You should try internet dating?

[crimsonshrouds]

Yea... my mom suggested this to me earlier.

The last girl i liked decided to lash out at me via text message because she couldnt control her emotions when her father had major health problems and i didnt know why till over a week later. That whole relationship has taxed me to the point of hating people at the moment...

Whats your thoughts on internet dating? I wont personally do it because the internet is not a place i trust to find relationship prospects especially after my last two relationships.

 

[Thaluikhain]

In my experience people say "Have you tried internet dating?" when they can't think of any useful advice to give you.

 

[Flailing Escapist]

They are ALL dudes, man.

 

[LiberalSquirrel]

First of all...

The last girl i liked decided to lash out at me via text message because she couldnt control her emotions when her father had major health problems and i didnt know why till over a week later.

That is why I turned down the two guys who asked me out just before my father passed away.

But is it you that doesn't want to get into a relationship because she lashed out at you, or her? Because as long as she admits that she was feeling emotional and not herself, I don't see the problem with pursuing a relationship with her.

Anyways, I'll get to the topic, I suppose. I am extremely distrustful of online dating. It's way too easy to say you're someone that you're not.

 

[Hazy]

Internet dating:
All the thrill and excitement of never actually feeling another person save for their text, always keeping the thought in the back of your mind that it's a charade and that the person is, most likely, a man...

...baby.​

 

[TakeyB0y2]

Well, for starters you really do need to be careful. Just recently in my city, a man hooked up with a girl online, and he got in to her truck, only to find another man in the back seat with a shotgun. They robbed him and dumped him in front of the hospital with a severe gun wound, but apparently he's recovering and he'll be okay.

So, yeah... Just make extra sure you know what you're getting into when meeting up someone you met online.

 

[crimsonshrouds]

First of all...

The last girl i liked decided to lash out at me via text message because she couldnt control her emotions when her father had major health problems and i didnt know why till over a week later.

That is why I turned down the two guys who asked me out just before my father passed away.

But is it you that doesn't want to get into a relationship because she lashed out at you, or her? Because as long as she admits that she was feeling emotional and not herself, I don't see the problem with pursuing a relationship with her.

Anyways, I'll get to the topic, I suppose. I am extremely distrustful of online dating. It's way too easy to say you're someone that you're not.

Please read the whole thing and not make assumptions. I didnt find out why she lashed out until a week later BECAUSE she wouldnt tell me what was going on and this is after we started trying to get back together. We had been dating but SHE wouldnt even tell me her thoughts. We had good times but she would close up and become distant with me which would lead to arguements and problems.

I wanted a relationship but she was too afraid after her previous relationships and i was being judged on past morons and never given a chance. I have been patient and tried for over 3 months now and we are still having the same problems from the begining and im about sick of the baggage because im STILL BEING JUDGED and she wont give me the benefit of the doubt and some trust.

 

[LiberalSquirrel]

First of all...

The last girl i liked decided to lash out at me via text message because she couldnt control her emotions when her father had major health problems and i didnt know why till over a week later.

That is why I turned down the two guys who asked me out just before my father passed away.

But is it you that doesn't want to get into a relationship because she lashed out at you, or her? Because as long as she admits that she was feeling emotional and not herself, I don't see the problem with pursuing a relationship with her.

Anyways, I'll get to the topic, I suppose. I am extremely distrustful of online dating. It's way too easy to say you're someone that you're not.

Please read the whole thing and not make assumptions. I didnt find out why she lashed out until a week later BECAUSE she wouldnt tell me what was going on and this is after we started trying to get back together. We had been dating but SHE wouldnt even tell me her thoughts. We had good times but she would close up and become distant with me which would lead to arguements and problems.

I wanted a relationship but she was too afraid after her previous relationships and i was being judged on past morons and never given a chance. I have been patient and tried for over 3 months now and we are still having the same problems from the begining and im about sick of the baggage because im STILL BEING JUDGED and she wont give me the benefit of the doubt and some trust.

Woah there. I wasn't making any commentary on any of that, and I did read the whole of your first post. And I certainly wasn't trying to make assumptions. I started out with a commentary on my own life- to make it clear that I would know where she was coming from- and then asked a simple question. If I worded it in a way that makes you think that I was jumping to conclusions about anything, I apologize. But when you explain a specific story, and then promptly say that the relationship has taxed you, I usually find that means that the previously mentioned story is the impetus for the stress. It'd be like me saying, "My cat just died. My life is really stressful right now..." (Note: my cat has not died, this is a fictional example.) No one would think that I had some other stress in my life; they would think that my life is stressful because my cat has just died.

That being said, I apologize for your relationship trouble, and hope things get better for you, whether with this girl or someone else.

 

[Mallefunction]

I've tried it...honestly, I mostly got hit on by guys ten years my senior. Not my cup of tea.

 

[Saelune]

I've only dated online. Im kinda a self conscious recluse so...
Its good if you want to find people based on who they are, but distance is a *****, especcially when they are significantly far away. That is the primary reason why all mine have failed.

 

[Samurai Goomba]

The short of internet dating is that women on there (real women, not porn site phishers, nigerian scammers and men pretending to be women) get slammed by tons of emails, and statistically-speaking, it is hard for a man to meet a woman.

Also, DO NOT PAY for dating sites. There's no reason to, unless you feel like you're looking for commitment and are convinced you can't find a good person in your area.

