Actually, that's a good point, my mother doesn't hesitate to tell me I was an accident, as was my brother, doesn't bother me none, why should it?
"You were an accident!" .. so what?
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Yeah and if you tell kids that Santa doesn't exist and that you ran over their puppy and that you hope they die in a fire it doesn't matter because words meaning nothing!
Telling your kid that they exist for no reason and were something you didn't intend (i.e. accident) is very mean spirited. Under most contexts its going just mess with the kid and parents aren't supposed to be mean to their kids for no reason.
Telling your kid that they exist for no reason and were something you didn't intend (i.e. accident) is very mean spirited. Under most contexts its going just mess with the kid and parents aren't supposed to be mean to their kids for no reason.
The only thing on this issue I'd have a problem with is if my parents weren't married, as then that means I'm a bastard (Yes, I know that's not such a big thing these days but that'd be a sore spot for me). I wasn't planned, however. Mom and dad were just having fun, then mom started getting sick. It's interesting to think about, and in a way I forced them to deal with the end result of sex but it's not a bad thing. I won that swimming race after all, and now I'm here.
I was actually born under the same circumstances. They where young, weren't ready, they got married before I was born, and told me while I might have been an accident that given the opportunity they wouldn't have changed me being born.
My parents joke that they remember how many years they've been married by taking my age and adding 1.
My parents joke that they remember how many years they've been married by taking my age and adding 1.
I was accident and I have never met my real Father. Hell the last time I saw my Mother I got in a huge fight and haven't spoken to her since. Do I feel upset and angry? Hell no. That's life. Shit happens.
I'm just grateful I have Grandparents who love me enough to put up with my shit. :3
I'm just grateful I have Grandparents who love me enough to put up with my shit. :3
I am not realy supose to live. My parents told me that the doctor told my mom she could never have kids. And then she had me and my sister so i guess we are accidents. And i thought it was cool when they told me that.
i don't get all the drama when someone learns that they are accidents. Nor do i understand why parents are afraid to tell their kids that they are adopted. I got two brothers that's adopted and i don't see why it is a mortal sin.
i don't get all the drama when someone learns that they are accidents. Nor do i understand why parents are afraid to tell their kids that they are adopted. I got two brothers that's adopted and i don't see why it is a mortal sin.
I never got the point of getting worked up over it either. I was born (born, not conceived) a year before my parents were married and since they're both Christians and whatnot you can bet that I wasn't planned. I don't care much, it doesn't change what I've accomplished in my life nor what they've done for me.
As for me ruining their lives... Yeah, I guess I did. They both had to drop out of college, and My Dad's been stuck working for the same company in roughly the same position for 20 years. But that's not my fault. They shoulda been a bit more careful.
In the meantime, I'll just go to college and make sure I wait a while before having kids.
As for me ruining their lives... Yeah, I guess I did. They both had to drop out of college, and My Dad's been stuck working for the same company in roughly the same position for 20 years. But that's not my fault. They shoulda been a bit more careful.
In the meantime, I'll just go to college and make sure I wait a while before having kids.
I was an 'accident' being the secret twin brother to my sister, I was all stealthy unechoable. A ninja before leaving the uterus.
But more ontopic, I don't even know what people mean by accident, you can be called that when people aren't married but just living together, as planned as you may be. So I just facepalm away when someone says anything alike.
But more ontopic, I don't even know what people mean by accident, you can be called that when people aren't married but just living together, as planned as you may be. So I just facepalm away when someone says anything alike.
I don't think the "you were an accident" thing is really an issue, at least not from what I see. It's the "You were an accident and we didn't want you" that is really troubling.
Seriously, I have a friend who was an accident to her parents. I found this out one night while sleeping over (I was like...13...and still had slumber parties) and her mom, for some reason, mentioned that. And then, many years down the road after she moved out of state and began having parent issues, my friend says that her mom told her she was a mistake and they didn't want her. Basically, they wish she hadn't been born, but they were God-fearing Christians who felt abortion for any reason is wrong, so they kept the baby.
Personally, if I felt like that, I would give the baby up. Much better to be in a home that loves you and wants you than one who has parents willing to tell you they don't want you.
(A year or two later, things escalated and my friend left)
But as for "oops, you were an accident" alone...I don't think it should be that big of a deal really, though if I were a parent, I might temper it with "but it was a good one," or something like that. And if it wasn't, I wouldn't have the kid anymore.
Seriously, I have a friend who was an accident to her parents. I found this out one night while sleeping over (I was like...13...and still had slumber parties) and her mom, for some reason, mentioned that. And then, many years down the road after she moved out of state and began having parent issues, my friend says that her mom told her she was a mistake and they didn't want her. Basically, they wish she hadn't been born, but they were God-fearing Christians who felt abortion for any reason is wrong, so they kept the baby.
Personally, if I felt like that, I would give the baby up. Much better to be in a home that loves you and wants you than one who has parents willing to tell you they don't want you.
(A year or two later, things escalated and my friend left)
But as for "oops, you were an accident" alone...I don't think it should be that big of a deal really, though if I were a parent, I might temper it with "but it was a good one," or something like that. And if it wasn't, I wouldn't have the kid anymore.
I know I wasn't planned, neither were my brother or sister.
A few pints, a curry, an early night and 9 months later here I was.
Personally I couldn't give a crap that I wasn't exactly wanted. My parents tried their hardest when I was born and I couldn't ask for any more.
My childhood was shit but it wasn't their fault it was the 80's recession and people were just poor. Nothing much anyone could have done.
A few pints, a curry, an early night and 9 months later here I was.
Personally I couldn't give a crap that I wasn't exactly wanted. My parents tried their hardest when I was born and I couldn't ask for any more.
My childhood was shit but it wasn't their fault it was the 80's recession and people were just poor. Nothing much anyone could have done.
I was born in September therefore i AM an accident, so is everyone is September, think about it 9 months before, it was New Year and Xmas, your parents were either doing it because they where cold or drunk its the only logical answer.
The Doctor: They're just children, they can't help where they came from.
The circumstances surrounding your birth are not important just like it isn't a big deal if you are adopted.
The circumstances surrounding your birth are not important just like it isn't a big deal if you are adopted.