Very curious to hear some takes on this phenomenon - from guys and gals who've seen it or experienced it first hand. Some examples, from my personal experience:
I worked with a very cute, very cool gal for a couple years. Always had a bit of a crush on her, but so does just about every guy she meets. Out of nowhere, she ends up with our boss. How do I put this tactfully... he's a douche. Says inappropriate shit almost nonstop. Demonstrates very little consideration for others unless it clearly serves his own interests. Even on shallower metrics (appearance, wealth), he measures pretty poorly. Other than her, I can't find anyone who even likes the guy. So how did he end up with this angel?
Now, again at work, we've got a new boss. Don't know him well enough to judge his character accurately at this point, but he comes off pretty lame. Not very smart or interesting, questionable sense of humor, little on the dickish side. He's certainly more likable than my old boss. Still, he's got some really young gal basically slobbering all over him out of, again, seemingly nowhere. She's been working there for a long time and never showed interest in anyone else. Now, a guy her age is in charge and showing interest, and she's smitten?
One more example, and this one is nerdtastic. I used to partake in a certain MMO that shall not be named. The guild had a variety of guys and gals, and one of gals was into the guild master. She was cute and cool, so he went with it. After a time, he decided he was ready to move on from the game and start his life. Thought he would bring her with him, but lo and behold, she didn't like him anymore! Fast forward a bit, and I'm GM. Guess who suddenly likes me a whole lot? Fast forward a lot, I'm leaving the game behind, and I get absolutely demolished as well. The kicker? Near as I can tell, same girl was all over the next GM...
Come to find out about this theory that women are attracted to men at the top of a hierarchy - any hierarchy. You can be the head of a fucking bowling league or the manager of a Taco Bell - and you will be more attractive to women. Apparently it's something to do with fitness for reproduction, which is valid (on account of being undeniable) grounds for attraction - but how confused is that at this point? Neither of those "achievements" marks you as especially suitable for mating in today's world, but that doesn't seem to be part of the equation.
Anyways, the point of all this: does it make anyone else incredibly sick to see this sort of thing? I mean I'm a bit of a biological rebel in that I become upset with myself whenever I sense that little FieryTrainwreck (what have you heard?!) is robbing me of vital cognitive assets, and I can appreciate that not everyone is like me. Still, doesn't it just seem tool-ish to be so thoroughly controlled by hormones or an invisible biological imperative? I'm not a woman, last I checked, but were I? I think I'd be steel myself against this sort of attraction. Is that a ridiculous notion?
I worked with a very cute, very cool gal for a couple years. Always had a bit of a crush on her, but so does just about every guy she meets. Out of nowhere, she ends up with our boss. How do I put this tactfully... he's a douche. Says inappropriate shit almost nonstop. Demonstrates very little consideration for others unless it clearly serves his own interests. Even on shallower metrics (appearance, wealth), he measures pretty poorly. Other than her, I can't find anyone who even likes the guy. So how did he end up with this angel?
Now, again at work, we've got a new boss. Don't know him well enough to judge his character accurately at this point, but he comes off pretty lame. Not very smart or interesting, questionable sense of humor, little on the dickish side. He's certainly more likable than my old boss. Still, he's got some really young gal basically slobbering all over him out of, again, seemingly nowhere. She's been working there for a long time and never showed interest in anyone else. Now, a guy her age is in charge and showing interest, and she's smitten?
One more example, and this one is nerdtastic. I used to partake in a certain MMO that shall not be named. The guild had a variety of guys and gals, and one of gals was into the guild master. She was cute and cool, so he went with it. After a time, he decided he was ready to move on from the game and start his life. Thought he would bring her with him, but lo and behold, she didn't like him anymore! Fast forward a bit, and I'm GM. Guess who suddenly likes me a whole lot? Fast forward a lot, I'm leaving the game behind, and I get absolutely demolished as well. The kicker? Near as I can tell, same girl was all over the next GM...
Come to find out about this theory that women are attracted to men at the top of a hierarchy - any hierarchy. You can be the head of a fucking bowling league or the manager of a Taco Bell - and you will be more attractive to women. Apparently it's something to do with fitness for reproduction, which is valid (on account of being undeniable) grounds for attraction - but how confused is that at this point? Neither of those "achievements" marks you as especially suitable for mating in today's world, but that doesn't seem to be part of the equation.
Anyways, the point of all this: does it make anyone else incredibly sick to see this sort of thing? I mean I'm a bit of a biological rebel in that I become upset with myself whenever I sense that little FieryTrainwreck (what have you heard?!) is robbing me of vital cognitive assets, and I can appreciate that not everyone is like me. Still, doesn't it just seem tool-ish to be so thoroughly controlled by hormones or an invisible biological imperative? I'm not a woman, last I checked, but were I? I think I'd be steel myself against this sort of attraction. Is that a ridiculous notion?