Your current relationship, be honest, Did you "settle"?

[Snowalker]

I don't mean did you clam down from being wild or being a "bad" person. No, I'm talking about how in Movies and stuff, they paint the picture your perfect companion is out there, and all you have to do is find them. Obviously, reality doesn't always pan out that way. So, did you settle for someone less than perfect, how did it work out? Are you happy anyway? and does your partner know?

I'm currently single, however, in my last relationship I did in-fact settle. I wasn't very happy, and I think the breaking point was when she kinda realized that I had settled for her and knew neither of us would be really happy.

Edit: when I say perfect, I don't mean "No flaws" I mean, so unbelievably amazing, the only logical word is perfect.

 

[Xlr8DETH]

im currently single because i refuse to settle

 

[alittlepepper]

I think my little movie may have actually come true. I'm engaged to a really wonderful person and I am very happy in my relationship.

I do know how much it sucks to "settle" though, so I feel your pain. Chin up though, it'll get better.

 

[Radeonx]

No. My girlfriend is fantastic.

 

[AgentNein]

I've never ever settled, I've got admittedly high (if not weird) standards which to be honest is probably why I'm single right now and have been for like a freakin' year.

But no, settling isn't something I could ever do. I do want to point out however that if a girl doesn't initially attract me, it's entirely possible that after getting to no her she becomes suddenly attractive. But obviously that's not the same as settling.

 

[TheAceTheOne]

I think my little movie may have actually come true. I'm engaged to a really wonderful person and I am very happy in my relationship.

I do know how much it sucks to "settle" though, so I feel your pain. Chin up though, it'll get better.

Seconded on both counts. I have a great story with me and my gf, but I settled with someone who really hurt me before her.

 

[Snowalker]

I think my little movie may have actually come true. I'm engaged to a really wonderful person and I am very happy in my relationship.

I do know how much it sucks to "settle" though, so I feel your pain. Chin up though, it'll get better.

Ah, I'm not really that upset, cause with the way she broke up with me was by far the best break up ever, no head games, just straight honesty. No, I was going through memebase earlier saw some forever alone stuff, and it got me to wondering how many people that are in relationships settled, thought it'd make for a good thread. Thanks for the pick-me-up, anyhow.

 

[Just_A_Glitch]

I'm avoiding settling, due to the fact that the girl is batshit bonkers (and because I continuously hope the girl I like settles for me).

 

[Zac Smith]

I've been with my girlfriend for about 4 and half years now, we are both now 19. I didn't "settle" with her, but I am extremely happy within this relationship. We make each other happy

 

[Dr. Pepper Unlimited]

Settle? Not at all. I'm perfectly content being single, so I opted to wait until the perfect person came along, and she did. It took over four years, but it was worth the wait. We're quite happy together. ^_^

 

[Yureina]

In a sense... everyone sort of "settles" in some way. Some more than others. The question is not so much trying to find absolute perfection, but rather to find someone as close to that as possible. That's what I think, anyway.

As for me... i'd say that i've done pretty good in this regard at the moment. The person who has captured my interest does have a few flaws that sometimes annoy me. He's really worried about offending people (which some might say is a good thing, to care about other's feelings), but that sometimes leads to apologies that are unnecessary or even confusing (what are you apologizing for? ). Also he seems to leave things up to me more than i'd like, rather than going off to do things he wants to do that I could then join in with (though this has been getting better over time). Since both of these pretty much are related to self-esteem issues, my thinking (and hope) is that this will gradually get better over time (and it has, actually).

But... those are just two things. Yes, it gets to me sometimes, but... if one were to ask me if I was "settling", i'd say that I am not. I most certainly am happy with this person, and I think (and hope) that they feel the same way about me. <3

 

[Palademon]

I think I'll have to settle at some point. I'm very specific with standards, and have only been interested in one person my entire life, then decided they weren't good for me.

 

[similar.squirrel]

No. She was out of my league by quite a lot. No idea how I pulled that off. I'm using the past tense because she didn't settle.

 

[Nocta-Aeterna]

HA! There will never be a woman attracted to me, even if I was the last guy on earth!

 

[aegix drakan_v1legacy]

Hmmmmmmm.......................

No, I don't believe I settled when I hooked up with my Girlfriend. In fact, I think I hit the modsbanned LOTTERY. We match each other so well we have to actively HUNT for things we disagree on.

Some other people might think I settled (I know that one of my friends doesn't find her attractive at all for some reason). But really, she's the most awesome, funny, cute, fun and nice person I know. That and she's as nerdy as me. I might know more gaming tropes...but get her going about comic books and anime...and be prepared for a giant waterfall of info. That and she's got an even more varied library of games than me. Her favourite game is the original "american mcgee's Alice" for crying out loud.

So no. I don't think I settled. I think I got freakin lucky. In fact, tomorrow we're going to have been a couple for 5 months. And we are doing just fine.

 

[Dark Sup3rn0va]

Nope. I liked her since the second I saw her. Then a year later, after hooking up with her friend, we started talking and texting constanly and it just grew from there. Our relationship is going on strong now 2 years later and every day it just gets better. So no settling or comprimise for me. Guess I'm one of the lucky ones.

 

[JochemDude]

My girlfriend and I have a open relationship. The last 9 years have proven that we can survive that, so yeah and I get to have sex with however I can and so does she. And we have a great relationship with each other, we live together, we are getting married (doesn't matter when, one day we will) and we are trying for kids. So yeah I settled.

 

[T8B95]

I've learned not to expect perfection out of a relationship, because your standards can very easily change. When you find someone, they're rarely what you were looking for.

Then again, every relationship I've ever been in has either blown up in my face, or left me absolutely emotionally crippled. I may not be the best example.