Why are jobs so hard?

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IndomitableSam said:
Everyone always thinks a dream job exists... it doesn't. Simple as that. No one ever gets up every morning excited to go to work every day.
False. The truth though, is that the dream job doesn't necessarily exist for everyone. I do enjoy my job and it's heading in a direction that I'll enjoy even more. But I do know people who simply would not be happy doing anything else other than sitting on their ass all day doing whatever pops into their mind at the time.

Though, I'll add that my job is not stacked all day. I have significant downtime in which I am free to browse the internet and do as I please as long as I can stop at any moment to take a call or work with a client at the drop of a hat. On weekends, for example, I may have signed an agreement with a client to be available over the span of 8 hours with a promise of a 15 minute response time. If they don't call me, I still get paid and I do see more of that $300/hour rate that my company charges them than I do during regular business hours. Right now I am migrating all the VMs of a huge multi-national company's server. It's as simply as copying files over and going through basic hyper-v wizards with a lot of downtime while the files transfer over. Today I learned how to create a virtual switch. Something I actually never needed to learn before.

So, as long as I'm still getting surprised with interesting cases each day and getting paid enough to support my lifestyle (which I am comfortable with), then I'd say this is a dream job. Some people can't be happy with what they have though.
 

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Some people can't be happy with what they have though.
Isn't it funny that this is a phrase mostly uttered by those who lucked into a good and easy position?
 

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I just got a new job. I work at Target from 4:30-8:30 in the morning. So far my job consists of unloading a truck, and then stocking merchandise in the store. Usually by the time my shift is over, we've done the pet supplies and pharmacy sections.

It's fairly monotonous and repetitive, but it's really not a bad job. It's busy, but not in the exhausting or stressful kind of way, we get to listen to headphones (until 8am when the store opens)

No, I don't wake up every day happy to go to work, and it's certainly not what I'm gonna be doing for years to come (especially since I'm only here for the summer) but I'm pretty okay with it, and it gives me money that I can use to keep myself stable while I work towards my other passions.

I'm content with what I do, and I'm getting pretty good at it.
 

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Vegosiux said:
Lightknight said:
Some people can't be happy with what they have though.
Isn't it funny that this is a phrase mostly uttered by those who lucked into a good and easy position?
By luck I assume you mean worked hard, showed aptitude, and underwent two additional years of certifications (in addition to two college degrees)? If I lucked out in anything, it was the intelligence I was born with, not how I used it.

I'm not wealthy. I'm just content where I am now. Believe me, some people who are much better off than I am cannot be content with what they have. That's the point I was trying to make. I was not content when I was in the food industry or when I was working for a government agency that was a morally questionable part of the system. I've reached an equilibrium and I recognize it. I wasn't saying that people should be happy in shitty jobs with less than or barely enough to get by. But I'm also not looking to be a multi-billionaire. Makes better sense?
 

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I'm a hair stylist and I absolutely love it. It's my dream job and of course it isn't perfect, some days are busy and stressful and I may not get chances to eat or sit down or even pee, but the money is great and as I am a very friendly and outgoing guy it's a perfect use of my personality traits and skills. It's all about finding out what your talents and passions are and the money is just an added bonus (as long as you are making enough to live anyway)
 

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Lightknight said:
Vegosiux said:
Lightknight said:
Some people can't be happy with what they have though.
Isn't it funny that this is a phrase mostly uttered by those who lucked into a good and easy position?
By luck I assume you mean worked hard, showed aptitude, and underwent two additional years of certifications (in addition to two college degrees)?
No, because if that was all it took, we wouldn't have such unemployment rates.

In order to even get a job in today's economic climate, you have to get lucky. That's not to devalue whatever skills and achievements you might take pride in, but that's how it is.

You know how I got my job? I knew someone. Am one of the best people on the team now, but had I not known that particular person, I'd never have had a chance at all here.

That's what I mean by luck. One might want to think they got the job over the next guy because they're "better" than the next guy, but that's simply something you can't know unless you know the next guy's situation.
 

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Vegosiux said:
Lightknight said:
Vegosiux said:
Lightknight said:
Some people can't be happy with what they have though.
Isn't it funny that this is a phrase mostly uttered by those who lucked into a good and easy position?
By luck I assume you mean worked hard, showed aptitude, and underwent two additional years of certifications (in addition to two college degrees)?
No, because if that was all it took, we wouldn't have such unemployment rates.
A current average unemployment rate of less than 8%? Out of every 100 people in the labor market, more than 92 of them are currently employed. Perfect unemployment would be something like 4-5% so we're not that far off.

