Why do you hate your life?

[SnakeoilSage]

You're not allowed to hate your life. Not until you've grown up absolutely impoverished, in an environment of complete despair and loss.

You have the internet, food, shelter, and the capacity to make more of your life at any moment simply by deciding to do so. To say that you hate your life is so utterly arrogant and self-centered as to be rendered completely moot by the laws of nature itself.

 

[Thyunda]

*massive snip*
I fucking love my life.

If you seriously mean the part I left unsnipped, then you are amazing. I've never known someone so down in the shitter and still love life. You are an inspiration and I sincerely hope things pick up for you soon.

OT: I don't. I wasn't going to post anything, but then I saw that post I quoted.

Main thing that keeps me going is sheer arrogance. What, do you think me some puny mortal that'd just cave in at the first sign of pressure? Pah. Go back to your parents, children. A real man just entered the room.

Course, it makes me kind of a dick. But hey, I'm not taking shit from university students. I will not be told that student life is hard. So when they start complaining at me about having a week to write a 2000 word essay, I present them with my red-letter informing me I have seven days to dig up £60 or face going to court.
I simply order them to get an extension on the deadline.
Which...funnily enough is exactly why I'm not in courtroom custody. Desperation does great things for charisma.

You're not allowed to hate your life. Not until you've grown up absolutely impoverished, in an environment of complete despair and loss.

You have the internet, food, shelter, and the capacity to make more of your life at any moment simply by deciding to do so. To say that you hate your life is so utterly arrogant and self-centered as to be rendered completely moot by the laws of nature itself.

You know, there's more things that lead to hating life than growing up in poverty. You don't have to be an Ethiopian child, starved and dehydrated, to have reason to hate yourself. Loneliness is the biggest cause. Loneliness is the worst of the things that get to me.
And yeah. I have no money. Fortunately, I have help with my internet, so I at least have that luxury.
But if I leave the heating on all night, then I don't eat the next week. If there's one delayed payment from the council, then I'm in debt. But those are all material problems. Fuck them.
The biggest problem is I'm so far from family and former friends. I don't seem to synchronise with anybody in this city. I have a few acquaintances, and I get on well with people, but I can't ever seem to get rid of the insufferable loneliness. And it is torture.


So, Snakeoil, rather than declaring the upset 'arrogant and self-centred', maybe you should realise there are more important things than money, and that the wealthy can be sad too. Telling people that they're rendered moot by the laws of nature because they hate where they are is extreme. You're either very bitter, or very privileged.

 

[Nazulu]

I don't hate my life, there's many things I lack but I can make up for it. I hate many others though.

 

[PUR3_GAM3R33]

The only reason I hate my life is because it's not like Video Games,Movies,TV Shows,Comics,or practically anything awesome/interesting.

Reality is Boring.

 

[DoomyMcDoom]

I hate the fact that other people hate their lives, and I guess that's part of my life...

But seriously pal, chill, shit can get rough and life is hell, there is no can't when it comes to moving on from a love interest, there is won't or don't want to, simple, go out and find someone else, you'll forget her eventually, whether you want to or not.

And as to whether it's possible to be have a crush on a dude and a girl at the same time, well if you're bisexual I can't see why not, straight guys can have a crush on 2 girls simultainiously(happened to me once or twice), so I fail to see a difference there.

But seriously, if you wanna be happy only thing you can do is BE happy, your life is quite simply what you choose to make of it, sure you may not control all the variables, but how you handle the one's you're presented with, and what you choose to do with what you got on hand, is all that matters.

I'm a broke, highschool droppout, workin a dead end job and barely payin my damn bills, but I choose to LIVE and to love, and to have fun whenever possible, I turn my job into an enjoyable activity, by being as positive, flirty and funny as I can be while serving customers, time flies, I enjoy my time at work, and I get relationships buildin every day with my regulars, I've made good friends through work previously.

And how does it affect my dating life? Fan-Freakin-tastically, if you're a positive and energized person, and stay in control of yourself(like know basic social etiquet, and don't like, force yourself on people, hang back and relax), generally you get results, with ease, if you're bummed out all the time, you cannot expect to get dates or have someone want you, why? Because if you can't make yourself happy, you can't make anyone else happy, simple, you become a downer to those around you, and that doesn't help your love life AT ALL.

My advice? Take it easy, life can only get you down if it ends(and that down is bein buried), or you let it. Go out meet a buncha new people, the more practise you get dealing with people you find attractive in a casual(not obsessive and possibly creepy) way, the easier it gets to just have fun, and attract those you want to.

Cheers!

 

[demoman_chaos]

I currently have the stomach flu and a severe case of Forever Alone. Otherwise, all is ok.

 

[The Pinray]

Threads like this I actually really love my life. I have a loving family, a great girl, and a decent enough job. I get to play a bunch of great video games in my spare time and hang out with awesome friends.

BUT if I was forced to choose one aspect I dislike I'd say bills are garbage and need to die. Oh, and I want a raise!

