjoyed those occupations, too. Engineering just seemed like it had bigger problems to fix.

Captcha just Rick rolled me...
" never gonns give you up"
 

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Most jobs that are hard are hard because we're doing what someone else wants us to do, not what we want to do. And most of those jobs are jobs that no one really wants to do, but they have to be done anyway. How many people WANT to spend all day cleaning bathrooms in a football stadium. How many people WANT to spend all day talking computer illiterates through power cycling their modems and rebooting their computers over the phone? How many people WANT to spend all day inspecting diseased genitalia and trying to figure out how to cure the disease? But these jobs are vital - SOMEONE has to do it. That's a big part of why jobs are so hard. They have to be done but we don't want to do them.

Another part is that we don't always see the end product of our labours, which is something most of us actually care about. There are remarkably few people in this world who actually like taking money for free day after day. Almost all of us like having a free day where we do nothing and get paid for it. Most of us will be okay with doing a frenzy of work one day only to find out the next day that the work was pointless and won't be used. But there are remarkably few people who will stick at a job that tells us (metaphorically, of course) to dig a hole in the morning then fill that hole in during the afternoon, and the next day dig that same hole again and fill it tomorrow afternoon. We don't like to perform POINTLESS (or seemingly pointless) labour, regardless of the wage we're given. And too many of today's jobs involve what appears to be pointless labour.

Those are two reasons why jobs are so hard. 1) We aren't doing what we want to do. 2) We don't seem to be doing much that has an actual value.
 

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Everyone always thinks a dream job exists... it doesn't. Simple as that. No one ever gets up every morning excited to go to work every day.

The best anyone can ever hope for is a job they don't hate. A job that you can get up and go to on a Monday morning without hating the world. That kind of job is hard enough to find, but it's enough.

I just got paperwork last week that said my earliest retirement date is 2038 (I'll be 55 then)... and fuck, that is such a punch to the stomach and made me dislike my job even more. But I'm going to stick with it because it's got great benefits and gives me lots of vacation time. So there's my plus to my work. I get 3 weeks paid vacation and up to 4 unpaid. Yay government. But I hate it.

Still... I get up every morning and do it, because it pays the bills and I'm this thing people call a "grown-up", so I have to.

Just find a part of the work you enjoy and hold onto that. And start counting down the days until you can retire and hope you're still mobile enough for full-VR games since they'll hopefully exist by then. It's what keeps me going. ... I'm not kidding.
 

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IndomitableSam said:
Everyone always thinks a dream job exists... it doesn't. Simple as that. No one ever gets up every morning excited to go to work every day.
False. The truth though, is that the dream job doesn't necessarily exist for everyone. I do enjoy my job and it's heading in a direction that I'll enjoy even more. But I do know people who simply would not be happy doing anything else other than sitting on their ass all day doing whatever pops into their mind at the time.

Though, I'll add that my job is not stacked all day. I have significant downtime in which I am free to browse the internet and do as I please as long as I can stop at any moment to take a call or work with a client at the drop of a hat. On weekends, for example, I may have signed an agreement with a client to be available over the span of 8 hours with a promise of a 15 minute response time. If they don't call me, I still get paid and I do see more of that $300/hour rate that my company charges them than I do during regular business hours. Right now I am migrating all the VMs of a huge multi-national company's server. It's as simply as copying files over and going through basic hyper-v wizards with a lot of downtime while the files transfer over. Today I learned how to create a virtual switch. Something I actually never needed to learn before.

So, as long as I'm still getting surprised with interesting cases each day and getting paid enough to support my lifestyle (which I am comfortable with), then I'd say this is a dream job. Some people can't be happy with what they have though.
 

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Lightknight said:
Some people can't be happy with what they have though.
Isn't it funny that this is a phrase mostly uttered by those who lucked into a good and easy position?
 

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I just got a new job. I work at Target from 4:30-8:30 in the morning. So far my job consists of unloading a truck, and then stocking merchandise in the store. Usually by the time my shift is over, we've done the pet supplies and pharmacy sections.

