why do some peoplel insist you'll want children?

[blindthrall]

Short answer: They're slaves to their genes.

Long version

Because their denial is so strong they can't admit their own mistake, and only feel better by forcing the same bad decision on others.

The majority of people are unfit economically, intellectually or emotionally to raise children, yet they will continue to do so, creating more unfit parents for the next generation. Out of the dozen friends I have that have had children, only two are actually good parents.

EDIT: I'll take the position seriously when the parent of a teenager tells me. Until then, pets are so much better.

 

[Wounded Melody]

It seems like people who don't want children are acting on a logical level...
Yes, I know we won't exist as a people if we don't procreate.

That is some sweet logic you've got there

What I meant was, people who don't want kids will think things like 'I have mental/physical issues I don't want to pass on', 'there is already overcrowding', 'I don't want to bring someone into an awful world to suffer'. People who want kids think more like 'I want a baby to love', 'I want a baby so I can show it wonderful things', 'I want children because I come from a big family and it was warm and cozy'.
Emotions can override even the biggest issues--for example, if a woman is diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis, having children is very likely to cause her disease to start progressing (my mother has MS so I know all about this). But there are a lot of women with MS who still have kids, even knowing they will probably be in a wheelchair or worse and perhaps even before the kids grow up. Also, at a lecture I attended there was a speaker who had a 100% disabled daughter who couldn't even swallow on her own. This was due to a genetic disease. Then he and his wife HAD ANOTHER CHILD and that child inherited the SAME DISEASE.

 

[gallaetha_matt]

I want kids. That gold mine I built at the back of my garden ain't gonna mine itself.

Ah, I look forward to it already, me sitting on the back porch drinking scotch and reading comics, every now and then I'll yell encouragement to my brood by telling them that their noodly armed pickaxe swinging makes them look gay. Then I'll barracade myself in a bunker when they're of age and are emotionally dead from years of backbreaking labour and steroid abuse. When they come for me I'll leave a note saying 'Ha,' before asphyxi-wanking myself to death, thus robbing them of the one chance they got to get even with me and getting jizz all over their nice clean bunker.

A happy family we'll be.

But in all apparently seriousness, no, I'm not emotionally ready for kids and have had some bad experiences (four year clusterfuck of a break up with my child-obsessed ex being the most prominent, my own white hearted terror of the little shits a close second). My life plan is to drink a lot of beer, eat lots of pizza and die on the toilet at age twenty eight, five hundred pounds overweight, a liver that could double as a housebrick in a giant's mansion and my veins running with more LSD and meth crystals than blood.

So as you can imagine, I'm beating ladies off with a stick. They've literally barracaded me in my flat. Send help.

 

[MelziGurl]

I've known people who were against having children, then they do a complete 360 in the other direction. I believe there is a possibility that you could, but at this stage your set against it. There's always the possibility.

I do hope you're not an engineer.
learn mathematics. seriously.
(or was that ironic and totally flew past my head?)



OT:
I don't get these people either - I don't want kids. Ever.
I don't like kids, and here's a few reasons why:

They're noisy and annoying.
You can't have a decent conversation with them at all about anything.
They cost a lot.
they get underfoot.


I've had a few people say to me (generally these people are mothers of youngish children) that I'd want kids as well someday, despite my protestations. Then the manager asked me to keep an eye on their spawn for a few minutes one day.
Suffice to say that they now all believe that I won't have kids.
Some people go all gooey when they see children - I just view them as minor irritants and couldn't really care less.

as an aside so people know:
ignoring the screaming 6 month old spawn of your boss has three effects
a) it doesn't stop the crying
b) your boss starts listening to you when you say "I don't like kids, don't know what to do with them and don't feel comfortable being responsible for their well-being."
c) your boss never asks you to keep an eye on their progeny ever again.

Your answer to the bolded was simply a figure of speech, there was no seriousness intended though I do see where you are coming from.

Like I said, people only say it because maternal/paternal insticts don't always just kick in like some expect. Some people stick to their guns, others don't it's simple. If you don't feel comfortable with children that's fine, and since your a year older than I then I'm more inclined to believe that you really don't want children.

 

[MelziGurl]

Stuff up >.<

 

[MelziGurl]

I've known people who were against having children, then they do a complete 360 in the other direction.

I have this horrible mental image of someone yelling at their children "I NEVER WANTED YOU!" then spinning 360 degrees to punch them.

Their love for their children gives them extra momentum.

I have image too now thank you very much...and I would pay to see it.

 

[TheYellowCellPhone]

I hate children with all my shriveled black heart. And when you pay and have to spend all that time with them just for a few moments of happiness, no.

I really don't want to have kids. Thank God I don't have to think about it for a few years.

 

[Soxafloppin]

Im not saying that youl want to..

But try finding a girl who is willing to marry a man who doesnt want children.

 

[Wounded Melody]

Im not saying that youl want to..

But try finding a girl who is willing to marry a man who doesnt want children.

I am a girl...there goes your theory!

 

[master m99]

to be fair its kinda the point of being alive reproduction hence the meaning of life is sex! =D

 

[Vromnir]

Okay, maybe it's instinct. It was also instinct to kill each other over fire at one point, but we evolved beyond it.

I don't think that we're gonna evolve past that instinct....