You feel strange when you're not with them, which is definitely part of the shitty side of love, but the world seems pretty good when they're around. Plus, it feels brilliant to be around them, even if there's silences, they never feel awkward. There's also a persistent little fear that maybe they don't feel the same way because, unless they've explicitly said that you make them feel that way, it's hard to tell. It's a hard thing to describe.
Without sounding idiotic, what does love feel like?
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There are many kinds of love, and you have probably felt quite a few of them yourself. Have you ever cared for another person, worried about them, or wanted them to do well etc? That is a form of love.
Romantic love has many forms as well. You can romantically love someone in unselfish ways, or you can desire their presence and love them for what they give you, how they make you feel etc.
You can even have multiple kinds of love at once. You may love someone, care about them and want the best for them, but also love how they make you feel, and love the fact that they love/care about you as well. If one of those loves goes away, the others may not as well...but it can certainly change your relationship with the other person.
The whole "butterflies in your stomach" type thing is mainly due to possibilities, being nervous about if someone else will feel the same way as you, and just excitement over finding someone that makes you feel good, or that you want to spend time with and invite into your life.
Selfishness is a huge factor in love as well and there are certainly many types of selfish love (and of course many types of unselfish love). In generally love is classified as a good thing, but that is not always true. Love of someone or something can have negative consequences both for yourself and the object of your love. Not all love is healthy, and not all love ends well.
Romantic love has many forms as well. You can romantically love someone in unselfish ways, or you can desire their presence and love them for what they give you, how they make you feel etc.
You can even have multiple kinds of love at once. You may love someone, care about them and want the best for them, but also love how they make you feel, and love the fact that they love/care about you as well. If one of those loves goes away, the others may not as well...but it can certainly change your relationship with the other person.
The whole "butterflies in your stomach" type thing is mainly due to possibilities, being nervous about if someone else will feel the same way as you, and just excitement over finding someone that makes you feel good, or that you want to spend time with and invite into your life.
Selfishness is a huge factor in love as well and there are certainly many types of selfish love (and of course many types of unselfish love). In generally love is classified as a good thing, but that is not always true. Love of someone or something can have negative consequences both for yourself and the object of your love. Not all love is healthy, and not all love ends well.
Yeah, that's a pretty good definition.Aylaine said:Love to me feels like a all consuming, terrifying, wonderful set of emotions. For her, I would wait. Even if my heart decays. I'll hear her out. I won't take her for granted, or push her away. I will always be honest with her. I appreciate her and to be quite honest, I would do just about anything for her. ♥
Simply put, love is an emotion that can pull you into doing things you never thought you would do. Saying things you swore you never would. You care about that person so much. You want them to be happy. To be with you. It's closer then close. In the grand scheme of things, love is probably one of the most potent feelings in my opinion. I have seen it change people more profoundly then loss or jealousy or any other emotion could. That's how it feels to me. Maintaining my sense of self is a bit of a challenge when love comes into play.
Love is a chaotic state of mind, but I don't think life would be the same without it.
feels like mind control. your hormones are compelling you to forgo your rational motivations for primal motivations. it's as simple as that. if you can recognise and differentiate between these things, you can make conscious decisions about your actions. if you can't, then you're naught but a slave to biology.
Love is being willing to put in the work - admitting when you're wrong, learning fair ways to fight, accepting someone's faults, appreciating when they accept yours, wanting to help them become a better version of themselves because that is what they do for you. Love is about the mundane. The grand gestures are the easy part of love - that's where you get your romantic comedies and love songs and poetry and whatnot. But love is really about the day-to-day support you give each other in a thousand very small ways.
Well love is like a real life porn, minus all the things that make porn cool.
Love is taking a dive, getting really comfortable and peeing in the pool.
Love is a homeless guy searching for treasure in the middle of the rain, and finding a bag of gold coins.
Then slowly realizing they're all filled with chocolates, and even though he's heart broken he can't complain, because he was hungry in the first place.
OT: Milla Jovovich...
I can only describe the feeling as Milla Jovovich...