It's really easy to blame things on outside forces and sometimes they really are at fault. But if you work hard you will be rewarded for it. If you coast on by, when things get rough you'll be one of the first to go. I have trenched myself in my company in such a way that my absence would actively hurt them. That required me volunteering for additional jobs without any pay at the time with the knowledge that I would be (and did) asking for raises based on them in the future. It didn't hurt that my company has a ridiculous 2-hour long aptitude test that only 1 in 10 people pass that is absolutely mandatory for any job here.

But yes, knowing someone still accounts for over 60% of job acquisitions. I found mine in the paper and applied. That test is so hard that passing it equates to being offered a job.
 

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It's what you make of it. That and there are always highs and lows. I love being a bartender/waiter at the pub I work at, I get on with all the staff and chat to the people who come in, find out what they're doing in town, how their day went etc. it's really interesting. I'm very much a people person though.

EDIT: Also, this is important. You want a job in a certain area? MAKE CONTACTS. Qualifications may the gateway to a certain career path, but knowing people is huge. I've got a lot of my jobs and free crap by knowing a guy who knows a guy.
 

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Lightknight said:
A current average unemployment rate of less than 8%? Out of every 100 people in the labor market, more than 92 of them are currently employed. Perfect unemployment would be something like 4-5% so we're not that far off.
At about 12% here, or pretty much half again as where you are. Check the youth unemployment in Greece, it's in the 60% range. This is one way luck factors in, simply depending on where you've been born.

It's really easy to blame things on outside forces and sometimes they really are at fault.
Sometimes.

But if you work hard you will be rewarded for it.
All that hard work guarantees is giving you a better shot. Which is a lot more than nothing, but a better shot at a "reward" still does not mean the reward is guaranteed.

If you coast on by, when things get rough you'll be one of the first to go. I have trenched myself in my company in such a way that my absence would actively hurt them. That required me volunteering for additional jobs without any pay at the time with the knowledge that I would be (and did) asking for raises based on them in the future.
That's what I'm doing too, yes. But I cannot improve the country's economy to the point where it would get out of the recession on my own. I can vote for people I hope are capable of fixing the mess, but that's the extent of my power, but until this mess is sorted, I can't hope for a major breakthrough here.

And, for example, moving to another country to make living there would be a huge expense, an expense I cannot currently afford. Added to that, in the current economic climate most countries aren't too fond of employing foreigners en masse; I still have a better shot than many, being a EU citizen, but that's again not something I can count as something I achieved.

It didn't hurt that my company has a ridiculous 2-hour long aptitude test that only 1 in 10 people pass that is absolutely mandatory for any job here.
Your company having such a test is an "outside force". Had their screening been different, so might have been the outcome.

That's what I mean when I say "luck". I don't mean the "won the lottery" kind of luck, but things like this, things that are hardly even noticed. Where you live, who you know, which day you decided to check the papers, what kind of screening you ran into...these little things really do add up. I see it every day, people who are worse off than I am, who desperately need jobs, with literally a hundred times as many registered unemployed people as there are job openings available. What am I supposed to tell them? That they should just try harder?

EDIT: I believe that might have come across as a bit too confrontational. Apologies, it's just that it really bugs me. But, one thing I will agree on - if you work hard and go above and beyond the call of duty even for free, that makes it a lot more certain that you get to keep a job and advance your career. But it's the first step that's a doozy.
 

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Lightknight said:
A current average unemployment rate of less than 8%? Out of every 100 people in the labor market, more than 92 of them are currently employed. Perfect unemployment would be something like 4-5% so we're not that far off.
At about 12% here, or pretty much half again as where you are. Check the youth unemployment in Greece, it's in the 60% range. This is one way luck factors in, simply depending on where you've been born.
I stand corrected. There is certainly luck in where you're born and what you have to start out with. I'll mention the fact that I am certainly not from money. However, I did have role models for parents who worked their asses off to get what we had. That stuck with me. And money or not, I was certainly born in America, a land that definitely has opportunities. But America certainly isn't without its own areas of poverty and failure. They're just typically better off than other countries' poverty and failure.

