RandallJohn said:
What has been the dumbest reason you've been given for NOT getting a date/having someone be interested in you?
A little while ago, I found myself interested in a young lady. We flirted a bit back and forth, but after a few months, I was informed that this relationship just wouldn't work out... because I'm black, and she apparently can't stand black people.
She's black.
At first, I was ticked about this, but the situation was just so dumb, I had to find it funny.
From my experience that's actually very common today.
Previously most people lived in racially homogeneous societies and had no choice but to court and mate their own race. However it's now the 21st Century and societies across the globe are multicultural we have more choices.
I commonly hear things like "I can't date another ______ person because they would remind me of my family."
My best friend who is also black has had such an awful relationship with her father that she refuses to date black men.
A more sinister and upsetting trend that has been discussed in classes I attended and given more focus in media is the poor self image that minorities receive. Many people from non-white backgrounds here in the Western world are only dating white or black persons because they receive media focus and are portrayed as attractive, heroic and leaders whereas minorities are often cast to the side and only used in fiction and advertising as side characters, dorks and villains. (This trend normally happens with a minority women and white-black men because ethnic women are often objectified as exotic and desirable.) Women with dark complexion and curly hair spend millions a year on skin lightening solutions and hair straighteners, and East Asian women are more frequently getting plastic surgery to make their epicanthic eyefolds rounder.
