Since biologically the purpose of sex is for procreation, anyone who considers their children "accidents" are idiots, IMHO. I went into my first sexual experience knowing that I could get her pregnant. Had I impregnated her, and our child asked: I would NEVER say you're an "accident".
"You were an accident!" .. so what?
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Yeah, it is ridiculous. Why doesn't anyone in those situations say "If I was such an accident, then why didn't you get an abortion?" There's no such thing as an "accidental" child anymore, at least not in this country. It's not that expensive or difficult to get an abortion. If you have a baby, it's because the mother intended to do so.
I don't think it applies as much as it used to, seeing as there are tonnes of kids being born out of wedlock now; it's not taboo anymore. Definitely an old insult.
My response if someone had been mean enough to throw that at me (if it were true): "Oh... thanks for the free ride to college, then
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My response if someone had been mean enough to throw that at me (if it were true): "Oh... thanks for the free ride to college, then
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I'm the third child born of six kids in U.S. We used to joke when we were younger yelling at each other "you're an accident". Then my mom would settle things, "shut up! you were ALL accidents". It never hurt or appalled us, it's just how things are. Look at nature, having offspring isn't supposed to be about planning, you screw someone of the opposite gender and new life gets made. It's random. If you get upset when you find out you weren't "planned" then **** off. Look into the reproductive cycle, you can't plan shit.
agreed. in no way could that video have been more of a joke than it already was, yet there is always that person who ceases to amaze me when it comes to having a sense of humor..Cheshire the Cat said:
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i was 100% without a doubt an accident, considering i don't even know the name of my real father
do i give two shits about that? nope. i was raised just fine and if someone tries to call me an accident as an insult i usually laugh at how pathetic that was or just dont care.
i can see if there was a HUGE divorce between parents and the kid ended up taking alot of the blows for it, then yeah, that might suck to be the "accident", but otherwise i see no problem with it..
I definatly wasen't planned and neither were my brother or sister, my mother had her tubes tied after me, since my dad was 27 when I was born and you have to be 30 or over to have the snip, so they couldn't have more kids. My parents defernatly weren't prepared for us, neither did they get along, but I always make jokes that if they had 3 kids, and made sure they couldn't have any more, they must have been getting along alright at some point.
Also I pissed off my manager, when I was still worked for HMRC, after she told us she was pregnant, and it was an accident, by saying 'If you don't want it, there are some stairs over there I'm sure you could 'accidently' fall down.' Thankfully she laughed and understood that it was a stupid joke, I think by then everyone was used to the really stupid things I used to say.
Also I pissed off my manager, when I was still worked for HMRC, after she told us she was pregnant, and it was an accident, by saying 'If you don't want it, there are some stairs over there I'm sure you could 'accidently' fall down.' Thankfully she laughed and understood that it was a stupid joke, I think by then everyone was used to the really stupid things I used to say.
Not only was I an accident, I was conceived while my mom was taking birth control pills.
Kinda happy to be here, actually.
Kinda happy to be here, actually.
My little guy was a surprise to my wife and I (birth control does not always work, folks!), but he's the cutest surprise ever and I wouldn't trade him for anything.
I think the idea is "you were never wanted". But hey, why didn't they abort, or put you up for adoption? Anyway, I always respond with "well actually, my mother had to have my fathers sperm injected into her because my father has what is referred to as lazy sperm. My parents paid money to have me, how much did they pay for you?"
My parents arent married and... well, I dont give a fuck. Married or not, we are not religious, and they don't need to be married to know that they want to be with each other, so i'm completely fine with that.But if I found out I was an accident, well, my parents still raised me and cared for me, so I guess I would be fine with that. I don't know if i'm an accident or not, but it wouldn't really matter anyway
Overall this matters very little to me. Was raised well, fed, clothed, given a chance at an education, and I thank them for that. Honestly, I'm almost glad I wasn't planned. That would potentially be awkward if they wanted a girl and got a boy. Might almost make them go back at it to get it right. Now THAT would have made childhood miserable.
Outside of that, this is just mainly used as a joke with my family. Not for me of course. My dad is the mailman!
Outside of that, this is just mainly used as a joke with my family. Not for me of course. My dad is the mailman!
I didnt really have a problem with being an "accident" until my drunken mother let slip one night that she couldnt afford the abortion -_-
My husband's parents moved in together, had a baby, got married, had another baby and went to college, in that order. They are still happily married.
My parents did everything "right", with education first, then careers, then marriage, then a planned pregnancy. Later on they had a divorce.
My husband lovingly says that he was a bastard for the first three weeks of his life, but that I have been a retroactive bastard since I was seven.
My parents did everything "right", with education first, then careers, then marriage, then a planned pregnancy. Later on they had a divorce.
My husband lovingly says that he was a bastard for the first three weeks of his life, but that I have been a retroactive bastard since I was seven.
It could be an American thing, but that would be puzzling because I've never heard [em]anyone[/em] bemoan this fact -- American or otherwise, and I live in America.Hiname said:
I don't know how to answer your questions, because everyone likely has a different reason for their distress in that situation. It probably stems from a broken sense of stability that such news could cause.
The more important thing to note is that currently the trend of unplanned pregnancy doesn't seem to be decreasing; That's disturbing seeing as how in 2002, roughly half of all pregnancies in the United States were unplanned (According to the CDC). It's becoming more and more normal for that to be the case, so in the near future being "accidental" may be an inconsequential aside, if it isn't so already.
TL;DR: I don't know either. It really shouldn't matter to the child how they were born -- It's usually nice to have been born at all.
I was definitely an accident, what with my mom being only 18 years older than me and all.... but I was never angry about it, was just a fact of life for me *shrugs*. The only thing that *may* have bothered me was having to learn the definition of bastard in the 5th grade >.> (got called that one a lot before I figured it out lol)