Why do people always say...?

[pulse2]

Here's a little game with discussional value as well, basically I want to know why people use certain terms and maybe some people can answer it and enlighten me, I'm sure you guys have a few questions as well. So here goes, I'll add more as they come to mind..

Why do people always say:

- 'I'm not being funny but..' It's pretty clear you are not being funny without you saying it.
- 'Be careful...' AFTER something has happened.
- 'Are you okay?' When they can clearly see that you are not.
- 'You get me / know what I mean / innit' at the end of each sentence.
- 'At the end of the day...' in order to stress a point.
- 'End of!' But then continue to say more after it :/

 

[AmrasCalmacil]

Well for the last two, maybe it's because.

Bear with me on this, this might be hard to take.
Some people have EMPATHY!

Dear god.

 

[CrashBang]

Every time someone says "I'm not being funny but..." I think it wouldn't be so bad if they fell down an open manhole at that moment. It's the most irritating phrase in the world. It's because they're terrified of voicing their opinion

 

[Actual]

1. Used to make it clear that you are not joking when the topic you're discussing is usually a joke. For instance, "I'm not being funny but, women can't drive for shit." Normally this is a staple gender bias piece of humour, but in this case the user is genuinely being sexist.

2. To reinforce the lesson you have just learned for future. Just in case whatever retarded thing you've done isn't reminder enough.

3. Are you OK, in the case of physical injury is to assess the extent of the wound. Do I need to get an ambulance or would you just like some sympathy. In the case if emotional trauma it's to get you to start talking about it which usually helps.

 

[DefunctTheory]

Are you okay: Usually means 'whats broken.' It's kind of a way to hope nothing bad happened, while at the same time asking what is.

Be Careful: Stop being a dumbass (If the other person was hurt in previous event) or 'Don't be a dumbass like me' if it happened to you.

I'm not funny but: I have no idea what your talking about on this one.

 

[pulse2]

Well for the last two, maybe it's because.

Bear with me on this, this might be hard to take.
Some people have EMPATHY!

Dear god.

But for the last one wouldn't it be more appropriate to ask what happened and where it hurts? That's if you can see them in apparent pain.

As for the second one, its a little late to be saying be careful.

 

[CardinalPiggles]

*SNIP*Why do people always say:

- 'I'm not being funny but..' It's pretty clear you are not being funny without you saying it.
- 'Be careful...' AFTER something has happened.
- 'Are you okay?' When they can clearly see that you are not.

god i hate it when people say this sort of thing, especially the last one. are you ok? NO IM CLEARLY NOT! or sometimes i get really sarcastic, yh im fine, are you ok?

also, if i hurt myself and clearly say OUCH, then they would say, did that hurt?

 

[Hollock]

Hey when people say get the wrong answer where you are do they say "just kidding" or is it only where I'm at? Because it pisses me off. They never take responisbility for their mistakes! GGGRRRR WHY!?

Why do people always say what's up when they mean hello?

 

[burningdragoon]

"at the end of the day..." is just a colloquialism.

"are you okay?" is a nice catch all way of showing concern. For physical troubles, it's to judge severity. For emotional stuff, sure it'll be annoying but it's really just like saying "what's wrong?" If you'd rather people just ignore when something isn't going to well then... I dunno, maybe treat them like shit just for trying to be nice. That'll do it.

Why do people always say what's up when they mean hello?

This one I don't like, especially on walk-by greetings. I usually end up saying "hey" which is a little awkward since that's not a response to the actually saying or say "not much" and then we've already walked by each other so I can't ask them the sameish in return.

 

[Hollock]

"at the end of the day..." is just a colloquialism.

"are you okay?" is a nice catch all way of showing concern. For physical troubles, it's to judge severity. For emotional stuff, sure it'll be annoying but it's really just like saying "what's wrong?" If you'd rather people just ignore when something isn't going to well then... I dunno, maybe treat them like shit just for trying to be nice. That'll do it.

Why do people always say what's up when they mean hello?

This one I don't like, especially on walk-by greetings. I usually end up saying "hey" which is a little awkward since that's not a response to the actually saying or say "not much" and then we've already walked by each other so I can't ask them the sameish in return.

Me too. And that's the main problem. they say what's up, you say not much (which is like the only response, unless you specifically want to discuss what you're currently up to), then the conversation is over. They say hello, you say hello, then the conversation has just begun.

 

[Lilani]

- 'I'm not being funny but..' It's pretty clear you are not being funny without you saying it.
- 'Be careful...' AFTER something has happened.
- 'Are you okay?' When they can clearly see that you are not.
- 'You get me / know what I mean / innit' at the end of each sentence.
- 'At the end of the day...' in order to stress a point.
- 'End of!' But then continue to say more after it :/

-They don't want to offend someone by inadvertently making a joke about the subject at hand. It's like saying "Okay, I'm being serious now" without actually having to stop and say that.
-Sarcasm.
-Again, sarcasm.
-Quite a bit of that might be a local accent thing. I have a friend from St. Louis, and she ends every other sentence with "you know?" I pointed this out once, and she said it was a St. Louis thing.
-...It's a typical literary device for making a point. It puts emphasis on what their point is. What's the problem with that?
-Personally, I've never heard that one. It sounds like a kooky thing to say though, so they're probably just being silly or overly dramatic.

Sounds like you need to lighten up a bit. It seems like you're taking these too literally.

 

[EeveeElectro]

When people say "no offence but..." then go on to offend you horribly.
I 'spose if you don't look good in that dress, your friends want to tell you so you don't look silly.
But I once got 'no offence yeah, but you're a proper ugly *****.' LOL.

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

I'm not funny but: I have no idea what your talking about on this one.

"I'm not being funny, but..." is very much an English thing. It prefaces something you don't want to hear, but is meant to show there is no ill-intent in what's coming...though there often is. That's my best explaination for it, anyway.

It's funny how people think they can negate the impact of their words by simply prefacing them with some sort of disclaimer. "I'm not a racist, but..." is often what you hear before someone says something incredibly racist.

 

[zehydra]

- 'Are you okay?' When they can clearly see that you are not.

Actually it's pretty much impossible to know that.

 

[DefunctTheory]

I'm not funny but: I have no idea what your talking about on this one.

"I'm not being funny, but..." is very much an English thing. It prefaces something you don't want to hear, but is meant to show there is no ill-intent in what's coming...though there often is. That's my best explaination for it, anyway.

It's funny how people think they can negate the impact of their words by simply prefacing them with some sort of disclaimer. "I'm not a racist, but..." is often what you hear before someone says something incredibly racist.

In my experience, 'I'm not racist but' is usually a prefix for an honest observation someone has made that is in line with an offensive stereotype.

For example... until I went to Korea in 2008, every single Black male I had met was a giant piss pile, the very example of a person that gangster rap idealizes. EVERY. SINGLE. ONE.

Of course, since then, I've met some very nice Black fellows, and even before hand, I intellectually knew that they existed, but the following statement, at that time of my life, would have been an honest and truthful expression of my experiences.

'I'm not racist, but every black male I've ever met has been a useless rap stereotype.'