Actually on topic: It feels like slitting your wrists to find you bleed pulsating rainbows...
Love is taking a dive, getting really comfortable and peeing in the pool.
Love is a homeless guy searching for treasure in the middle of the rain, and finding a bag of gold coins.
Then slowly realizing they're all filled with chocolates, and even though he's heart broken he can't complain, because he was hungry in the first place.
OT: Milla Jovovich...
I can only describe the feeling as Milla Jovovich...
Actually on topic: It feels like slitting your wrists to find you bleed pulsating rainbows...
I still think KOTOR II had the best way of putting it. HK-47 take the floor
http://youtu.be/yHy5OvJJN1A
?Definition: 'Love' is making a shot to the knees of a target 120 kilometres away using an Aratech sniper rifle with a tri-light scope. Statement: This definition, I am told, is subject to interpretation. Obviously, 'love' is a matter of odds. Not many meatbags could make such a shot, and strangely enough, not many meatbags would derive love from it. Yet for me, love is knowing your target, putting them in your targeting reticle, and together, achieving a singular purpose... against statistically long odds...? - HK-47 for thoose not to watch.
http://youtu.be/yHy5OvJJN1A
?Definition: 'Love' is making a shot to the knees of a target 120 kilometres away using an Aratech sniper rifle with a tri-light scope. Statement: This definition, I am told, is subject to interpretation. Obviously, 'love' is a matter of odds. Not many meatbags could make such a shot, and strangely enough, not many meatbags would derive love from it. Yet for me, love is knowing your target, putting them in your targeting reticle, and together, achieving a singular purpose... against statistically long odds...? - HK-47 for thoose not to watch.
I would say that love is a fundamental change of how you look at the world. it works at many different levels, but it basically changes the base assumptions that you use to make decisions. If someone loves ice cream that could be a simple ice cream equals happiness connection so they find if crazy when someone does not like it because its no longer a food so much as a state of the being that ice cream make you happy. It could also scale up to the point where its seems more that another person is equivalent a part of or the whole of self. So making them happy or protecting them is the same or better than doing so for yourself. If I had to describe it; its simply knowing that the person you love is a part of your life, that you would do anything for them, and hoping or knowing the same is true in reveres and I mean knowing not thinking.
Captcha "cats pajamas" or that, that works
Captcha "cats pajamas" or that, that works
I'm in a fresh relationship atm. (~2 months) and for me it's like I can't stop thinking about her and I grin all the time when I do. This to the point of it actually slightly bothering my studies as my mind wanders so often during lectures. Also that warm fuzzy feeling when I'm next to her is amazing.
Apparently, the sensation of love is different for everyone.
One of my friends said that being in love felt like ecstasy whenever she was around whoever she was in love with (and she knows that exact sensation because she had experienced ecstasy once before).
Another one of my friends said that it was like opening presents on Christmas Day, where you're filled with joy, happiness, excitement, and bliss, all at once.
When I experience love, it was like a warm feeling in my heart, burning very intensely and passionately that it felt like my blood was melting my chest.
So yeah, it might be difficult to pinpoint the exact sensation or feeling that represents love, but you'll know it's love because it's a feeling that feels good and you want to be with that individual in order to continue having that feeling.
One of my friends said that being in love felt like ecstasy whenever she was around whoever she was in love with (and she knows that exact sensation because she had experienced ecstasy once before).
Another one of my friends said that it was like opening presents on Christmas Day, where you're filled with joy, happiness, excitement, and bliss, all at once.
When I experience love, it was like a warm feeling in my heart, burning very intensely and passionately that it felt like my blood was melting my chest.
So yeah, it might be difficult to pinpoint the exact sensation or feeling that represents love, but you'll know it's love because it's a feeling that feels good and you want to be with that individual in order to continue having that feeling.
To put it in the most blunt and simplistic way I'd say it's like a full-body blush coupled with head-rush:
Warm all over, slight (but pleasant) ache in the body, a feeling of being slightly disconnected from things around you.