It's fairly monotonous and repetitive, but it's really not a bad job. It's busy, but not in the exhausting or stressful kind of way, we get to listen to headphones (until 8am when the store opens)

No, I don't wake up every day happy to go to work, and it's certainly not what I'm gonna be doing for years to come (especially since I'm only here for the summer) but I'm pretty okay with it, and it gives me money that I can use to keep myself stable while I work towards my other passions.

I'm content with what I do, and I'm getting pretty good at it.
 

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Vegosiux said:
Lightknight said:
Some people can't be happy with what they have though.
Isn't it funny that this is a phrase mostly uttered by those who lucked into a good and easy position?
By luck I assume you mean worked hard, showed aptitude, and underwent two additional years of certifications (in addition to two college degrees)? If I lucked out in anything, it was the intelligence I was born with, not how I used it.

I'm not wealthy. I'm just content where I am now. Believe me, some people who are much better off than I am cannot be content with what they have. That's the point I was trying to make. I was not content when I was in the food industry or when I was working for a government agency that was a morally questionable part of the system. I've reached an equilibrium and I recognize it. I wasn't saying that people should be happy in shitty jobs with less than or barely enough to get by. But I'm also not looking to be a multi-billionaire. Makes better sense?
 

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I'm a hair stylist and I absolutely love it. It's my dream job and of course it isn't perfect, some days are busy and stressful and I may not get chances to eat or sit down or even pee, but the money is great and as I am a very friendly and outgoing guy it's a perfect use of my personality traits and skills. It's all about finding out what your talents and passions are and the money is just an added bonus (as long as you are making enough to live anyway)
 

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Lightknight said:
Vegosiux said:
Lightknight said:
Some people can't be happy with what they have though.
Isn't it funny that this is a phrase mostly uttered by those who lucked into a good and easy position?
By luck I assume you mean worked hard, showed aptitude, and underwent two additional years of certifications (in addition to two college degrees)?
No, because if that was all it took, we wouldn't have such unemployment rates.

In order to even get a job in today's economic climate, you have to get lucky. That's not to devalue whatever skills and achievements you might take pride in, but that's how it is.

You know how I got my job? I knew someone. Am one of the best people on the team now, but had I not known that particular person, I'd never have had a chance at all here.

That's what I mean by luck. One might want to think they got the job over the next guy because they're "better" than the next guy, but that's simply something you can't know unless you know the next guy's situation.
 

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Vegosiux said:
Lightknight said:
Vegosiux said:
Lightknight said:
Some people can't be happy with what they have though.
Isn't it funny that this is a phrase mostly uttered by those who lucked into a good and easy position?
By luck I assume you mean worked hard, showed aptitude, and underwent two additional years of certifications (in addition to two college degrees)?
No, because if that was all it took, we wouldn't have such unemployment rates.
A current average unemployment rate of less than 8%? Out of every 100 people in the labor market, more than 92 of them are currently employed. Perfect unemployment would be something like 4-5% so we're not that far off.

It's really easy to blame things on outside forces and sometimes they really are at fault. But if you work hard you will be rewarded for it. If you coast on by, when things get rough you'll be one of the first to go. I have trenched myself in my company in such a way that my absence would actively hurt them. That required me volunteering for additional jobs without any pay at the time with the knowledge that I would be (and did) asking for raises based on them in the future. It didn't hurt that my company has a ridiculous 2-hour long aptitude test that only 1 in 10 people pass that is absolutely mandatory for any job here.

But yes, knowing someone still accounts for over 60% of job acquisitions. I found mine in the paper and applied. That test is so hard that passing it equates to being offered a job.
 

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It's what you make of it. That and there are always highs and lows. I love being a bartender/waiter at the pub I work at, I get on with all the staff and chat to the people who come in, find out what they're doing in town, how their day went etc. it's really interesting. I'm very much a people person though.

EDIT: Also, this is important. You want a job in a certain area? MAKE CONTACTS. Qualifications may the gateway to a certain career path, but knowing people is huge. I've got a lot of my jobs and free crap by knowing a guy who knows a guy.
 

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Lightknight said:
A current average unemployment rate of less than 8%? Out of every 100 people in the labor market, more than 92 of them are currently employed. Perfect unemployment would be something like 4-5% so we're not that far off.
At about 12% here, or pretty much half again as where you are. Check the youth unemployment in Greece, it's in the 60% range. This is one way luck factors in, simply depending on where you've been born.

