I'm sure you know there are skilled jobs with decent salaries that give you a lot more free time then you are describing, with minimal retraining.Brawndo said:But the point of this thread is this: anytime I made a comment about my long hours to people in my life or on internet forums, I was told to stop being "lazy". My family and friends said that because I was young, I didn't have any other responsibilities and should work extra hard. If I wanted to get ahead, I needed to "put in my dues" during my twenties. When I mentioned becoming a school teacher, I was laughed at and admonished.
This culture of work and money can really get exhausting sometimes and wear you down. But I can't even mention this kind of stuff outside the anonymity of the internet, lest I get blacklisted in my profession and ridiculed by my peers.
It sounds like you are need of affirmation that working less so you can have more free time is a respectable and good choice. You're not getting that affirmation because your family, friends, and peers are not supporting that idea.
I can tell my story, which is that by age 18 I knew I didn't need much money to be happy, so in college I followed my interests in physics without much concern for a practical career (I figured I could always teach as a backup plan). That led me to "useless" subjects like theoretical physics, pure mathematics, and philosophy that enriched my life greatly. I did well not because of "intelligence" (I'd never shown an aptitude for math in high school), but because I was so interested in the academic subjects that I studied them for fun. That led to me going to graduate school, and now I'm a research scientist getting paid well enough to save 1/2 of my salary after expenses (single, no kids), and even though I work about 40 hours a week it's on my own schedule, and I enjoy what I do enough that it often doesn't feel like work.
It's hard to meet people who will support your new path properly. The truth is, a lot of folks out there are just lazy and unambitious, and fill their non-working days with degenerative recreation. Fortunately, working out these issues does not require a companion, it can be done by reading great authors. The most directly appropriate is Thoreau, who spent two years living in austerity in the woods and writes a lot about the downside of unnecessary work, beyond what is needed for survival. He is good to read in quotes, or you can read his main work on the subject here:
http://xroads.virginia.edu/~hyper/walden/hdt01.html
"A man is rich in proportion to the number of things he can afford to let alone."
"I had three pieces of limestone on my desk, but I was terrified to find that they required to be dusted daily, when the furniture of my mind was all undusted still, and threw them out the window in disgust."
Thoreau is more of a poet than a philosopher, but that makes him more accessible, and they make some gorgeous coffee-table books of his quotes that you could give to family and friends to maybe cause them to think differently about your new path.
If you want to read more, Aristotle and Marx thought a lot about how our work relates to our happiness in life. Here's Aristotle:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nicomachean_Ethics
and here's Marx:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marx's_theory_of_alienation