All that hard work guarantees is giving you a better shot. Which is a lot more than nothing, but a better shot at a "reward" still does not mean the reward is guaranteed.
Note that I said if you don't work hard you're the first to go. I did not say that you won't go anywhere at all just because you work hard. What's more, I've never worked harder in my life than when I was in the food industry or later when I worked as a professional blacksmith/metal worker. So hard work also doesn't necessarily mean commensurate pay. The only reason why I make a decent salary now is that it's more difficult to replace a highly technical asset than it is to replace a manual laborer.

That's what I'm doing too, yes. But I cannot improve the country's economy to the point where it would get out of the recession on my own. I can vote for people I hope are capable of fixing the mess, but that's the extent of my power, but until this mess is sorted, I can't hope for a major breakthrough here.

And, for example, moving to another country to make living there would be a huge expense, an expense I cannot currently afford. Added to that, in the current economic climate most countries aren't too fond of employing foreigners en masse; I still have a better shot than many, being a EU citizen, but that's again not something I can count as something I achieved.
It also depends heavily on your skill. If it's something that translates easily then doors can be opened for you that wouldn't be else-wise.

Your company having such a test is an "outside force". Had their screening been different, so might have been the outcome.

That's what I mean when I say "luck". I don't mean the "won the lottery" kind of luck, but things like this, things that are hardly even noticed. Where you live, who you know, which day you decided to check the papers, what kind of screening you ran into...these little things really do add up. I see it every day, people who are worse off than I am, who desperately need jobs, with literally a hundred times as many registered unemployed people as there are job openings available. What am I supposed to tell them? That they should just try harder?
A few of my classes for business taught me that people can look at the same situation and attribute it to different forces. The concept I'm referring to in particular is the Locus of Control [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Locus_of_control]. It appears that we merely have different perspectives. There are four possible combinations:

a. Internal Locus of Control without control over the situation: Ability (you were born smart and capable to succeed or you were not born smart enough or capable enough to succeed)
b. Internal Locus of Control with control over the situation: Effort (if you succeed, it's because you practiced, if you fail, you didn't try hard enough)
c. External Locus of Control without control over the situation: Luck/Chance (self explanatory)
d. External Locus of Control without control over the situation: Task Difficulty (you failed the test because the questions were too hard, you passed the test because the questions were too easy)

As such, according to the Locus of Control personality theory. I generally (it can change for some situations) have a Internal locus of control with a general belief of control over the situation. When I fail, it is because I have not worked hard enough or did not know enough. It is motivation to better myself. If I succeed, that too is on my shoulders. Were I to accept some floating concept of luck as the deciding factor in my path, I would be significantly less motivated. I cannot be so fatalistic. I can occasionally go into the realm of ability. The aptitude test caught me entirely off guard. I had no idea what they wanted and so I could only take it as myself. So I have to attribute it to ability whereas most tests and tasks I'd attribute to effort.

However, I don't know that either of our positions are necessarily right. In fact, I'd imagine reality to be a combination of any and all of those factors. Highly situational. I have always been aware that I remember topics and concepts far better than my peers. I have difficulty attributing that to natural ability yet I do not know how I could have worked to acquire it besides being an active reader early on and replaying shows in my head as a child while trying to sleep. From start to finish, scene by scene. But perhaps even the ability to do that was inherited as well.

In any event, each of those Locus of Controls have pluses and negatives.

EDIT: I believe that might have come across as a bit too confrontational. Apologies, it's just that it really bugs me. But, one thing I will agree on - if you work hard and go above and beyond the call of duty even for free, that makes it a lot more certain that you get to keep a job and advance your career. But it's the first step that's a doozy.
Agreed, especially on the doozy bit. Forgive me if I've come across as combative or dismissive as well. I appreciate your input.
 
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Miyenne said:
I was a store manager, and I hated it. I hated the customers, I hated my self absorbed employees, I hated working 12 hour days without breaks, even bathroom breaks because my employees didn't feel like coming to work and my company had a no firing policy (I know, wtf is that?).

So I quit.

I am probably the luckiest person alive though, because I could quit my job. I live with my twin @IndomitableSam and she works for the government at a shit job, but it pays well and she gets loads of benefits and vacation days and such so she tolerates it.