 

[dancinginfernal]

OT: I'd be sarcastic and gloat about my life, but it's a bit of a dick move. All I can say is chin up. Look up, not down. When I got dumped out of a long-term relationship (3 years) when she left for another I was destroyed. I was full-on suicidal, though I never attempted. Never been so depressed.

But here I am, almost a year later, with another fine gal and I'm optimistic as ever. Things always improve if they're bad now. Life is a see-saw of sorts.

"I am an optimist, it does not seem much use to be anything else." - Winston Churchill

Chin up, chaps.

x

This man is my new favorite individual on the Escapist.

 

[TheGreatKlaid]

I call myself The Great.... I feel wonderful about my life. The only thing I could ever complain about is still living at home, but until my girlfriend finishes school I don't care. Hell, I hate it when people whine about their lives. It smacks of being a bit of a baby...

 

[Jumpingbean3]

People can add to your happiness, but they can't be your sole source of it.

No, that of course is the sole responsibility of an entirely different species:

Cats: They have reptilian eyes, they'll sometimes claw at you even if they like you and when they do like you they give you a look that says "you will not survive the night":

Yes this is a look that cats give to people they like.

But god dammit they're so lovable.

 

[Connor2224]

cant talk to girls outside of facebook get nervous sweat it becomes awkward

 

[Ieyke]

The girl I love loves me...but she has a boyfriend she loves too and refuses to leave or cheat on (not that I'd want her to be the type of person to cheat on him), my best friend lives with me after she nearly killed herself on Thanksgiving.....I've had a crush on her for 12 years, and the first girl I ever loved-who I'm still not completely over-just left my place about 5 minutes ago......
All three girls are friends with each other to some degree.
At this point I could probably ask out my best friend or first love with good odds of success, but they know I truly love the girl who's taken, and her boyfriend is shipping out in February and leaving her single.
So, I'm just kinda sitting here stuck between temptations, but realistically I'm screwed if I do anything but wait for the girl I love to become single in February.

 

[ChaosBorne]

girlfriend lives in america, i live in the netherlands, that is all.

 

[NvrPhazed]

Right now in my life I am totally scared. I'm 21 and getting close to finishing my associates (taking longer because can't go full time). I just lost my job a couple of months ago. No one is hiring. I don't know if I'll get a job even with a degree. I have literally only one friend I regularly talk to. I'm about as socially proficient as a rock. I haven't had a serious talk with a girl in forever. I haven't had a relationship in years. I'm still a virgin (although tbh that really doesn't bother me that much). I have a problem with motivating myself to do things (seerocrastinator). My younger brother hates my guts, my sister thinks I'm weird, and my older brother seems to be the only one understanding a little bit. I'm browsing posts like this in the middle of the night. I've gained 30 lbs since high school. At the end of the day, I can't even imagine anyone missing me besides my family if I died. I always come to the conclusion that my life is pretty much a waste of space. The state of the world is a joke. Yes we can live longer and cure more diseases, but in the end we still can't stop fighting each other over stupid shit like money, and governments are imposing the most stupid laws and ignoring the real problems.
However, I will not just sit here and die, I refuse to give up this easily. I may be forgotten when I die, but I will try to make this world a better place for other people, so others won't feel like I do. I believe Morgan Freeman said it best, "The world is good place and it is worth fighting for. I agree with the second part".
/speech

 

[BadPublicity]

Apart from not being able to talk to the girl I like face to face, (i seem to be able to talk to her with text pretty well -_-) which really frustrates me, my life is okay.

 

[Philol]

I hate my life? awwww

 

[Orcboyphil]

Well I'm 30 years old, I'm Dyslexic, dyspraxic and I've got insulin dependant diabetes. Also I've been unemployed for 4 years now and it feels like I'll never get a job. Thankgod that I at least live in a civilised country with social security and nationalised healthcare.

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

I love my life, but I hate my DSL.

I once had Road Runner, back in 2008. I had an average speed of 900kps. The connection was always solid and I never had problems with it. I was streaming 3gb movies from downloads (not netflix)

Now I had DSL. 400kps is the norm and it drops out constantly. Its frustrating to have something so good and then to go to something so bad.

 

[Faladorian]

yes...

but of coarse aparently YOU know whats REALLY going on, YOU can see that me and everyone are just ignorant fools for thinking we are happy, when in relity we really should be as miserable as you

so yeah, dont mind me

I never said you should be miserable, I said I think everyone already is.

 

[Faladorian]

No offense but it must REALLY suck to be you. I'd way rather be "ingorant" and happy then a self loathing humanity hating downer.

Precisely one of the reasons I detest humanity in the first place. Nobody gives a shit about the truth. If the truth hurts, they hide in their crib and bury their face in their pillow.

It's not a matter of pessimism. Acknowledging the horrific things that happen in the world will make you miserable. Past that, it's only a matter of how much you actually value reality. Most people don't. I do.