It's really easy to blame things on outside forces and sometimes they really are at fault.
Sometimes.

But if you work hard you will be rewarded for it.
All that hard work guarantees is giving you a better shot. Which is a lot more than nothing, but a better shot at a "reward" still does not mean the reward is guaranteed.

If you coast on by, when things get rough you'll be one of the first to go. I have trenched myself in my company in such a way that my absence would actively hurt them. That required me volunteering for additional jobs without any pay at the time with the knowledge that I would be (and did) asking for raises based on them in the future.
That's what I'm doing too, yes. But I cannot improve the country's economy to the point where it would get out of the recession on my own. I can vote for people I hope are capable of fixing the mess, but that's the extent of my power, but until this mess is sorted, I can't hope for a major breakthrough here.

And, for example, moving to another country to make living there would be a huge expense, an expense I cannot currently afford. Added to that, in the current economic climate most countries aren't too fond of employing foreigners en masse; I still have a better shot than many, being a EU citizen, but that's again not something I can count as something I achieved.

It didn't hurt that my company has a ridiculous 2-hour long aptitude test that only 1 in 10 people pass that is absolutely mandatory for any job here.
Your company having such a test is an "outside force". Had their screening been different, so might have been the outcome.

That's what I mean when I say "luck". I don't mean the "won the lottery" kind of luck, but things like this, things that are hardly even noticed. Where you live, who you know, which day you decided to check the papers, what kind of screening you ran into...these little things really do add up. I see it every day, people who are worse off than I am, who desperately need jobs, with literally a hundred times as many registered unemployed people as there are job openings available. What am I supposed to tell them? That they should just try harder?

EDIT: I believe that might have come across as a bit too confrontational. Apologies, it's just that it really bugs me. But, one thing I will agree on - if you work hard and go above and beyond the call of duty even for free, that makes it a lot more certain that you get to keep a job and advance your career. But it's the first step that's a doozy.
 

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Vegosiux said:
Lightknight said:
A current average unemployment rate of less than 8%? Out of every 100 people in the labor market, more than 92 of them are currently employed. Perfect unemployment would be something like 4-5% so we're not that far off.
At about 12% here, or pretty much half again as where you are. Check the youth unemployment in Greece, it's in the 60% range. This is one way luck factors in, simply depending on where you've been born.
I stand corrected. There is certainly luck in where you're born and what you have to start out with. I'll mention the fact that I am certainly not from money. However, I did have role models for parents who worked their asses off to get what we had. That stuck with me. And money or not, I was certainly born in America, a land that definitely has opportunities. But America certainly isn't without its own areas of poverty and failure. They're just typically better off than other countries' poverty and failure.

All that hard work guarantees is giving you a better shot. Which is a lot more than nothing, but a better shot at a "reward" still does not mean the reward is guaranteed.
Note that I said if you don't work hard you're the first to go. I did not say that you won't go anywhere at all just because you work hard. What's more, I've never worked harder in my life than when I was in the food industry or later when I worked as a professional blacksmith/metal worker. So hard work also doesn't necessarily mean commensurate pay. The only reason why I make a decent salary now is that it's more difficult to replace a highly technical asset than it is to replace a manual laborer.

That's what I'm doing too, yes. But I cannot improve the country's economy to the point where it would get out of the recession on my own. I can vote for people I hope are capable of fixing the mess, but that's the extent of my power, but until this mess is sorted, I can't hope for a major breakthrough here.

And, for example, moving to another country to make living there would be a huge expense, an expense I cannot currently afford. Added to that, in the current economic climate most countries aren't too fond of employing foreigners en masse; I still have a better shot than many, being a EU citizen, but that's again not something I can count as something I achieved.
It also depends heavily on your skill. If it's something that translates easily then doors can be opened for you that wouldn't be else-wise.

Your company having such a test is an "outside force". Had their screening been different, so might have been the outcome.