We also were very lucky to be raised to be smart about money. We have a beautiful townhouse that we rent and two fully paid off cars, and even though I dig into my savings every month to pay off all the bills we're still good. With inheritance (which I haven't yet touched for being off work for 7 months now) I could possibly not work at all for another year or two, but I'll find a job in a couple of months. She wants me to work part time, and that would pay all the bills and have us save some money too. Then I can continue to be a housewife (cleaning, cooking, shopping, Sam doesn't do anything as it's only fair since she works) and not worry about leaving the old cat alone all day.

I quit to write. I wrote a good book, if I do say so myself (the link's in my profile if anyone's interested). Going through it again now with more edits, but the few people who have bought it and given me feedback all say it's good. We were hoping I'd sell more books and be able to live off that (not rich or famous, just enough to get by) but so far no luck. I haven't even made back as much as what I paid the cover artist.

Jobs tend to suck, but you do them because you usually don't have another choice. Even trying to sit down and write all day is very difficult.
Purchased :D Read the first few pages of the first book, I like it, sucked me in rather nicely.

OT: I know how you feel man. My advice is to maybe find a job with awesome people even if the job isn't so great. I pump gasoline and the job itself kinda sucks but my coworkers make it worthwhile. And I suggest picking up on some hobbies and get a bit more devoted to them as well. Sorry I can't offer more though, I'm not very deep as a person.
 

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Being an adult is hard. I worked in a horrible job for five years, supporting my family and going to school. Sometimes in life you just have to eat shit. Finally in line of work that I enjoy though.
 

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MrHide-Patten said:
There's the jobs you like that don't pay well at all (like Indie game development) and jobs that pay well but aren't very fun (nurse I appear to have soiled myself).
And don't forget the biggest category: Jobs which don't pay well, and are stressful, terrible and/or complicated or where you are yelled at for no reason.

Also don't forget the unfairness of it all...

I recently learned that some woman in my company (Well a few higher ups as well of course) is "earning" four times my salary. (I get 1500? before taxes, she gets 6000?... SIX THOUSAND - Insanity)

She is regarded (as i have read in her recommendation) as competent and vital to the company as well as well liked.

Now if you ask the people: She is regarded as incompetent, aloof and a bit slow and known for pushing her work onto people working under/for her.

YAY fairness. Fucking hate this...
 

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Who am I to talk. I'm making $8/hour as a janitor, but I get free food and awesome coworkers. Sure I've made more money but I do find myself saying how much I love this job. It's at a mall and the customers that come through tend to be dicks, but better than being unemployed. I'm sure 50 people would gladly take that job if I didn't have it.

A week ago I ran into a guy who was telling me that he had 3 kids and a wife to take care of. He was UNEMPLOYED! I was so happy not to be in his shoes. I'm sure I've got the potential to become something more, but maybe I'm happy just being a simple worker. I just want to make enough to live on and come home and watch TV or surf the internet and fill my belly.

I don't think I'm asking to much?

Edit: I wanted/want to learn how to code, but coding is quite difficult. That might be my dream job. What if I get it and I hate doing it? I'd rather make 15k/yr and love my job than make 50k/yr and loath everyday I have to work.
I'm kinda in the same boat. I've been a carpenter by trade as well as sheet metal fabricator and welder. I've worked in factories and restaurants, carwashes and a whole bunch of other fields. Hell, you name it I've probably done it for a living (minus office work) and I loved most of the jobs I had over the years or, at the very least, I was content.

The only real regret I have is how much of my life I've worked away. I never needed to work 6-7 days a week, 10+ hours a day, but I did. Because, money. It was instilled into me by my family, and it took me way too long to figure out that they only did it because they were in debt, something I never became. So now at the age of 33, I work part time at a grocery store stocking shelves at night, which allows me to have time for myself and those I care about.
 

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Purchased :D Read the first few pages of the first book, I like it, sucked me in rather nicely.
You are a wonderful person and I love you.

Really, thank you.

I should be putting as much time an energy into promoting my book as I do writing it, but that's a job I don't want to do. I don't know how, for one, and two, I seem like an asshole if I go around the internet spamming "Read my book!".

Writing isn't even fun when my characters don't nag at me and tell me what to do, but when I try and tell them what to do they do their own damn thing anyways and I get so lost.
 

