Why Do People Feel the Need...

[Bruin]

...To complain to strangers they don't know about relationships they make up? Yesterday I was trying to play a game; tried to enjoy it with the few friends I have left in that game's community. There I am almost universally known as the person who literally couldn't care less about peoples' problems. And it's mostly true--I get tired of hearing the incessant whining of thirteen year olds who dare to say they, A: Have a clue as to what relationships mean and B: Believe their situation is special and unique and they're the only person who could feel "so bad".

See, my problem with this all isn't that they feel they need somebody to talk to and come to me; my problem lies within the manner that they do it. One guy asked me for tips in the game--how to move faster, to be precise. I gave him some hints and was about to slap him on the bum and send him on his way when he said: "Yeah, my ex rlly screwd up my life,".

Shit like that drives me insane. I don't know why, exactly, but the "Pissed off" level skyrockets when people who obviously aren't of the age to have any true "exes" use the terminology.

Now, as usual, I didn't say anything, in hopes that he'd leave me alone. I'm all for helping people out when they need a hand, but something about the manner in which he brought it up made me want to put my fist through a wall. Not because this particular instance upset me the most, but more so because this has happened to me at least a dozen times, and it seems like a cruel mockery of something far more deep and complicated than any pubescent child's mind could grasp.

He didn't leave me alone. He proceeded to tell me all about his "gf" and how she'd "left him for another man". I could smell the fecal matter he was creating when he tried to tell me she was a swinger and that she was "still the most loyal person in the world,".

I tried to tell him that sex produces some of the hormones that are responsible for emotional attachment, and that it was no bloody wonder she ditched him.

"Naw, mehn, she wasnt like that," was his reply.

I would be lying if I said I didn't /facepalm in front of the monitor.

By the end of the night, I wanted to strangle him. He wouldn't shut up and kept babbling on about this bimbo he said he was "in love with". I asked if he could describe her and his detailed reply was: "Tall, blonde with big boobs,".

I've dealt with this before over the years. But I swear this made my ire rise higher than the Empire State Building.

So, I'll ask again: Why do people feel the need to broadcast their emotional status and trumpet their either fictional or just plain annoying relationships?

 

[Frequen-Z]

I can honestly say I've never seen anyone just spill that sort of problem onto me.

I'd be mighty pissed if I did though. Gotta live my own life, not gonna waste time trying to fix other peoples.

 

[EeveeElectro]

Because strangers can't judge you, and if they do, you're probably never going to see them again.
Sometimes strangers give the best advice. You may just happen upon a therapist playing online
I've been on Omegle due to boredom before and gave some random girl advice about her boyfriend when she asked me.
People seem to think it's easier to open up to strangers, they don't know who you are or what you're like. Especially if your friends have had enough of your moaning.

 

[Ironic Pirate]

For the same reason you created this topic, to "get it off their chest" so to speak.

Kind of a venting thing, really.

 

[Reveras]

I kinda don't like that too, it's like God got bored and decided to wire people for 1 day so that they can mindfuck me.

 

[Cpt_Oblivious]

Sometimes strangers give the best advice. You may just happen upon a therapist playing online

This is true, back when I played World of Warcraft I was discussing my schoolwork and asking for general tips & ideas on how to approach English coursework. Turns out we had 2 teachers in the guild and I got an A.

People seem to think it's easier to open up to strangers, they don't know who you are or what you're like. Especially if your friends have had enough of your moaning.

And you get a completely new opinion on the problem. Your friends are likely to be slightly biased towards you, but if you want the best idea on what to do, ask a couple of randomers.

 

[snow]

The problem is, no one wants to hear that crap unless they are paid therapists, and since most people would rather NOT pay to talk about their problems, they talk to some one they don't even know in hopes that the person will be thrown off by it and listen.

Me personally? I tell them how it's going to go down. "If you're going to tell me a story about something that happened between you and your significant other, you are to expect for me to give you some advice, and once that advice has been given, you are to take that advice, or never talk to me about this situation again... Ever."

By saying this, it turns away the majority of the people who bring up that situation, because most people don't want advice with their problems, they merely want to vent about them. Nothing pisses me off more than some one who is complaining about relationship problems, saying they don't know what to do, I tell them exactly what they should do, and they ignore the advice only to come back later to ***** about it some more...

I've canceled friendships over this bullshit, and later on when they are chipper again, they say "Yeah I finally got sick of it and did (most likely the thing I told them to do YEARS ago.)"

If they say ok to my warning message, and decide not to take my advice, they never hear from me again depending on how long they annoyed me with their petty problems.

The main issue with relationship problems is that there's some one who is too attached to the person that is causing them grief, and so instead of addressing the problem with their significant other/ex they go out and look for some one who will listen to their sad tale.

There was this one lady friend of mine who ALWAYS dated guys that were mentally and sometimes physically abusive. She NEVER takes advice, and expects people to feel pity for her because of her scenario. FUCK that, she's not looking for help, she's looking for attention.

And that's all it really is, people have something bad happen, and they seek attention from others because of it. It's annoying as hell, and I make sure to avoid it as much as possible UNLESS that person is willing to take my advice.

I am not some one who just sits there and listens to you moan on about your problems, either ask for help, or find some one else! > I'll be a good listener if you agree to do the same for me.

 

[Bruin]

Sometimes strangers give the best advice. You may just happen upon a therapist playing online

This is true, back when I played World of Warcraft I was discussing my schoolwork and asking for general tips & ideas on how to approach English coursework. Turns out we had 2 teachers in the guild and I got an A.

People seem to think it's easier to open up to strangers, they don't know who you are or what you're like. Especially if your friends have had enough of your moaning.

And you get a completely new opinion on the problem. Your friends are likely to be slightly biased towards you, but if you want the best idea on what to do, ask a couple of randomers.

He didn't do it for the purpose of getting advice, he did it for the purpose of flaunting the fact that he claimed to have had a superficial, overall emotionless, and rather pointless relationship with somebody and he wanted to tell me all about it.

I'm not one to turn people down if they genuinely need help. But this fellow didn't want help.

 

[sketch_zeppelin]

wait they did this in a game?...why didn't you just mute them? Its a game, you don't need to worry about being rude...and really in this case, blowing them off wouldn't be rude. They are clearly in the wrong place for that kind of topic to be just randomly brought up.

Now i do feel your pain. For some reason people have a tendancy to talk to me about there problems in real life even though

A) i don't know them that well
and
B) i'm not a social person and don't really like talking to people i'm not close to for long periods of time.

 

[Bruin]

wait they did this in a game?...why didn't you just mute them? Its a game, you don't need to worry about being rude...and really in this case, blowing them off wouldn't be rude. They are clearly in the wrong place for that kind of topic to be just randomly brought up.

Now i do feel your pain. For some reason people have a tendancy to talk to me about there problems in real life even though

A) i don't know them that well
and
B) i'm not a social person and don't really like talking to people i'm not close to for long periods of time.

The game's sort of a '90s revived game, so the mute functions and whatnot are pretty far into the menu; which is on a different screen than the game screen. Not to mention as soon as he logs back in, it'll automatically unmute him.

I don't have as big of a problem with talking to people who need advice in the real world. Partly because people don't lose all self-respect and privacy in the real world and will omit details like "swinger", "big boobs", etc; Generally the things that make me angriest. I also don't keep company who think of relationships in that type of manner. Those type of people don't last long with me, as I don't have a high tolerance for that level of idiocy and I make it clear pretty quickly.