That's what I mean when I say "luck". I don't mean the "won the lottery" kind of luck, but things like this, things that are hardly even noticed. Where you live, who you know, which day you decided to check the papers, what kind of screening you ran into...these little things really do add up. I see it every day, people who are worse off than I am, who desperately need jobs, with literally a hundred times as many registered unemployed people as there are job openings available. What am I supposed to tell them? That they should just try harder?
A few of my classes for business taught me that people can look at the same situation and attribute it to different forces. The concept I'm referring to in particular is the Locus of Control [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Locus_of_control]. It appears that we merely have different perspectives. There are four possible combinations:

a. Internal Locus of Control without control over the situation: Ability (you were born smart and capable to succeed or you were not born smart enough or capable enough to succeed)
b. Internal Locus of Control with control over the situation: Effort (if you succeed, it's because you practiced, if you fail, you didn't try hard enough)
c. External Locus of Control without control over the situation: Luck/Chance (self explanatory)
d. External Locus of Control without control over the situation: Task Difficulty (you failed the test because the questions were too hard, you passed the test because the questions were too easy)

As such, according to the Locus of Control personality theory. I generally (it can change for some situations) have a Internal locus of control with a general belief of control over the situation. When I fail, it is because I have not worked hard enough or did not know enough. It is motivation to better myself. If I succeed, that too is on my shoulders. Were I to accept some floating concept of luck as the deciding factor in my path, I would be significantly less motivated. I cannot be so fatalistic. I can occasionally go into the realm of ability. The aptitude test caught me entirely off guard. I had no idea what they wanted and so I could only take it as myself. So I have to attribute it to ability whereas most tests and tasks I'd attribute to effort.

However, I don't know that either of our positions are necessarily right. In fact, I'd imagine reality to be a combination of any and all of those factors. Highly situational. I have always been aware that I remember topics and concepts far better than my peers. I have difficulty attributing that to natural ability yet I do not know how I could have worked to acquire it besides being an active reader early on and replaying shows in my head as a child while trying to sleep. From start to finish, scene by scene. But perhaps even the ability to do that was inherited as well.

In any event, each of those Locus of Controls have pluses and negatives.

EDIT: I believe that might have come across as a bit too confrontational. Apologies, it's just that it really bugs me. But, one thing I will agree on - if you work hard and go above and beyond the call of duty even for free, that makes it a lot more certain that you get to keep a job and advance your career. But it's the first step that's a doozy.
Agreed, especially on the doozy bit. Forgive me if I've come across as combative or dismissive as well. I appreciate your input.
 
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I was a store manager, and I hated it. I hated the customers, I hated my self absorbed employees, I hated working 12 hour days without breaks, even bathroom breaks because my employees didn't feel like coming to work and my company had a no firing policy (I know, wtf is that?).

So I quit.

I am probably the luckiest person alive though, because I could quit my job. I live with my twin @IndomitableSam and she works for the government at a shit job, but it pays well and she gets loads of benefits and vacation days and such so she tolerates it.

We also were very lucky to be raised to be smart about money. We have a beautiful townhouse that we rent and two fully paid off cars, and even though I dig into my savings every month to pay off all the bills we're still good. With inheritance (which I haven't yet touched for being off work for 7 months now) I could possibly not work at all for another year or two, but I'll find a job in a couple of months. She wants me to work part time, and that would pay all the bills and have us save some money too. Then I can continue to be a housewife (cleaning, cooking, shopping, Sam doesn't do anything as it's only fair since she works) and not worry about leaving the old cat alone all day.

I quit to write. I wrote a good book, if I do say so myself (the link's in my profile if anyone's interested). Going through it again now with more edits, but the few people who have bought it and given me feedback all say it's good. We were hoping I'd sell more books and be able to live off that (not rich or famous, just enough to get by) but so far no luck. I haven't even made back as much as what I paid the cover artist.

Jobs tend to suck, but you do them because you usually don't have another choice. Even trying to sit down and write all day is very difficult.
Purchased :D Read the first few pages of the first book, I like it, sucked me in rather nicely.

OT: I know how you feel man. My advice is to maybe find a job with awesome people even if the job isn't so great. I pump gasoline and the job itself kinda sucks but my coworkers make it worthwhile. And I suggest picking up on some hobbies and get a bit more devoted to them as well. Sorry I can't offer more though, I'm not very deep as a person.
 

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Being an adult is hard. I worked in a horrible job for five years, supporting my family and going to school. Sometimes in life you just have to eat shit. Finally in line of work that I enjoy though.