Why I hate Valentines day
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Any holiday or celebration in general can be categorized as "stupid" if you break it down enough. Christmas we drag a tree into the house, put bulbs and tinsel on it and buy relatives we see once a year presents to say "yea I didn't forget you exist." At least in the case of Valentine's day, you only get something for someone you deem worthy. And no, not everyone celebrates it by buying gifts. Sometimes it's just a designated day to spend time together and be in love.
That sounds a lot less ridiculous than the zombie of Jesus dressing as a bunny and hiding plastic eggs full of chocolate eggs for children to fight over like it's the last nudey mag on earth. Even if you don't need an excuse to be all mushy, sometimes it's nice to have. You don't have to explain yourself, if your significant other is like mine, you don't have to convince them it's ok that you spend money or took extra time out for them that day. You can just point to the fuckin calender. Valentine's day is a celebration of love. Like Christmas was intended as a celebration of Christ, and Thanksgiving is a celebration of gluttony. Well, and the settling of North America.
That sounds a lot less ridiculous than the zombie of Jesus dressing as a bunny and hiding plastic eggs full of chocolate eggs for children to fight over like it's the last nudey mag on earth. Even if you don't need an excuse to be all mushy, sometimes it's nice to have. You don't have to explain yourself, if your significant other is like mine, you don't have to convince them it's ok that you spend money or took extra time out for them that day. You can just point to the fuckin calender. Valentine's day is a celebration of love. Like Christmas was intended as a celebration of Christ, and Thanksgiving is a celebration of gluttony. Well, and the settling of North America.
I dont even understnad WHY single people get upset about valntines day...
who cares? mabye I just take too much pleasure in being single and smirking at those silly couples..I just do what I want like its any normal day content in my smug supirority
who cares? mabye I just take too much pleasure in being single and smirking at those silly couples..I just do what I want like its any normal day content in my smug supirority
I concur! A singles day should be celebrated!SmashLovesTitanQuest said:
I think I've maybe bought one valentines day present ever... Normally it's women buying ME things that day, though it might be that I "gift" in different ways, usually through say providing a full massage(good with my hands
), or cooking an orgasmically tasty supper, or just spending decent quality time with my woman, if possible. I don't see buying things as a way of expressing love, it's more of an admission that you couldn't find a better way to express it, and fail as a man.Also I love valentine's day when I'm single, if you look around you there's TONS of women who are single and lonely who go out on valentine's so MAYBE some guy will approach them... You hafta be blind not to see that, it's the perfect day for a single guy to just say, go out hop on a bus and hang out at a coffee shop and approach a woman of your choice and maybe find a partner so you aren't lonely.
Overall unless you fall into the trap as a guy of just buying your girl shit all the time to try and make her fuck you more(which by the way is counteractive because it shows you to be inept, and unable to express yourself propperly, or makes it look like you're trying to buy her love.), valentines is a good day for all, if you let it be.
Like any holiday it means whatever you want it to mean. If you see it as some rubbish commerical holiday then that's what it'll be. I see it as just a general day of love. If you're in a relationship, do a little something extra special for your partner like you would on their birthday or an anniversary. If you're single and interested in someone it's a day when you can gather up the courage to ask them out. If you're single and enjoying it then go have a day out with your mates. You don't have to buy them huge bunches of flowers and you don't have to go out to expensive resteraunts to celebrate Valentine's Day.
I'm getting to be more against it. My two best friends both didn't get anything from their girlfriends, yet they're expected to pay for dinner and whatever else for their girlfriends?
I'm someone who's all about what's fair and equal, so this obviously didn't sit well with me when I heard it.
Love isn't about money.
I'm someone who's all about what's fair and equal, so this obviously didn't sit well with me when I heard it.
Love isn't about money.