Plentyoffish is about the only legit, totally free dating site around. Most of the people are real people, but again the issue is that women get at least 10x the emails of men, most of which are obscene offers for sex which tend to make the women jaded against real emails.

I think it's easier to meet a good person in real life. That's how I met the girl I'm dating now, and I honestly think it's easier than online dating.

I wouldn't suggest online dating except as a (sometimes fun, admittedly) time-waster.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

Anyways, I'll get to the topic, I suppose. I am extremely distrustful of online dating. It's way too easy to say you're someone that you're not.

It's just as easy to do that in real life, though. Moreso, even. You're more likely to trust someone who is standing right in front of you.
People lie. The internet isn't special with that.

Someone is going to call me emo again, aren't they.

 

[crimsonshrouds]

First of all...

The last girl i liked decided to lash out at me via text message because she couldnt control her emotions when her father had major health problems and i didnt know why till over a week later.

That is why I turned down the two guys who asked me out just before my father passed away.

But is it you that doesn't want to get into a relationship because she lashed out at you, or her? Because as long as she admits that she was feeling emotional and not herself, I don't see the problem with pursuing a relationship with her.

Anyways, I'll get to the topic, I suppose. I am extremely distrustful of online dating. It's way too easy to say you're someone that you're not.

Please read the whole thing and not make assumptions. I didnt find out why she lashed out until a week later BECAUSE she wouldnt tell me what was going on and this is after we started trying to get back together. We had been dating but SHE wouldnt even tell me her thoughts. We had good times but she would close up and become distant with me which would lead to arguements and problems.

I wanted a relationship but she was too afraid after her previous relationships and i was being judged on past morons and never given a chance. I have been patient and tried for over 3 months now and we are still having the same problems from the begining and im about sick of the baggage because im STILL BEING JUDGED and she wont give me the benefit of the doubt and some trust.

Woah there. I wasn't making any commentary on any of that, and I did read the whole of your first post. And I certainly wasn't trying to make assumptions. I started out with a commentary on my own life- to make it clear that I would know where she was coming from- and then asked a simple question. If I worded it in a way that makes you think that I was jumping to conclusions about anything, I apologize. But when you explain a specific story, and then promptly say that the relationship has taxed you, I usually find that means that the previously mentioned story is the impetus for the stress. It'd be like me saying, "My cat just died. My life is really stressful right now..." (Note: my cat has not died, this is a fictional example.) No one would think that I had some other stress in my life; they would think that my life is stressful because my cat has just died.

That being said, I apologize for your relationship trouble, and hope things get better for you, whether with this girl or someone else.

Sorry im just tired of being judged by others based on relationships with morons who dont care. I care but when im not even trusted enough to be told whats going on and just getting lashed at... Yea im tired of it. Im tired of distant people.

 

[LiberalSquirrel]

Anyways, I'll get to the topic, I suppose. I am extremely distrustful of online dating. It's way too easy to say you're someone that you're not.

It's just as easy to do that in real life, though. Moreso, even. You're more likely to trust someone who is standing right in front of you.
People lie. The internet isn't special with that.

Someone is going to call me emo again, aren't they.

True enough, but I can at least know that the cute 21-year-old guy I meet in real life is actually a cute 21-year-old guy, and not, say, a 55-year-old guy.

Possibility of being called emo: 50%. I'm expecting that you'll get some agreements, though.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

True enough, but I can at least know that the cute 21-year-old guy I meet in real life is actually a cute 21-year-old guy, and not, say, a 55-year-old guy.

Possibility of being called emo: 50%. I'm expecting that you'll get some agreements, though.

I expected you meant something like that.

I don't know, at least when Studly McHunkrump turns out to be a saggy old guy, you can tell he is dishonest. It's pretty easy to just walk the fuck away after that.
In real life you have to wait for some sort of bullshit to go down. Let's say a betrayal or something, get this emo train fully rolling. Then instead of just "WHOOPS fuck that guy" you gotta deal with all of these feelings because you are a little sissy girl inside.

But I suppose that could still happen if Studly turns out to be studly. So whatever, I guess.

 

[crudus]

I know a few people who have been married whether they met through a dating site or just online. They seem happy. I don't know if they are the majority or minority.

I've tried it...honestly, I mostly got hit on by guys ten years my senior. Not my cup of tea.

Well, you just described my personal life. I am sad on the inside now :'(

 

[Zaik]

lol

I tried it twice.

#1 decided she'd move into my apartment while i was at work when we'd been dating like a month. That ended pretty fast.

#2 pretty much just used me for an emotional punching bag because everyone else had sense enough to stay away from her.

I certainly don't recommend that to anyone I don't actively want harm to come to.

 

[The Reverend]

Try it. You never know, the girl of your dreams could be out there on an online dating service. They are pretty popular these days, more than most people think.
But beware the G.I.R.L's! (Guys in real life)

 

[Wertbag]

I have two friends who have married girls they met online, and I'm now living with my long term girlfriend who I met online. It certainly can work, and at least online you can trim out the basic information (area, age, race, religion etc) and find someone with similar hobbies, likes and dislikes. You get very little chance to do those kinds of things in a bar, usually its just purely based on lust.
Meeting someone who you've only talked to online is as safe as you make it. As long as you follow the basic common sense safety rules then you will be fine. Hell of a lot safer than going anywhere with someone you met at a bar!