"Why are we friends again?"

[InnerRebellion]

Ever had that moment where you question why you maintain a friendship with someone? Why was that?
Or, if you haven't, do give those who have insight on preventing it.

I normally don't, but one of my best friends pulled the last straw recently. He's one of those guys who thinks just because another girl can stand the sight of his ugly face, it means he gets to lord it over the rest of us and act like the king of the world. So after sitting through an art class of listening to him blather on about how she pumped it for him, I stood up and told him to shut his face and slugged him in the jaw. Walked out of class and went home. Probably shouldn't have done that, but everyone has been getting sick of it.

 

[zombiesinc]

All the time. There are many reasons, but it generally comes down to how they choose to react towards something involving us that they may not like. Immaturity, selfishness, impertinent responses, etc.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not one to simply drop a friendship based on a person's reaction towards me, or something that involves me, but it is something that weighs heavily into what I consider our friendship to be, where we stand with one another, our actual connection, and whether or not I believe we can be friends for many years. That being said, I also tend to put up with a lot of shit from my friends (and I'm sure I give it back just as much) by accepting whatever happens that may be negative between us and moving on. I try my best to bite my tongue when friends do something that I disagree with, but there's a point where I won't put up with it anymore, and let them know exactly how I feel.

Blahblahblah, it happens, but never to a point where I'd seriously consider disbanding the friendship.

 

[smearyllama]

I'm friends with a guy mostly because he sits in front of me in math class.

He's kind of annoying, but I'm too polite to say anything, and he's actually a half-decent human being sometimes.

 

[Legion]

I had this very strongly when I started 6th Form (kind of like college), I stopped talking to a lot of my old friends after realising that the only reason I was friends with them was because of "convenience", what I mean by that is that we had known each other since the beginning of secondary/high school and liked some of the same stuff. I didn't have much in common with them overall and didn't particularly enjoy their company or their personalities any more.

I have a few "friends" where I wonder why I bother even now. A lot of them will make absolutely no effort to stay in contact (We are out of education and into the work place now) and I (or another of my friends who I talk to on a regular basis) have to always make the arrangements to do anything at all. If he doesn't organise a meal out or a trip to the cinema, or I don't organise a poker night around my house, then there is no contact at all unless a game is out that we are simultaneously playing.

 

[webby]

We all have moments when friends annoy us, what most people do is ignore it at first because the positives outweigh the negatives. If it persists say something and confront the friend.

What most level headed people don't do is, without warning, punch their "friend" in the face in the middle of a class for pretty weak reasons and then go and ***** about how much of a douche said friend is on the internet.

I'm inclined to side with the other guy here. Sure, he may have been being smug, arrogant and generally a tool but your overraction was so spectacular it boggles the mind. Get over it and get over yourself, I'm sure the stories you tell are hardly that exciting.

I also hate to be the one to say it, but is it just jealousy?? I can't think of many other reasons for throwing a punch.

 

[InnerRebellion]

I'm inclined to side with the other guy here. Sure, he may have been being smug, arrogant and generally a tool but your overraction was so spectacular it boggles the mind. Get over it and get over yourself, I'm sure the stories you tell are hardly that exciting.

I also hate to be the one to say it, but is it just jealousy?? I can't think of many other reasons for throwing a punch.

While I'm not directly jealous of them (his girlfriend isn't exactly a pretty sight, but that's irrelevant), I am jealous that my friend who can't even manage to pass a single class has managed to maintain a relationship for almost a year, while all of mine fail.

I do admit that the punch was a bit extreme, but after putting up with months of him acting like such a pain, I just let it out and let the feelings take over. I apologized later, but I still hold the feelings behind it.

 

[Broady Brio]

Ahh... Something I've experienced too. Let's call him Jim.

Jim was a... Strange fellow with some weird mixtures for foods but never mind that. Believe it or not, I let him bully me for 2 years of my life as I didn't think of it as bullying.

Due to this bullying, Jim tried to make himself look better by doing so. When I changed from a 6th form school to an actual college, he changed his tune... VERY quickly. I took advantage of this. By being "his only friend"[footnote]He claimed.[/footnote] I came back.[footnote]As in, I came back to my old college during a day off when they didn't.[/footnote] I basically was an utter **** to him since. He finally caught on, claiming he deserves none of what I'm doing. He eventually punches me and runs away.

One part of me was wanting to beat the living shit of Jim, as he's had it coming for the past 2 years now.
But the more dominant, diplomatic side realised that I've accomplished what I wanted to do...
Make an arse out of Jim. Now no one shall take him seriously again, due to the fact he punched a boy who'd never hurt anyone in their life.[footnote]Me.[/footnote] My "mission" was a success. I hated that old college I used to go to. Not many people remember me any more there. That's fine, I wasn't particular good friends with anyone.

Now? Now's all good at the mo'.

 

[conflictofinterests]

Precisely once. I swiftly ended the friendship thereafter. I can't remember what she was doing, but it was fucking obnoxious as shit.