I used to hate valentines day to till I released it's an excuse to do something special with someone special, much like Christmas as an excuse to get together with people and have a good time. It's not the only day I do something special for my girlfriend but I don't mind having an extra excuse to show her how much I love her.
you win man...but did you need to report him for being a stubborn prick?SmashLovesTitanQuest said:I had plenty of constructive shit to say, you just chose to ignore it.Torrasque said:
Anyway, thanks for calling me a troll, cause now I can report you. Bye bye
Well, most won't. Valentines day as it exists now probobly comes from card and gift companies sure, but why does that automatically make it bad? Me and my girlfriend go out frequently and still love each other on every day of the year but maybe having a day set completely aside to spend with them isn't such a bad thing. Thinking on it, synchronizing it means you are less likely to make plans with someone else or whatever. It's just a way of making sure your loved one/ones know how you feel.Torrasque said:
This year we went out for dinner, bought each other some DS games and played together all night. Is that stupid?
People don't treat it like some sacred institution, nobody who takes it too seriously is worth stressing about.
Wow... the words: Consumerist Holiday haven't appeared yet... so I will add them into the mix.
Its the same with any event nowadays... shops (and I used to work in retail, which is where I got this impression) LOVE to jump on any bandwagon to try and sell things... They will repeatedly say the name of a day, sporting the symbology attached to that day until it all loses meaning, and then rebuilds itself as a time for spending...
People lose creativity when they are surroundd by signs telling them to do something in a particular way... and people love to be conformist and do that!
Personally, when I was with my ex we agreed not to do the day, because it is just consumerist pap, and meaningless now... not to mention the lack of effort, and the cheap and tacky shop decor, and the atrocious ammount of pink paper hearts! At least the decor at Christmas is more tastefull!
Its the same with any event nowadays... shops (and I used to work in retail, which is where I got this impression) LOVE to jump on any bandwagon to try and sell things... They will repeatedly say the name of a day, sporting the symbology attached to that day until it all loses meaning, and then rebuilds itself as a time for spending...
People lose creativity when they are surroundd by signs telling them to do something in a particular way... and people love to be conformist and do that!
Personally, when I was with my ex we agreed not to do the day, because it is just consumerist pap, and meaningless now... not to mention the lack of effort, and the cheap and tacky shop decor, and the atrocious ammount of pink paper hearts! At least the decor at Christmas is more tastefull!
I guess you'll not be participating in Christmas then either? My two cents: get over yourself. Like so many people here are quick to say whenever games/films/books are debated, your opinion is your own. If you don't like it good for you, sit it out, don't participate. However so people do want to and that's their choice too.Torrasque said:
Nothing wrong with gift giving, if there's a specific day to facilitate it then why not? Plus you don't need to give physical items that cost money or anything, something heartfelt and out of the ordinary that you know your significant other will appreciate also works.
It's a day for everyone to pretty much coordinate dates with their significant other, and everyone knows not to try to hang out with any friends in a relationship so that they and their SO can have that day just to spend with each other.
You know, I was single for this one, but instead of wallowing in self-pity because of that, I got my crush a nice gift. No one could judge me for not getting her something, and I'd be an idiot to expect sex from a girl I'm not even dating, but I chose a culturally significant day to begin to express my affection for her. Now, I'll ask her out on a proper date instead of just to hang out, and see how that goes. If society wants to say this day's special for some reason, I'll use it to my advantage when I finally make a move.
I just wish I hadn't worked that afternoon, or else I would've asked her on a date then, but I figured I'd use the day to at least get the ball rolling.
You know, I was single for this one, but instead of wallowing in self-pity because of that, I got my crush a nice gift. No one could judge me for not getting her something, and I'd be an idiot to expect sex from a girl I'm not even dating, but I chose a culturally significant day to begin to express my affection for her. Now, I'll ask her out on a proper date instead of just to hang out, and see how that goes. If society wants to say this day's special for some reason, I'll use it to my advantage when I finally make a move.
I just wish I hadn't worked that afternoon, or else I would've asked her on a date then, but I figured I'd use the day to at least get the ball rolling.
You, DarkRyter, run for something now. I want to vote for you.DarkRyter said:
OP - Re-read what many of those in relationships said here - it's not the gifts so much as the act of giving. If done right, it's not about money or food or flowers, it's about appreciating someone. When I was coupled our best Valentine's Days were when we stayed home, made dinner together, watched tv or a movie and smooched (he didn't play video games). I think what you're reacting to is the hype like is done for every other holiday.