Not a very romantic view, but that's how it's felt for me in the past. It feels different for different people I imagine and it most likely feels different depending on the situation. The love I've felt for someone while they're all messy-haired in a comfy dressing-gown first thing in the morning is very different from the love I feel when we're messing that hair up the previous night.
EDIT - Also, time affects feelings of love, I imagine:
There's only so many ways you can write someone's name in the clouds, but there's thousands of other ways to make them feel just as special.
Warm all over, slight (but pleasant) ache in the body, a feeling of being slightly disconnected from things around you.
Not a very romantic view, but that's how it's felt for me in the past. It feels different for different people I imagine and it most likely feels different depending on the situation. The love I've felt for someone while they're all messy-haired in a comfy dressing-gown first thing in the morning is very different from the love I feel when we're messing that hair up the previous night.
EDIT - Also, time affects feelings of love, I imagine:
Pretty much as above.Susan Arendt said:
There's only so many ways you can write someone's name in the clouds, but there's thousands of other ways to make them feel just as special.
That second image, from Neil Gaiman, almost exactly describes my opinion on lovewintercoat said:And now to get all cynical on you.
Only experienced it once.
Unfortunately, it was one-sided... sort of.
She loved me like the brother she'd never had, but that was it.
I... was in love with her, despite my best efforts not to be.
She... was already with someone else.
So for me...
being in love is feeling deliciously trapped...
like being stuck in a bear-trap that's been smothered with honey...
and is starting to attract bees.
Unfortunately, it was one-sided... sort of.
She loved me like the brother she'd never had, but that was it.
I... was in love with her, despite my best efforts not to be.
She... was already with someone else.
So for me...
being in love is feeling deliciously trapped...
like being stuck in a bear-trap that's been smothered with honey...
and is starting to attract bees.
Which is why I go around urinating on strangers. Generosity is a good thing!Shinsei-J said:
But no, I don't know about end all incredible must marry this person sort of love, but the times when I've been in a loving relationship have been times when the remnants of my depression have completely left me, which is a blessing I can't even begin to describe.
Just knowing there's someone to have and hold is an incredibly blissful feeling, topped only by when you do something to make said person happy and see their face light up.
That's my cheesy description of personal experience done for the day!
Different in every relationship I've been and assumed that what I feel is "love."
For one thing, love feels different than the feeling of being in love.
Love can be unconditional - painful. Ouch. Bad. Bleh.
Love can be that p-word which escapes my mind at the moment.
And it can be mutual.
The feeling of love is caring for someone, having compassion for them and being empathetic.
Being in love; the deal breaker for me, knowing that I'm in love with someone, is when I think of death and to calm myself down I think of them; the thought of being without them makes my arms ache as if I had a panic attack coming on (sounds really clingy but it's just something that happens to me xD); and ultimately the proper proper way I can make sure I'm in love with someone is knowing and having the feeling that they are real. Like, realizing that they are real, they're alive, they actually exist. You know that feeling where you're like "what if everyone else is fake... and it's just me?" yeah, well, with people you love/are in love with, that goes away if it's proper. At least, that's how I see it.
It's a feeling of contentedness with life; I hesitate to say "perpetual happiness" because you can still be unhappy with certain aspects of your life while you love/are in love with someone. But always having a background feeling of being content, a feeling of being safe, loved back, all round warm inside, I guess - the usual stuff people say about it. Along with feelings of wanting them and needing them.
Also a feeling of selflessness has to accompany it. If I will do just about anything for that person without questioning it or complaining (unless I'm joking ;D) and I'll just get stuff for them without having to ask why then yeah that's another part of it for me.
Long answer is long.
For one thing, love feels different than the feeling of being in love.
Love can be unconditional - painful. Ouch. Bad. Bleh.
Love can be that p-word which escapes my mind at the moment.
And it can be mutual.
The feeling of love is caring for someone, having compassion for them and being empathetic.
