Would you stay in a relationship with someone you loved if there was going to be no sex, garuanteed?
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If she has a personal reason for it, a legitimate one, then hey, I'm going to support her, not fight against it.
But if God said that it's forbidden and she listens to him...
Well I doubt I'll ever be in a situation where I'm with a girl that refuses intercourse just because God says it's a sin.
But if God said that it's forbidden and she listens to him...
Well I doubt I'll ever be in a situation where I'm with a girl that refuses intercourse just because God says it's a sin.
The thread really should have ended here.Aris Khandr said:
If you love someone, it shouldn't matter if you can or can't have sex with them, for whatever reason.
However, I must say that the whole "no sex before marriage" is a bit... odd to me.
Being atheist, I can't bring myself to be with someone who is so heavily set into a concept like that that they wouldn't even want to have sex before marriage out of fear. That person and I probably wouldn't have much in common anyway >.>
However, if I were in a relationship with someone who couldn't (or wouldn't) ever have sex, regardless of marriage, if I love them, why not?
No. I would not stay with someone who believes in abstinence because frankly, sex is an important factor in a relationship with me. I?ve been in plenty of relationships that were awesome until it came to the bedroom. It can be a real deal breaker sometimes. I surely wouldn?t want to find out about the mistake I made on my honeymoon. I just think that a physical relationship is too important too hold off on.
To me, you sound like you?re really young and if so, I can understand your view. When you?re a kid, you?re first always feels like ?the one? and you must do whatever it takes to keep her. But in the grand scheme of things, you probably won?t remember here name in 5-10 years. So you guys get along and you ?love? each other. But what happens when you graduate high school or you go through some social changes. What might work now, might not later on down the road.
I think that at such a young age, we should all have fun and enjoy sex and not get tied down to ridiculous commitments. This is 2011, abstinence is not a bad thing, but it shouldn?t stop you from enjoying your life or experiencing it.
To me, you sound like you?re really young and if so, I can understand your view. When you?re a kid, you?re first always feels like ?the one? and you must do whatever it takes to keep her. But in the grand scheme of things, you probably won?t remember here name in 5-10 years. So you guys get along and you ?love? each other. But what happens when you graduate high school or you go through some social changes. What might work now, might not later on down the road.
I think that at such a young age, we should all have fun and enjoy sex and not get tied down to ridiculous commitments. This is 2011, abstinence is not a bad thing, but it shouldn?t stop you from enjoying your life or experiencing it.
In a "perfect" world I could as long as the person was true to their words and really cared for me.
Realistically though I would have to guarantee that the "no sex til were married" spiel is an absolute bunch of bollocks and they are getting it somewhere else instead. That might just be the cynic talking, but I've known way to many people that pitch that old religious line that could put some of the most accomplished and kinkiest porn stars to shame.
I even knew one woman in college that said that same line all the time to some people (She had 4 kids, never married and would always brag about "sleeping" with a ton of random bikers at different bike events around the state.
Realistically though I would have to guarantee that the "no sex til were married" spiel is an absolute bunch of bollocks and they are getting it somewhere else instead. That might just be the cynic talking, but I've known way to many people that pitch that old religious line that could put some of the most accomplished and kinkiest porn stars to shame.
I even knew one woman in college that said that same line all the time to some people (She had 4 kids, never married and would always brag about "sleeping" with a ton of random bikers at different bike events around the state.
Well I wouldn't be with anyone who was that religious but thats down to my views on religion in general.
It comes down to what you feel. If you like her or him enough without the horizontal tango then go for it. Just so long as both people are ok with it. It could be the cause of a lot of tension otherwise.
And you can find yourselves not connecting when you do have sex eventually. Sex is part of a relationship but how big a part depends on those involved. It can make or break some.
I had a relationship with a woman before and most things went well... until she turned around and wanted certain sex acts which are illegal in almost all places bar a few bacwwater american states... and that was the end of the relationship. If we had waited until marriage to go into that then there would've been a large expense wasted on a marriage and divorce very shortly after...
It comes down to what you feel. If you like her or him enough without the horizontal tango then go for it. Just so long as both people are ok with it. It could be the cause of a lot of tension otherwise.
And you can find yourselves not connecting when you do have sex eventually. Sex is part of a relationship but how big a part depends on those involved. It can make or break some.
I had a relationship with a woman before and most things went well... until she turned around and wanted certain sex acts which are illegal in almost all places bar a few bacwwater american states... and that was the end of the relationship. If we had waited until marriage to go into that then there would've been a large expense wasted on a marriage and divorce very shortly after...
I'd have to say that you get to know someone quite a bit with sex. And me and my girlfriend text or talk ABOUT sex 80% of the time. Just stating it's importance for intimacy.
Also yeah those Pony avatars can someone explain?
[/quote] Also, what's with all the My Little Pony avatars around recently?[/quote]
Also yeah those Pony avatars can someone explain?
[/quote] Also, what's with all the My Little Pony avatars around recently?[/quote]
Well... I'll never really have this exact problem (being a lesbian is a sin anyway) but honestly I would wait if I really loved them.Everin said:So, I've been going out with this great girl for a while and we've been spending a lot of time together and all that and we're pretty sure we're in love (i say pretty sure because nothings really taken for granted in my world) and we kiss and all that, but she's Christian and believes that pre-marital sex is sin. Now, I'm not here to complain, I'm completely fine with following her views with that, but I wondered, would other people?
If you were deeply in love with a girl/boy and you wanted to take it a step further but they didn't believe in sex before marriage then would you accept that fact or would you not want to be with them anymore? I guess the question, when it boils down, is:
WOULD YOU BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE IF THERE WAS NO SEX UNTIL YOU WERE MARRIED, GARUANTEED?
Edit: I'm fine with waiting until after marriage to sleep together. In fact, I don't think the relationship needs sex, I think it would be a nice something on the side, cause that's not what I'm in it for. That's my answer
Saying that I think that having sex is an important part of a healthy and intimate relationship so I would need to know that we would have sex eventually. And she'd need to make it worth my wait
With the girl i'm with now? Definitely.
As long as it's not because she's religious (which she's not)
As long as it's not because she's religious (which she's not)
If her reason for not wanting to have sex before marriage is due to some religious reason, then as an atheist I doubt I would have fallen hopelessly in love with her in the first place, so your question is invalid.
If it is for some personal reason, then yeah, definitely, I'd still stay in the relationship. If I honestly loved her, then our relationship would be a lot more important to me than any physical activity could possibly be.
If it is for some personal reason, then yeah, definitely, I'd still stay in the relationship. If I honestly loved her, then our relationship would be a lot more important to me than any physical activity could possibly be.