 

[FamoFunk]

Ohh, I feel this.
It's the letting me down if I make the plans, and not give a fucking damn, but if they make the plans shit will hit the fan if someone cancells, even if they dropped dead.

I started to say "No" to a lot of the plans to go out/see said person, and now they're actually taking on my plans and not being so dickish. And yes, I am still friends with this person as She knows I, or no one, will fall willy nilly to her knees again.

 

[Togs]

Yes actually, long time "closest friend" at uni.
A couple of bad situations made me realise how little we have in common and that to be perfectly honest the guy is a shallow, immature wannabe frat boy.

 

[Dango]

Yes, with most of my friends, usually because I tend to be on the other side of the moral spectrum than them. To put it bluntly, most of my "friends" are assholes, and I hate them for it.

 

[DocBalance]

I've only really killed one relationship, the one I mentioned in the "I'm going to Hell Moment" thread. Anyone interested can find the full story there, but basically she screwed with my head, manipulated me, tried to plant false memories(which I was susceptible to for health reasons), and generally screwed me over. Needless to say, we aren't friends anymore.

 

[AetherWolf]

I've known this family of three sisters, and the one my age has been my best friend for as long as I can remember. But geez, our tastes in things have gone in completely opposite directions as we grew up. I like thrillers and documentaries. They like romantic comedies and chick flicks. I like to stay at home and be lazy. They play sports every day of the week. I listen alternate rock and metal. They listen to mainstream pop and Justin Bieber*. I hate children. The youngest sister is a brat that's 7 years younger than me.

But somehow we've always stuck together. We just seem to an understanding of one another, and hanging out with them is an escape for me. Weird.

*Speaking of Bieber, we're Canadian, and they introduced me to his Youtube account in summer 2009. Doesn't seem to long ago, now that I think about it.

 

[Light 086]

Once for me. My friend and I always did act immaturely, but we were in grade school. As the years went by I got more mature, or she got more immature. When I got into uni, my friend was so damn annoying. So I ended our friendship because she seemed to act like a child. I couldn't take it anymore, it was okay at first (because the changes seemed subtle) you know? A few cheap laughs and all, but as the years went by she just never stopped acting like that.

 

[DanielBrown]

Had a lot of those, but the two most recent ones were in the gymnasium(bear with me, Americans, I cba to learn your schooling system). One of them was a short, fat geek that was an open Christian. May be normal in other countries, but in Sweden we treat religious persons like they're insane. Anyways, over the years he became more and more brainwashed and by the third year it was just too much. He sent me propaganda, gave me Bibles and psalm books, kept nagging on how much Jesus and God loves me... I broke our "friendship" already by the first year in school, but I felt so bad since I was pretty much all he had there, that I made peace with him.

The other one was in the same class. He was a nerd and an extremly bad friend, but I suffer from social phobia since the past few years, so I needed him for support.
After we graduated there wasn't much to keep our friendship togeather, so it ended pretty quickly. Good riddance.

 

[DefunctTheory]

Not really. I'm pretty good at picking friends, and pretty good at ditching ones that end up disgusting me later on.

 

[DocBalance]

Ever had that moment where you question why you maintain a friendship with someone? Why was that?
Or, if you haven't, do give those who have insight on preventing it.

I normally don't, but one of my best friends pulled the last straw recently. He's one of those guys who thinks just because another girl can stand the sight of his ugly face, it means he gets to lord it over the rest of us and act like the king of the world. So after sitting through an art class of listening to him blather on about how she pumped it for him, I stood up and told him to shut his face and slugged him in the jaw. Walked out of class and went home. Probably shouldn't have done that, but everyone has been getting sick of it.

Okay, I'm not violent, but I would have slugged that arsehole. There's something about guys acting like massive tools that just seems to scream "Knock my teeth out!".

 

[Hader]

Some of the guys in my math class I am 'friends' with, but it feels more like the only reason we are is because we are trying to survive calc 2 together. Other than that I think we wouldn't care to say hello if we passed on the streets.

 

[Booze Zombie]

I had a friend, HAD, who I discovered a few months into the friendship was self-centred, thought himself to always be right, a royalist and all around, I felt like he only hung around with me when he was bored.

I don't actually feel like he enjoyed my company, I was just there to pass the time on his one day of "fuck all".
The last straw was dragging me in the opposite direction we were meant to be going because he thought he was going to get mugged/have his card PIN stolen.

I argued with him about how that doesn't make sense, he responded with a "tough shit", I said I'm going to college, he said he wasn't, I said "I know, but you're the one that said 'tough shit', eh".

Also, CAPTCHA humour: "England itsibus"

 

[Dark Knifer]

Probably, though I can't think of any at the moment. I've asked this question to one of my friends about why he is friends with someone else. I hated that guy but he was friends with him and was a real prick. Arrogant, obnoxious, talks about sex every single time I saw him. No idea why he was friends with him...