Agema said:
Probably because that's not the attitude that they perceive that the people at the top of society have, and not what they've been told themselves for how to get ahead in life.
Often the view is to fight for yourself, graft, hustle, etc. and make sure you win. In short, to compete. Naturally, some people will be inclined to compete by hurting the opposition, not just by improving their own personal achievement.
I don't know ... the greatest 'common' idea of successful I ever was was making the right friends at the right time (and luck of meeting them, I suppose). Being a total prick to them when I met them probably would have meant I'd still need to work for a living. I would have lost about half or two-thirds of my accrued wealth in 2008/9 with the mining boom end. Rather, instead I kept the grand majority of my wealth, bought back in half a year later and ended up with twice as much stock that has netted me collectively a pretty healthy div yield over time on top of a general increase in total value.
Human success, collectively, is built on mutual aid, trust, and collective knowledge 'banking'. That friend of mine who I went out on a limb and trusted his advice ... well he's my stock broker now, and we've enjoyed both a social and commercial relationship where he routinely invites meto his place for dinner and to meet his family, and over all it'sactually quite a lovely friendship that has been only broken up by various movements of mine in the past.
People who teach their kids basically any take on 'pull yourself up by your bootstraps' is ultimately teaching their kids to simply fail.
You should teach your kids to get three or four friends together, and build a great ladder to share. I'm willing to bet you that they will do better in most aspects of life.
Nobody is an island.
Good study groups improve grades.
Extroverts statistically are happier than introverts.
Positive human relationships are a powerful thing. Precisely because we're gregarious creatures, and millions of us can share what is in total only a few hundred sq. kilometres of space, and together wecan build magnificent structures of civilization to educate, entertain, inspire, and embolden.
Teaching kids to merely 'compete' is ignoring the wonders of what we've built.
In a lot of ways it's self-destructive. You know the prepper movement? Each one of them telling you not to trust anyone, keepyour wits about you, people can turn on you inseconds ....
It's all pap. You want to know the people that most commonly survive disasters and hardships? The people that make good friends. The people that build trust. Leaders, and good communicators, mediators and organizers, and people that bring specialized skills mixing in with people that bring other skill sets they lack. People that can silence disputes and bring about decisive conflict resolution.
Symbiotic relationships reinforce the whole.
If you're a good leader, you have an economy on effort and time. If you're a loner, you have none.
Honestly, I think most peopleget that .. if only because it's a bit hard to ignore that society is a thing.