Being in love; the deal breaker for me, knowing that I'm in love with someone, is when I think of death and to calm myself down I think of them; the thought of being without them makes my arms ache as if I had a panic attack coming on (sounds really clingy but it's just something that happens to me xD); and ultimately the proper proper way I can make sure I'm in love with someone is knowing and having the feeling that they are real. Like, realizing that they are real, they're alive, they actually exist. You know that feeling where you're like "what if everyone else is fake... and it's just me?" yeah, well, with people you love/are in love with, that goes away if it's proper. At least, that's how I see it.
It's a feeling of contentedness with life; I hesitate to say "perpetual happiness" because you can still be unhappy with certain aspects of your life while you love/are in love with someone. But always having a background feeling of being content, a feeling of being safe, loved back, all round warm inside, I guess - the usual stuff people say about it. Along with feelings of wanting them and needing them.
Also a feeling of selflessness has to accompany it. If I will do just about anything for that person without questioning it or complaining (unless I'm joking ;D) and I'll just get stuff for them without having to ask why then yeah that's another part of it for me.
Long answer is long.
No, that's boobs according to the 40 year old virginOmniscientOstrich said:
Though I can understand how boobs can be equated to love. Covering the heart and being all squeezable and whatnot.
Love makes you scared and careful with every action you take. It is hard to hold onto it and losing it causes the worst thing imaginable. It invokes terror and caution. At the same time it melts away any stress, sadness, and disappointment. Love is a paradox in which if you hold it too close, you crush it. If you are too open with it and try to enjoy it to the fullest extent possible, it will be snatched away and lost due to carelessness.
It is like a dull ache from a scar or tattoo. You are glad you got it, but obtaining it was pretty terrible.
It is like a dull ache from a scar or tattoo. You are glad you got it, but obtaining it was pretty terrible.
Let me explain it, how it felt, the one and only time I have EVER felt love.Substitute Troll said:
It was like having a combination of a fever, and having as much energy or more than my body could contain, it made me feel strength beyond measure, endurance that wouldn't fade, and it made me feel like there was an unbreakable chain between me, and the one I loved, thing is, when you feel smitten for someone and they don't reiterate it cannot get like this, this was a feeling that awoke after she declared love for me.
Then as all things do, her love for me died... And it felt like my internal organs all burst at once... I HAD to drink myself into a coma to keep me from falling on a sword then and there... Then my boss called me trying to get me to come in to work... heh, needless to say I had downed 750ml of vodka within the 20mins prior to that phone call, I wasn't walking to the bus without falling into traffic, my room mate being the awesome friend he is, kept me from leaving, and called my manager to relay my state, so as to say that there was no way in hell barring a miracle of sudden sobriety, that I'd be at work.
After that I felt a hole that wouldn't be filled open in me, and no matter how many women I slept with, or courted, I never found that feeling, even a glimpse, or hint of it since, just mild interest, and maybe a bit of lust, but nothing real, it's like a state of emotional shellshock.
Trust me when I say, do not ever let love overtake you like I did, keep it chained, experience it, but keep it confined, do not let it become a driving foce in your life, instead, give it a passenger seat and keep it there.
As in all life, letting anything become that important to you, will hurt you dearly, as nothing lasts forever.
Many people say that love is dangerous. That it hurts and it makes you vulnerable. These things are true. Nothing is as rewarding as love and for that reason nothing can cut so deep. Love is happiness so intense that it is terrifying, joy so complete that it breaks through ever defense you have and exposes your deepest and most vulnerable self. This is why love is so frighting and dangerous. This is why no one can ever truly convey to you what love is. Nothing else can bring you so high or cut you so deep.
You can choose to protect yourself from love, to never give yourself completely to another. You can choose to love a little, just scraping the surface, never letting it rule you, never letting it break through to your deepest self. You will be safe from the terrible pain that can result from love, but you will never experience the greatest happiness this life has to offer. Your choice.
You can choose to protect yourself from love, to never give yourself completely to another. You can choose to love a little, just scraping the surface, never letting it rule you, never letting it break through to your deepest self. You will be safe from the terrible pain that can result from love, but you will never experience the greatest happiness this life has to offer. Your choice.