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Ya my job isn't a walk in the park either and it is not difficult in any sense.

But at the end of the day I go "well, at least I'm getting paid." and I can then buy what I want with my money.

I don't really have a dream job, I just want to get by really.
Once I got that going on, I can do some personal projects/hobbies that I actually like doing.

If I'm lucky I can do that stuff at my job too.
 
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Miyenne said:
Beffudled Sheep said:
Purchased :D Read the first few pages of the first book, I like it, sucked me in rather nicely.
You are a wonderful person and I love you.

Really, thank you.

I should be putting as much time an energy into promoting my book as I do writing it, but that's a job I don't want to do. I don't know how, for one, and two, I seem like an asshole if I go around the internet spamming "Read my book!".

Writing isn't even fun when my characters don't nag at me and tell me what to do, but when I try and tell them what to do they do their own damn thing anyways and I get so lost.
And its extra hard when some sites (like the Escapist) have rules against advertising. Maybe you should ask a friend or something to help spread word of it. I told my friend about it last night and he said he might give it a buy. Word of mouth is a great advertisement tool.

I'm also surprised that it was only $0.99, why'd you price it so low?

Good luck with the rest of the series, I'll probably buy them at the rate I'm enjoying the first book.
 

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Beffudled Sheep said:
And its extra hard when some sites (like the Escapist) have rules against advertising. Maybe you should ask a friend or something to help spread word of it. I told my friend about it last night and he said he might give it a buy. Word of mouth is a great advertisement tool.

I'm also surprised that it was only $0.99, why'd you price it so low?

Good luck with the rest of the series, I'll probably buy them at the rate I'm enjoying the first book.
Yeah I don't want to get in trouble either for it.

My friends and family aren't readers except for my sister, all said they'd buy it but none have. Everyone expresses interest when they hear I wrote a book, but they won't even take the time to read it. Kinda disappointing.

I priced it low so more people would be tempted to buy it, and if by some grace of any god in existence (if there even are such things) if it got popular I could raise the price of the next ones.

And now today instead of working on it I waited for the maintenance people to unclog all our showers and toilets (dunno what happened there) then did a big grocery trip, and then ate lunch and suddenly fell asleep. And now I'm here instead of working. Ugh.

Thank you much for your support though. It really does mean a lot to me for people not related to me to say it's good.

Captcha agrees, it says bless you.
 
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Miyenne said:
Beffudled Sheep said:
And its extra hard when some sites (like the Escapist) have rules against advertising. Maybe you should ask a friend or something to help spread word of it. I told my friend about it last night and he said he might give it a buy. Word of mouth is a great advertisement tool.

I'm also surprised that it was only $0.99, why'd you price it so low?

Good luck with the rest of the series, I'll probably buy them at the rate I'm enjoying the first book.
Yeah I don't want to get in trouble either for it.

My friends and family aren't readers except for my sister, all said they'd buy it but none have. Everyone expresses interest when they hear I wrote a book, but they won't even take the time to read it. Kinda disappointing.

I priced it low so more people would be tempted to buy it, and if by some grace of any god in existence (if there even are such things) if it got popular I could raise the price of the next ones.

And now today instead of working on it I waited for the maintenance people to unclog all our showers and toilets (dunno what happened there) then did a big grocery trip, and then ate lunch and suddenly fell asleep. And now I'm here instead of working. Ugh.

Thank you much for your support though. It really does mean a lot to me for people not related to me to say it's good.

Captcha agrees, it says bless you.
Wow, its almost like god is trying to keep you away from working on them. Well good luck again. I'll keep trying to get my literate friends to pick it up, especially since its so cheap. Good luck in your progress :)
 

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Loop Stricken said:
All I want, and it's ultimately a simple request, is a job where, on the way there, I feel like this;


... but as it stands I just have no idea what the hell that could be.
Oh God why did you have to use a gif of Alan Rickman as Snape in drag! Why did the directors feel the need to make him look like an extremely unattractive old lady in the film with the most heart wrenching scene?? I dare not watch that film because of how terrible he looks!

Um...am I offtopic? One moment!

I work in a bakery at the moment. It's not the job I want to do for the rest of my life (not enough hours, minimum wage) but the work is easy and the customers and nice, sometimes I get compliments ^_^ It will certainly do for the summer :D