Can you name any 'big name feminists', and for that matter, can you name the limelight hogging extremists and what about them you find extreme?siomasm said:"Big name feminists" I understand many femenists are level headed and generally sickened by the extremeists who hog the spotlight.
The reason you haven't seen many genuine big name feminists talking about saints row, is because very few (if any) of the 'superstars' of the feminist scene (e.g. Gloria Steinem, bell hooks etc.) talk much about games. When more famous feminists talk about gaming, it tends to be in light of a specific controversy (e.g. harassment) rather than a critique of general content. The feminists who regularly make critiques of sexism in games tend to be gamers themselves, and relatively small names. Someone like Anita Sarkeesian is known much more in the gaming world than the feminist one (though her tone & content is by no means what most feminists would call extreme).
The main dispute going on within feminism atm, the main point around which feminists might decry others as 'extremist', is transgender rights. Transphobic feminists (E.g. Julie Burchill, Julie Bindel etc.) come closest to your description of "extremists who hog the spotlight" and they, frankly, don't get a huge amount of spotlight, since many feminists will simply not have anything to do with them.